Why have these Boards turned nasty? - The DIS Discussion Forums

kathyg · 06-23-2006, 05:00 PM

First of all, I don't know where to post this. I will also post it in the Community Forum. But, it seems to me that a lot of these posts have turned really nasty. People criticizing others, flaming and arguing about really insignificant ideas. While everyone is entitled to an opinion, why can't those opinions be based in civility? Disney is about magic; it's about fun; it's about leaving all the bad in the world behind you for a few days and experiencing the joy of life.

That's why it amazes me when someone posts something and right away someone gets on their case for a minor point they didn't like. Why do people take these posts so personally? Like the OP who "borrowed" someone's pix without giving him credit; or the OP who couldn't understand the CM because English was probably not their first langauge.

I think we have all been in some situations with Disney that were less than favorable, and I don't give anyone wrong for expressing their disappointment. But, when it gets personal it spoils it for everyone else.

The purpose of these boards is to share one's thoughts and solicit one's opinions. I don't think that means "flame me if you don't like what I had to say". I come to these Boards for the magic....not the reality. If I wanted reality, I would read the boss's "Memorandum to All Employees". Now those are something I could definitely flame!

Anyway, guys, this is a happy place....please don't change it!

3PRINCESSMOM · 06-23-2006, 05:07 PM

Recently, I have been amazed at how nasty and judgemental many posts here have been. I have exchanged a few PMs with others, too, who have been feeling the same way. Although, exchanges of differing opinions can be enlightening, they don't have to be insulting.

Thanks for articulating things so well.

Tam1067 · 06-23-2006, 05:33 PM

The rudeness probably is just a reflection of the world we live in today. I know that lots of people are just rude and nasty to each other in general.

Also, there's something about online and emailing that just encourages it. I teach English at a community college. Part of my class load is to teach an English class online. It amazes me how nasty some of the students are when they email me about grades or questions or issues, yet if they spoke to me in person, they'd be sweet and polite. I really think some people do not realize how they "sound" when they write, and the anonymity of online writing makes them feel okay writing things they would never say to someone's face.

kathyg · 06-23-2006, 05:57 PM

Tam...

I think the anonimity of it all plays a large part in how people react. If I were to stand face to face with a poster I doubt 90% of them would say to my face what they say online.

Sorry, but it just makes me angry. I would offer an analogy here, but I'm afraid it would offend quite a number of people.

CamColt · 06-23-2006, 05:59 PM

The above mentioned thread was closed to end the discussion about it as the problem was solved many posts earlier. Let's not restart it here.

Since you said you are bringing this point up on the CB and it certainly does not belong on a dining review board, I will now lock this thread too. You can continue to discuss it over there as long as it is within board guidelines.

Thanks for understanding.

06-23-2006, 05:00 PM	#1
kathyg DIS Veteran Join Date: May 2000 Location: Phila., PA Posts: 905	Why have these Boards turned nasty? First of all, I don't know where to post this. I will also post it in the Community Forum. But, it seems to me that a lot of these posts have turned really nasty. People criticizing others, flaming and arguing about really insignificant ideas. While everyone is entitled to an opinion, why can't those opinions be based in civility? Disney is about magic; it's about fun; it's about leaving all the bad in the world behind you for a few days and experiencing the joy of life. That's why it amazes me when someone posts something and right away someone gets on their case for a minor point they didn't like. Why do people take these posts so personally? Like the OP who "borrowed" someone's pix without giving him credit; or the OP who couldn't understand the CM because English was probably not their first langauge. I think we have all been in some situations with Disney that were less than favorable, and I don't give anyone wrong for expressing their disappointment. But, when it gets personal it spoils it for everyone else. The purpose of these boards is to share one's thoughts and solicit one's opinions. I don't think that means "flame me if you don't like what I had to say". I come to these Boards for the magic....not the reality. If I wanted reality, I would read the boss's "Memorandum to All Employees". Now those are something I could definitely flame! Anyway, guys, this is a happy place....please don't change it!

06-23-2006, 05:07 PM	#2
3PRINCESSMOM Used to be 3PRINCESSMOM, but alas she nows has a PRINCE Join Date: May 2003 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 687	Wow! You hit the nail on the head for me. Recently, I have been amazed at how nasty and judgemental many posts here have been. I have exchanged a few PMs with others, too, who have been feeling the same way. Although, exchanges of differing opinions can be enlightening, they don't have to be insulting. Thanks for articulating things so well. __________________ 3PRINCESSMOM (plus our Little PRINCE) #1 2/11/93 #2 6/25/97 #3 9/24/99 Our Prince arrived 4/22/05

06-23-2006, 05:33 PM	#3
Tam1067 LOVES LOVES LOVES the Poly Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Chicago area Posts: 3,009	The rudeness probably is just a reflection of the world we live in today. I know that lots of people are just rude and nasty to each other in general. Also, there's something about online and emailing that just encourages it. I teach English at a community college. Part of my class load is to teach an English class online. It amazes me how nasty some of the students are when they email me about grades or questions or issues, yet if they spoke to me in person, they'd be sweet and polite. I really think some people do not realize how they "sound" when they write, and the anonymity of online writing makes them feel okay writing things they would never say to someone's face. __________________ Mom (Me!) Dad DS 12 DS 10 DD 7 I've stayed at Port Orleans Riverside, the Disneyland Hotel, Wilderness Lodge, the Polynesian, and the Grand Floridian.

06-23-2006, 05:59 PM	#5
CamColt Only thinks she’s not losing it Mom gone wild! I really feel like I have a good grip on things now B1 BINGO! Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: MA Posts: 24,574	The above mentioned thread was closed to end the discussion about it as the problem was solved many posts earlier. Let's not restart it here. Since you said you are bringing this point up on the CB and it certainly does not belong on a dining review board, I will now lock this thread too. You can continue to discuss it over there as long as it is within board guidelines. Thanks for understanding. __________________

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06-23-2006, 05:57 PM	#4
kathyg DIS Veteran Join Date: May 2000 Location: Phila., PA Posts: 905	Tam... I think the anonimity of it all plays a large part in how people react. If I were to stand face to face with a poster I doubt 90% of them would say to my face what they say online. Sorry, but it just makes me angry. I would offer an analogy here, but I'm afraid it would offend quite a number of people.