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Old 08-13-2009, 08:11 PM   #106
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May God Bless both of you. Prayers said.
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Old 09-04-2009, 05:12 PM   #107
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Just been thinking of you. Sending prayers for your family.
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Old 09-05-2009, 08:08 PM   #108
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You and your DH are in my prayers. I hope you are able to have some bright spots every day to share in the time you have with each other.
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Old 09-06-2009, 11:06 PM   #109
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My husband's journey has him struggling for his life tonight

Hello Everyone,

My dear husband has taken a devistating turn. He is fighting for his life on a ventilator while fighting uroseptic shock from a blood infection. Sadly, they always say it is not the cancer that is their demise but an infection. We have fought so hard to keep him safe, sterile etc. but the catheter seemed to has spread the infection. They are observing him for the next 24-48 hours and if nothing improves we will have to make the decision to turn off life support.

If you have a moment, please say a prayer for him. We have been with Hospice since May and yesterday I watched my husband struggle for air and a heartbeat that was up to 155 beats per minute. Although we had a DNR in place, we decided to revoke it to treat the infection. Perhaps not everyone will agree with my choice but he has fought so hard and sadly we had never had this conversation of "what if". I went on my gut and how well I know my husband's wishes. It is so tragic for him at 40. I am trying so hard to hold it together.

Please make sure you have this discussion with your loved ones and be prepared. Life changes in an instant~live life to the fullest and enjoy every moment.

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Old 09-06-2009, 11:48 PM   #110
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You are in my heart and thoughts tonight. I don't believe there are wrong choices in this situation. You've made the one that brought you peace and that makes it the absolutely right choice for you. I hope you'll find peace and strength in the days to come. I will keep you both in my prayers.
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Old 09-06-2009, 11:51 PM   #111
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Praying for your husband's situation and that the doctor's will know the perfect thing to do.
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Old 09-07-2009, 09:48 AM   #112
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My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband
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Old 09-07-2009, 12:06 PM   #113
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Lisa, sending prayers for Ben for Gods peace and comfort for you both. Blessings to you always.
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Old 09-07-2009, 01:45 PM   #114
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I am so sorry for this news. I will be praying for you and your husband. We are all with you!
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Old 09-07-2009, 03:29 PM   #115
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Lisa, my prayers continue for Ben, you & your family. I was in your position with the DNR - you did the right thing & please don't second guess your decision. Your love for your husband will guide you & the choices you have to make. God Bless you & your family.
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Old 09-07-2009, 08:36 PM   #116
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Praying for you and your husband for strength and peace. Also for the doctors for wisdom and patience.

You have been a strong woman in the face of caring for your loved one in an end of life journey. It is never easy, it is so very painful. You are doing all the right things and there is no one in his life who could have done it better.

About "right decisions". What is most important is that you made the decision based on what you knew at the time you made it. For that instant, that is what you knew and what you had to do. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, you are the one living it, you are the closest friend of your husband, the one he chose to make these kinds of decisions for him and for you. I know this from my heart because my mother passed from a GBM brain tumor and my father and I also made decisions that others may have questioned. It will never be important to look back and second guess, no matter what happens.

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Old 09-07-2009, 09:57 PM   #117
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Lisa,

My prayers are with you and Ben. cancer is such a horrible disease that affects everyone. I lost my mom to cancer at 29 (after 3 years of being told she can pass away anyday), my little brother was only 15 (my stepfather divorced her when she got sick), and my son was 11. I took care of my mom through hospice for the whole time and I know devastating this can be for everyone. I just want you to know you are not alone. Sometimes as a caretaker you feel you have all the weight on your shoulders and you don't want to upset, or stress out family, friends, with bad news or how you feel. So if you ever want to vent, talk, please know we are here for you, or you can always PM me
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Old 09-08-2009, 06:50 AM   #118
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Old 09-10-2009, 05:10 PM   #119
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I will continue to keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.
Please keep us updated.
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