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Old 07-05-2010, 11:50 PM   #211
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Thank You for your thoughts.. He passed away a year ago, so the autopsy was done already.

and Actually, No, I was left with a lot of unanswered questions.

The autopsy report said Accidental Death, caused by Acute Pulmonary Congestion. His lungs filled with liquid and blood and he suffocated.

Problem with that is...... NO other organs were effected, He wasn't sick with a cold, a flu or even a headache.. Nothing.. Toxicology report affirmed No Drugs, No Alcohol, No Chemicals.. Nothing, not even aspirin..
I am so sorry about your son.

Did the autopsy mention an enlarged heart or a condition called cardiomyopathy?
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Old 07-06-2010, 10:58 PM   #212
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I am so sorry about your son.

Did the autopsy mention an enlarged heart or a condition called cardiomyopathy?
No. Only his Lungs were effected
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Old 07-06-2010, 11:08 PM   #213
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Thank you all for sharing your stories and for the kind words and thoughts prayers and blessings.. I really do appreciate each hug, every story and all the kind loving thoughts..

I have good days, bad days and very bad days.. I'm feel very lost and lonely most of the time and even the things I once enjoyed so much are no longer enjoyable because "we" did them as a "family"

Today I went to the monthly support group meeting with compassionate friends and they do truly help. My feelings and thoughts don't seem so crazy and unusual when I am there and I know we all feel comfortable enough to take our masks off and totally be ourselves

I'm hanging in there the best I can, I'm still not divorced, but the paperwork has been started.. I still wish he'd change his mind and want to work us out but no such luck. I know I need to let go, he moved on long ago without me but I just can't seem to get my heart to move on.
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Old 07-07-2010, 01:02 AM   #214
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No. Only his Lungs were effected
Have you tried speaking with a pulmonologist and/or cardiologist to get some idea of what might have happened; why his lungs filled with fluid? If you bring the autopsy report with you, they might be able to see something in there that might help make more sense of it for you. Not trying to belabor the point, just trying to help as I know I would have to have answers.
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Old 07-08-2010, 06:28 AM   #215
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Sometimes even the 'specialists' don't know. You just don't want them to find your case 'interesting'.

DS (now 20) case was. I watched/worried/prayed as a gifted 17-yr old suffered series of catasatrophic illnesses that left him unable to move anything other than facial muscles. I prepared myself to say goodbye at least 3 times.
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Thank you all for sharing your stories and for the kind words and thoughts prayers and blessings.. I really do appreciate each hug, every story and all the kind loving thoughts..

I have good days, bad days and very bad days.. I'm feel very lost and lonely most of the time and even the things I once enjoyed so much are no longer enjoyable because "we" did them as a "family"

Today I went to the monthly support group meeting with compassionate friends and they do truly help. My feelings and thoughts don't seem so crazy and unusual when I am there and I know we all feel comfortable enough to take our masks off and totally be ourselves

I'm hanging in there the best I can, I'm still not divorced, but the paperwork has been started.. I still wish he'd change his mind and want to work us out but no such luck. I know I need to let go, he moved on long ago without me but I just can't seem to get my heart to move on.
Oh sweetie, my heart just breaks for you. To lose a child has to be one of the worst things in life but then to have a husband that does what he did just gets me so angry!! I still can't wrap my mind around why he would do that.

I can imagine you not wanting to let go, or not being ready to let go is perfectly normal. It is going to take time.
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Old 07-09-2010, 02:27 PM   #217
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Thank you all for sharing your stories and for the kind words and thoughts prayers and blessings.. I really do appreciate each hug, every story and all the kind loving thoughts..

I have good days, bad days and very bad days.. I'm feel very lost and lonely most of the time and even the things I once enjoyed so much are no longer enjoyable because "we" did them as a "family"

Today I went to the monthly support group meeting with compassionate friends and they do truly help. My feelings and thoughts don't seem so crazy and unusual when I am there and I know we all feel comfortable enough to take our masks off and totally be ourselves

I'm hanging in there the best I can, I'm still not divorced, but the paperwork has been started.. I still wish he'd change his mind and want to work us out but no such luck. I know I need to let go, he moved on long ago without me but I just can't seem to get my heart to move on.
Hi, so glad you checked in with us. I have been thinking about you!!)
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Old 07-19-2010, 07:15 PM   #218
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I have never posted here before. I never even paid close enough attention to see this thread existed.. I just really needed somewhere to turn. I am having a very hard time trying to be strong for our family and friends.

My Story:

On May 6th, our son, our only child turned 19 years old. On May 13th he passed away and it's been 9 weeks and we still don't know exactly why..

He was an EMT for our hometown and attending college to be a Respiratory Therapist.. He went through 2 years of Vocational School and graduated with High Honors for Medical Assisting.. Graduated HS in 2008...

He spoke to his girlfriend at 11:30am, never said he didn't feel well, no headache, nothing.. He told her he was going to take a shower, and get ready for his last final exam of the semester.. but, When I got home around 1 pm from grocery shopping and errands, he was already gone.. I found him on his bed, unconscious, pale as can be and cold.

I've been to a support group, but it only meets once a month. I've been to 2 so far. It helps, I guess, a little, knowing They know my pain of losing a child.

I cry every day, even though I don't let my husband see me cry, I know he knows I do. He puts up a brave front for me as well. We have cried together maybe 3 times since it happened.

I just miss my son so much and I feel helpless because I can't fix this. I can't take everyone's pain away and make it okay again..

thanks for listening

So sorry for your loss, God bless you and your family. I will say a prayer for your son and your family tonight.
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Old 08-09-2010, 11:46 PM   #219
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Old 08-09-2010, 11:57 PM   #220
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Hi pfishgirl,

Sending you a big hug

Honestly, there are no words that can ease your pain but if you feel like chatting we are hear to listen.

So sorry that you have had to live through every parent's worse nightmare.

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Old 09-20-2010, 11:47 PM   #221
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My son passed away July 1,2010.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know some of your pain. I also cry many times everyday. I miss my Son everytime i see something on tv he would like to have watched,go to the grocery store,gas station, breath air.

I had 5 months "notice" but it was still devestating!!!!!!!
I saw this movie a few days ago it was about ghosts who live in this house and one ghost is interviewing another ghost, he asks him what hell is and the ghost says it must be like losing a loved one before their time and having to live with that grief the rest of your life.
We must both be in hell. hugs.
My Dr. gave me a perscription for Xanax (sp?)
I am thinking you might need to talk to your Dr. and see if he/she thinks you might benifit from a perscription.
I also try to do things I know my Son would want me to do:
Love my kittens,they loved him and he would pet them for hours
I have a big junk room and he joked about me only having till December to clean it out or he would get the bulldozer
He would feed the birds on our front porch and sit and watch them,so now i do this

Just think of things your son and you used to do and go do it, know he is watching you and is pleased.
I know your son and mine would want us to not be so miserable. I believe in heaven and I want be able to tell Jonathan about things I had seen or done after he passed away. He really wanted to go to Hawaii but the Drs would not let him go so next year i am going so i can tell him all about it.
Was there some where your son talked about going or wanted to do, maybe you can go or do it so you can tell him about it it and make him so proud of you.
I am sending heart felt hugs and more hugs to you. God Bless us both.
I know what you mean about not being able to fix things or make it better, its just part of being a caring mom and human being. I figure if I can get thru this everyone else is on their own.
I am so sorry to hear your husband is leaving but maybe this will lead to something better for you. Sending prayers and loads of love your way. Hugs
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Old 09-21-2010, 12:46 AM   #222
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My son passed away July 1,2010.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know some of your pain. I also cry many times everyday. I miss my Son everytime i see something on tv he would like to have watched,go to the grocery store,gas station, breath air.

I had 5 months "notice" but it was still devestating!!!!!!!
I saw this movie a few days ago it was about ghosts who live in this house and one ghost is interviewing another ghost, he asks him what hell is and the ghost says it must be like losing a loved one before their time and having to live with that grief the rest of your life.
We must both be in hell. hugs.
My Dr. gave me a perscription for Xanax (sp?)
I am thinking you might need to talk to your Dr. and see if he/she thinks you might benifit from a perscription.
I also try to do things I know my Son would want me to do:
Love my kittens,they loved him and he would pet them for hours
I have a big junk room and he joked about me only having till December to clean it out or he would get the bulldozer
He would feed the birds on our front porch and sit and watch them,so now i do this

Just think of things your son and you used to do and go do it, know he is watching you and is pleased.
I know your son and mine would want us to not be so miserable. I believe in heaven and I want be able to tell Jonathan about things I had seen or done after he passed away. He really wanted to go to Hawaii but the Drs would not let him go so next year i am going so i can tell him all about it.
Was there some where your son talked about going or wanted to do, maybe you can go or do it so you can tell him about it it and make him so proud of you.
I am sending heart felt hugs and more hugs to you. God Bless us both.
I know what you mean about not being able to fix things or make it better, its just part of being a caring mom and human being. I figure if I can get thru this everyone else is on their own.
I am so sorry to hear your husband is leaving but maybe this will lead to something better for you. Sending prayers and loads of love your way. Hugs
I am so sorry for your loss. Yours is a lot fresher then mine but the pain is still very real. Thank You for sharing your story

I have some good days, bad days and really bad days
Lately, Ive been having really bad days and cant seem to get over the hump but Im still here and trying day by day
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Old 09-21-2010, 12:55 AM   #223
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I have had about 4 or 5 really bad days. I was in Sam's today crying my eyes out, it was just the best i could do.
I see you can't sleep either. I hate this cause tom. i will be exausted and have big puffy eyes.
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Old 09-21-2010, 01:58 PM   #224
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I have had about 4 or 5 really bad days. I was in Sam's today crying my eyes out, it was just the best i could do.
I see you can't sleep either. I hate this cause tom. i will be exausted and have big puffy eyes.
Yes, I have had many of those days. Waking up all puffy and no sleep the night before
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My son passed away July 1,2010.

I am so sorry for your loss. I know some of your pain. I also cry many times everyday. I miss my Son everytime i see something on tv he would like to have watched,go to the grocery store,gas station, breath air.

I had 5 months "notice" but it was still devestating!!!!!!!
I saw this movie a few days ago it was about ghosts who live in this house and one ghost is interviewing another ghost, he asks him what hell is and the ghost says it must be like losing a loved one before their time and having to live with that grief the rest of your life.
We must both be in hell. hugs.
My Dr. gave me a perscription for Xanax (sp?)
I am thinking you might need to talk to your Dr. and see if he/she thinks you might benifit from a perscription.
I also try to do things I know my Son would want me to do:
Love my kittens,they loved him and he would pet them for hours
I have a big junk room and he joked about me only having till December to clean it out or he would get the bulldozer
He would feed the birds on our front porch and sit and watch them,so now i do this

Just think of things your son and you used to do and go do it, know he is watching you and is pleased.
I know your son and mine would want us to not be so miserable. I believe in heaven and I want be able to tell Jonathan about things I had seen or done after he passed away. He really wanted to go to Hawaii but the Drs would not let him go so next year i am going so i can tell him all about it.
Was there some where your son talked about going or wanted to do, maybe you can go or do it so you can tell him about it it and make him so proud of you.
I am sending heart felt hugs and more hugs to you. God Bless us both.
I know what you mean about not being able to fix things or make it better, its just part of being a caring mom and human being. I figure if I can get thru this everyone else is on their own.
I am so sorry to hear your husband is leaving but maybe this will lead to something better for you. Sending prayers and loads of love your way. Hugs
I am so sorry for your loss.

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I have some good days, bad days and really bad days
Lately, Ive been having really bad days and cant seem to get over the hump but Im still here and trying day by day
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