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Old 04-20-2010, 11:38 PM   #331
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I would recommend to keep doing what you're doing! Sounds like you have a plan. Don't leave your job right now. It's good that you're thinking about what you want. I need to figure out what I want and what I can do.
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Old 04-29-2010, 10:27 PM   #332
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I've started asking myself lately if I should try to get back in to the dating game. It would be nice to start dating and hopefully find a bf. But I question if it's worth the bother. I'm also not sure the best way to go about it. I'm shy and a homebody. So it's hard to meet people when you don't leave your room (or my "cave" as my family calls it). I used to use chat rooms and sites but I'm not even sure which ones are popular anymore. I had tried Adam4Adam but it seems like it's more of a hookup site. It's also full of profile pictures of hot torsos, and I definitely don't have one of those. I'm just afraid of how it will go trying to get back into dating. For a while I've been what I describe as alone but content. I've found in the past when I start looking then I end up feeling alone and lonely. So I'm not sure it's worth it.

There are 2 other issues why I haven't started dating. They say you can't love someone else until you love yourself. Loving myself has been a work in progress for years. I wonder if I'll ever get to that point. I started a diet a couple months ago hoping that will help. Part of me thinks I should wait until I get to or at least close to my goal weight before I start. For one, I don't have too much free time now because of it. During the week it's go to work, come home and eat dinner, then work out, then shower and get ready for bed.

The other reason I haven't tried for a while is I still want to move back to FL. I don't really want to get in to a relationship if I end up moving. My current plan is to move in 3 years. That will give me time to save up for a down payment so I can buy a house when I move. However, when I first moved to Pittsburgh I only planned to stay a couple years. Now it's been almost 10. What if 3 years pass and I still haven't moved?

Having just had a birthday a couple weeks ago was a reminder that I'm not getting any younger. That's also part of the problem. When I have checked out some dating sites it hasn't been encouraging. I don't feel my age at all. I also find it difficult to find guys my age I'm attracted to. Heck, I find it hard to find any guys in Pittsburgh I'm attracted to. That's another reason part of me feels I should wait until I move to FL.

Any suggestions? Thanks guys.
Aww I totally hear ya on the loving yourself thing and I too am a homebody my daily routine is very much the same as yours. I am really working on being comfortable and loving myself. I am not "scared of lonely" and I refuse to be with a guy just so I won't be alone, unlike my former best friend. Keep on saving for the Florida dream house
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Old 05-19-2010, 07:57 AM   #333
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So... lately my life has been a mess. My hours at work have been totally switched around for bogus reasons, so my sleep schedule is way off. As a result I've been moody. At night, I've been watching a lot of streaming movies on netflix, mostly gay romantic comedy type stuff. But it's been depressing me/making me realize how alone I am. I'm really not good with meeting new people though. I've been thinking about rejoining some of the dating sites, but I'm not all that cute and most of my hobbies/interests are far from mainstream. Every guy I've dated, I've met through friends or livejournal or that sort of thing. I just don't know what to do. Blah.
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Old 05-19-2010, 08:37 AM   #334
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Give the dating sites another try. If there are enough people on the site I'm sure there will be some others who share your interests and hobbies. In the meantime, keep hanging with friends and network through them. Maybe try watching some comedies or something else so as to not help with the depression.
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Old 05-24-2010, 11:08 PM   #335
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I know exactly how you feel it's gets lonely at times and you feel so isolated and loving Disney is not something most gay guys accept/understand. Try the dating sites again, that's where I meet the few guys I've been out with.
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Old 05-25-2010, 12:15 AM   #336
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Greetings all,

Solo traveler here looking to make friends and some one who loves Disney theme parks as much as I do
As some one wrote here most guys are "Not into Disney ", well most Black guys are not into Disney either

I am arriving Thursday June 3, checking into Animal Kingdom Lodge Jambo house. Thru Sat. Then I transfer over to Beach Club Villas @ Beach/Yacht Club, EPCOT area thru Monday.
I am some what new to the DIS Boards. I attended the "December Event "DIS-a-Palooza / Toy Story party. Met some really nice people. I already booked for the POD Cast Cruise 2.0.
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Old 06-13-2010, 07:19 PM   #337
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So after my Gay Days trip I'm thinking I should try to be more social. Normally I just pass time in my room, don't go out or anything. I really had fun hanging out at Gay Days. I also saw couples holding hands and stuff and wish I had a bf. So this week I've been pretty depressed from thinking about the lack of friends here in Pgh and lack of bf. Since I'm shy, I try to find friends/dates online. Having been out of the loop for so long I'm not sure what the good sites are these days. Can anyone recommend a good place online to make friends and find dates? I had used Adam4Adam before but it seems it's become more of a hookup site. As nice as they are to look at, I find it hard to become friends with headless torsos and other body parts.
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Old 06-21-2010, 12:50 PM   #338
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Hey everyone! New here and just wanted to say "hi"!
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Old 06-22-2010, 07:55 AM   #339
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So after my Gay Days trip I'm thinking I should try to be more social. Normally I just pass time in my room, don't go out or anything. I really had fun hanging out at Gay Days. I also saw couples holding hands and stuff and wish I had a bf. So this week I've been pretty depressed from thinking about the lack of friends here in Pgh and lack of bf. Since I'm shy, I try to find friends/dates online. Having been out of the loop for so long I'm not sure what the good sites are these days. Can anyone recommend a good place online to make friends and find dates? I had used Adam4Adam before but it seems it's become more of a hookup site. As nice as they are to look at, I find it hard to become friends with headless torsos and other body parts.
You mean you want to make friends with actual full-bodied people? :-P I know how you feel. It's very hard for me right now looking around and seeing couples and stuff. Even harder when you know your ex has picked up, moved on and found someone new. You can try PlentyofFish. It's OK. Nothing spectacular though I don't think. If you find a good site let me know. I'm kinda like you more on the shy side of things which is probably odd for someone my age, everyone my age seems to be quite out-going. Although I have been trying to get out more and I try to get my few good friends that I have to go out with me to help me get out there.
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Old 06-22-2010, 06:13 PM   #340
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Last night was pretty rough. I was feeling pretty depressed. I was on Adam4Adam. At the end of the night I had sent about 30 emails replying to their profile. Not a single reply. I may not be perfect but don't think I'm that bad. That's the reason I haven't even tried for so long. When I'm not looking I'm alone but content. A night like last night just causes the depression to become more severe. My coworker tried Plentyoffish. I don't know about it, just something about the name.
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Last night was pretty rough. I was feeling pretty depressed. I was on Adam4Adam. At the end of the night I had sent about 30 emails replying to their profile. Not a single reply. I may not be perfect but don't think I'm that bad. That's the reason I haven't even tried for so long. When I'm not looking I'm alone but content. A night like last night just causes the depression to become more severe. My coworker tried Plentyoffish. I don't know about it, just something about the name.
Agreed that is an "interesting" name.
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Old 06-23-2010, 09:03 AM   #342
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Last night was pretty rough. I was feeling pretty depressed. I was on Adam4Adam. At the end of the night I had sent about 30 emails replying to their profile. Not a single reply. I may not be perfect but don't think I'm that bad. That's the reason I haven't even tried for so long. When I'm not looking I'm alone but content. A night like last night just causes the depression to become more severe. My coworker tried Plentyoffish. I don't know about it, just something about the name.
Wow...you really charged in there! I don't think I have sent that many in a month! Good for you though! It just takes some time. But I know how you feel. It can be pretty discouraging at times...heck most of the time even. But stick with it. At least you are trying....that is a huge step! And it is something you should be proud of, regardless of how many replies you get.

I've met 1 or 2 people on Plenty of Fish. I haven't actually met them in person yet, but one is a really nice guy and seems like he would be a good friend. So if nothing else maybe I have gotten a new friend out of it. So if nothing else...maybe you will find a friend or 2.

I might have to check out this Adam4Adam though....hmmmm....
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Well, after sending a few emails to profiles that looked interesting and not getting a response, I decided to just send them to anyone within a wide age range. I wouldn't waste your time on A4A. It's really gone down hill and has basically turned in to just a hook up site. (Well, you can check it out if that's what you're looking for). I don't see it being good for making friends or dating anymore.
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Ugh...hook-ups. Bleh no thanks! What's a boy to do? lol
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Last night was pretty rough. I was feeling pretty depressed. I was on Adam4Adam. At the end of the night I had sent about 30 emails replying to their profile. Not a single reply. I may not be perfect but don't think I'm that bad. That's the reason I haven't even tried for so long. When I'm not looking I'm alone but content. A night like last night just causes the depression to become more severe. My coworker tried Plentyoffish. I don't know about it, just something about the name.
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