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Old 03-11-2009, 07:35 PM   #46
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DP was "supposed" to the one to carry our children. It took her several years to let go for me to carry (I never planned on it). I've said before and I'll say again, I may be the bio mom but she's the "real" mom. I love my children to death. But she is "mommy". She is the one they throw up on, that they run to when their scared, that goes to all of their appointments, that knows which specialist said what about which child and when. (Don't get me wrong, I do a lot with my kids, but there's something about "mommy")

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Old 03-12-2009, 02:42 AM   #48
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Exactly how many lurkers do we have?!?!?!?

Seriously, all you lurkers should POST more! We won't bite!


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As for worrying you won't be funny or witty enough..Rob is pretty banal but we love him anyway...
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Yes, as Rosie said we would love to have you all stick around and post.
See--this (and the banter ) is why I like to hang out over here lurking

I do have to add a totally unrelated side note to Scott: I sooo enjoyed reading about all the planning, etc. going into your wedding. I didn't have the time to follow the thread always, but got lots of lovely bits and pieces. It was so much fun and I felt like I knew you guys by the time it rolled around. We were at WDW the week before and, of course, had to fit in lots of visits to Adventurers Club while we could. I toyed with the idea of leaving a card there with a CM for you to let you know how much I enjoyed your posts and wish you and ROb all the best but figured I would come off as a crazy stalker chick if I did! So I am telling you now.
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Old 03-12-2009, 06:44 AM   #49
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Wow, how did I miss this thread before now? Oh, yeah, work and two little boys!!

I can SO relate to your struggle! I had a similar struggle about 10 years ago, and I completely "get" your feelings of inadequacy and failure, as well as the weirdness of the choices facing you. My infertility was unexplained. Lots of probing and scanning and blood tests never revealed a reason for my continued infertility. I took hormones and produced scads of eggs. (ex)DH's sperm was given a bath and dressed really nicely before sending them off via IUI to meet all of my very interested and happy eggs. They never hit it off.

Then came the decision you're facing. My insurance didn't cover IVF, but I could afford to pursue it. My state of mind at this point was pretty low. No one but another woman in the same situation can understand the devastation you're experiencing .... month after month of "maybe *this* month was The Month" followed by the inevitable let-down. I thought I was going to lose my mind. I couldn't leave my house without facing pregnant women in SCADS! It seemed everyone but me was able to conceive.

I REALLY wanted to be pregnant. I REALLY wanted a baby. Which did I want more? A baby. My decision ultimately came down to which decision would lead to a baby with the most precision -- and that was through adoption. I knew only too well that IVF is not a sure thing. And it isn't without cost -- and I don't mean financial cost. The hormone regimen is GRUELING. We're talking daily needles for a long time. And those aren't "nice" hormones. They take a toll on you. Then, you're facing yet another "maybe *this* month will be The Month" moment that could very well end with another NOPE.

I was relieved to close that chapter of my life and open the chapter that would lead me to the two little boys I was meant to have. And let me tell you -- if there is any doubt in your mind that you could love a child given to you through adoption as opposed to given to you through conception -- put them to rest. I bonded with my boys immediately -- in fact, it's safe to say I bonded with them before they were born. It's just as much a miracle as carrying and birthing them yourself -- perhaps more so. And miracles are always difficult to articulate, so I'll stop here on that one. Although I'd be glad to pontificate some more via PM if you're willing to listen.

I have two boys, one white, one black. I LOVE having a colorful family! I tell my boys that we're VERY lucky that God built our family through adoption cuz now we have more than one color in our family. Not like those biological-only families who are stuck with one, boring color.

Best to you as you tackle this decision, Jenn. No matter what you decide, I know you'll be fine.
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Old 03-12-2009, 07:16 AM   #50
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See--this (and the banter ) is why I like to hang out over here lurking

I do have to add a totally unrelated side note to Scott: I sooo enjoyed reading about all the planning, etc. going into your wedding. I didn't have the time to follow the thread always, but got lots of lovely bits and pieces. It was so much fun and I felt like I knew you guys by the time it rolled around. We were at WDW the week before and, of course, had to fit in lots of visits to Adventurers Club while we could. I toyed with the idea of leaving a card there with a CM for you to let you know how much I enjoyed your posts and wish you and ROb all the best but figured I would come off as a crazy stalker chick if I did! So I am telling you now.
Um. . . I THINK you mean me, but I'm Rob. But I do frequently get called Scott. Scott's fairly new to the DIS and wasn't posting before the wedding. But we BOTH appreciate the sentiment.

So, thank you for the warm wishes. If you were at the club the week before it closed, I'm surprised you didn't see us. We were there as much as we could be for that last few weeks. And trust me, in light of the wedding crashers, a card left at the club wouldn't have seemed too terrible at all!
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Old 03-12-2009, 07:31 AM   #51
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Um. . . I THINK you mean me, but I'm Rob. But I do frequently get called Scott. Scott's fairly new to the DIS and wasn't posting before the wedding. But we BOTH appreciate the sentiment.

So, thank you for the warm wishes. If you were at the club the week before it closed, I'm surprised you didn't see us. We were there as much as we could be for that last few weeks. And trust me, in light of the wedding crashers, a card left at the club wouldn't have seemed too terrible at all!
Yes Rob, I do mean you Sorry 'bout that. I was actually wondering as I typed that if I had the right name or the wrong one I went back through the thread--but of coruse you didn't bother to put your name on any of the posts! Pathetic given that I was saying I ahd read so many posts I felt like I know you! I recognize you by your signature though.
We were at the club either Monday and Wednesday or Tuesday and Thursday that week--can't remember which. I was too busy soaking in atmospehere and making sure I didn't lose Rio (my then 9 year old) in the crowd to look for anybody else--and we left by midnight (not night owls) so depending on your timing may have missed you all together. It would have been nice to meet you though If you saw a family leaving the library on Wednesday or Thursday with a little boy with tears streaming down his face who burst into full blown sobs and choked out "They're closing here and I love it and I will never be here again." when the kind CM asked what was wrong, that was us. I gathered the CM had not encoutered many 9 year olds who were devistated over the closing of AC

Wedding crashers??!!??!! Okay, I did not read anything post wedding (was on the MAgic nad then catching up on real life after the vacation). Sounds, um, interesting. . .
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Old 03-12-2009, 07:39 AM   #53
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When Jenn posted asking guidance about how to go about having her "kid" I really do not think that is what she was talking about
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Yes Rob, I do mean you Sorry 'bout that. I was actually wondering as I typed that if I had the right name or the wrong one I went back through the thread--but of coruse you didn't bother to put your name on any of the posts!
We were at the club either Monday and Wednesday or Tuesday and Thursday that week--can't remember which. I was too busy soaking in atmospehere and making sure I didn't lose Rio (my then 9 year old) in the crowd to look for anybody else--and we left by midnight (not night owls) so depending on your timing may have missed you all together. It would have been nice to meet you though If you saw a family leaving the library on Wednesday or Thursday with a little boy with tears streaming down his face who burst into full blown sobs and choked out "They're closing here and I love it and I will never be here again." when the kind CM asked what was wrong, that was us. I gathered the CM had not encoutered many 9 year olds who were devistated over the closing of AC
You'd be surprised. There were a LOT of kids there those last few weeks. One little girl of four who could do the salute and sing the song all by herself. And search youtube for the video of the little boy named Christian dressed as Emil Bleehall helping sing "Don't go in the Lion's Cage Tonight" at the Hoopla. It's a tear-jerker. We probably did see you at some point, but the crowds were SO bad by then, who can really tell?

Funny story about the whole Rob/Scott thing. Once the AC cast members knew us, we'd walk into the Main Salon and they'd say "Look, it's Rob and Scott!" Several months later when we actually met Randy and Jodie (who are among our dearest friends now) they told us that every time that they heard that they would turn to each other and ask "Which one is Robin Scott, and what's the other guy's name?" So we're kind of used it.
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You'd be surprised. There were a LOT of kids there those last few weeks. One little girl of four who could do the salute and sing the song all by herself. And search youtube for the video of the little boy named Christian dressed as Emil Bleehall helping sing "Don't go in the Lion's Cage Tonight" at the Hoopla. It's a tear-jerker. We probably did see you at some point, but the crowds were SO bad by then, who can really tell?

Funny story about the whole Rob/Scott thing. Once the AC cast members knew us, we'd walk into the Main Salon and they'd say "Look, it's Rob and Scott!" Several months later when we actually met Randy and Jodie (who are among our dearest friends now) they told us that every time that they heard that they would turn to each other and ask "Which one is Robin Scott, and what's the other guy's name?" So we're kind of used it.
Cute story about Robin Scott I will have to play on youtube later and look for the adorable kids. Can't now because I ahev to pick my own owns up from school. It is raining--I don't want to go out (I maintian there needs to eb a stomping foot smilie) but it is only their second week of school in Germany and they are not quite up to taking the trams
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I found that video for you. Here it is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aY1zY7FQgIE
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Oh my gosh that is sweet and funny Thanks for that
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Old 03-13-2009, 01:49 PM   #58
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I just want to thank you all for your thoughts, prayers, and wonderful comments.

I really appreciate everyone's stories, they made me realize that I am not alone. This, like so many other things, has a way of making you feel like you are the only one going through it.

I gave everything everybody said alot of thought. I even considered adopting newly realized brothers Mike and Wally. There were alot of pros and cons to that plan, however the kicker was that they each come with husbands and I do not need any additional husbands.

So, I have come up with this so far...

For now, I am sticking with my no-IVF stance. I, of course, retain the right to change my mind. I simply cannot see "wasting" the $500 for a non-guarantee and I looked at some pictures of children waiting to be adopted and I know I have to try that if the IUI's don't work.

I want to thank you all again! You came through in a big way when I needed you!

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I just want to thank you all for your thoughts, prayers, and wonderful comments.

I really appreciate everyone's stories, they made me realize that I am not alone. This, like so many other things, has a way of making you feel like you are the only one going through it.

I gave everything everybody said alot of thought. I even considered adopting newly realized brothers Mike and Wally. There were alot of pros and cons to that plan, however the kicker was that they each come with husbands and I do not need any additional husbands.

So, I have come up with this so far...

For now, I am sticking with my no-IVF stance. I, of course, retain the right to change my mind. I simply cannot see "wasting" the $500 for a non-guarantee and I looked at some pictures of children waiting to be adopted and I know I have to try that if the IUI's don't work.

I want to thank you all again! You came through in a big way when I needed you!

Jenn,

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Jenn--thanks for keeping us updated on where you are in the process--you will be in my thoughts over the comming weeks
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