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View Poll Results: Is it ok for your significant other to look at porn?
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:00 PM   #1
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DH chattin' up women online & REALLY into porn!

My VBF husband was caught flirting with a women on-line. Very flirty! He says he just need someone to talk to. She also found an email they exchanged where he is calling her the B---- word and talking about some personal things about her.

How would you feel if your husband was doing this?

Would it be a bid deal to you?

I would be furious! If he needs someone to talk to he could talk to one of his friends or make an appointment with a councilor. Guess he cant talk to a councilor like his on-line girl.

Later she found out this girl is only 18! Hes like 40ish!

She has caught him looking at porn a lot! Is this exceptable?

She dosent know how big of a deal to make out of this.

Whats you opinion?

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Old 02-08-2009, 01:03 PM   #2
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My husband would need an ambulance right about now.
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:08 PM   #3
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Some of the strongest marriages have flirtatious spouses. The question can only be answered along with this question:

Do you trust your husband?
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:10 PM   #4
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How do you trust after all that? The trust can be gained back? Maybe?

The other big questions I asked her is...Do you love him? Can you forgive him? Will he do it again?



Id also like to know what men would think if there wives were up at night looking at porn and chattin with men? Is it harmless fun?

I dont think so but others might.
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:11 PM   #5
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Some of the strongest marriages have flirtatious spouses. The question can only be answered along with this question:

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I would think this would have been something to break that trust....
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:14 PM   #6
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My husband would need an ambulance right about now.
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Some of the strongest marriages have flirtatious spouses. The question can only be answered along with this question:

Do you trust your husband?
are you serious??

wow...i'm with tekmom
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:16 PM   #7
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I have to agree with this!
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:16 PM   #8
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I would think this would have been something to break that trust....
Wow! All it takes, after years of marriage, is idle conversation with random women in grocery store lines to destroy your trust? Really?
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:21 PM   #9
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No, no, no this wasnt idol converstaion.

This was I want to see your body, ect...
All my wife does it B---- and you know where that realtionship is going.
Talk of using a massager.

this didnt happen in a store. This happened late at night when she was in bed. Hes been staying up late on his pc. She got out of bed and busted him a few times.
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:24 PM   #10
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No, no, no this wasnt idol converstaion.

This was I want to see your body, ect...
All my wife does it B---- and you know where that realtionship is going.
Talk of using a massager.
Wow, that isn't flirting. That is hitting on the women. That is disgusting when coming from any man in a public queue, much less a married man.

If I were in her shoes, I would assume that he has already cheated, and plans to continue...
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:27 PM   #11
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Telling DH not to talk to people online...I wouldn't have a leg to stand on, lol.

If he'd called me a mean name when he was mad, I'd be hurt. But it isn't like I haven't called him a thing or two when I was pissed off.

I just don't know. I don't go prying into his crap, so I'll never find out, either.
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:28 PM   #12
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Some of the strongest marriages have flirtatious spouses. The question can only be answered along with this question:

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Trust, but Verify. Ronald Reagan

All the people I've known with "flirtatious" spouses are now divorced. If you love and honor your spouse you shouldn't be acting toward another in a manner that is supposed to be reserved for your spouse. Period.

In the unlikely event that the flirting doesn't mean anything (why flirt if it doesn't mean anything?) it is still hurtful to your spouse. It is taking something that is supposed to be theirs and giving it to any skank on the street.


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Married 6 years, 2 kids. First it was just the porn, now its an actual women.

With chat on pcs I know men and women are doing this a lot. I think it ruins the relationship and screws up the trust factor!
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:37 PM   #14
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...All the people I've known with "flirtatious" spouses are now divorced. If you love and honor your spouse you shouldn't be acting toward another in a manner that is supposed to be reserved for your spouse. Period.

In the unlikely event that the flirting doesn't mean anything (why flirt if it doesn't mean anything?) it is still hurtful to your spouse. It is taking something that is supposed to be theirs and giving it to any skank on the street.
Sorry, but this is just plain wrong. Almost every study performed shows that flirting (innocent flirting, not the stuff posted here) actually helps relationships.

The best way to hold on to anything worth holding is with an open hand...
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Old 02-08-2009, 01:43 PM   #15
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I can take flirting with the girl at the Alltel counter.

DH is talkative and it just happens sometimes.

But online? Nope. Thats a valid break in trust. He has to get online, seek out this person to have this "relationship" and that would be it for me.

Like a PP said, though... I wouldn't find out most likely. I pretty much always know what DH is doing (Online right now, working on schoolwork) but I don't know that that is it and can't figure out how it would be any of my business.
Especially since I'm doing homework too. And here I am on the DIS!
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