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Old 11-15-2012, 07:43 AM   #16
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I currently have a 11 yo black lab/mutt that I have been 'babysitting' for 10 years! There is no way my dd would be able to take her now. DD got her the summer after high school and when she moved out the plan was to take her, but the fee for pets at the apt was high and we decided to keep her at our house. The visits to the 'pet' started becoming infrequent because like you said, with job, school and friends there was no time.

The best thing that could happen is the dog stay with you. Honestly, I could do without all the dog hair, and now that she is older she is a bit cantankerous. But, she fits in with grandma and papa..we are a bit cranky ourselves.

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Old 11-15-2012, 11:34 AM   #17
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We were in the same situation a couple years ago. DS got a puppy in Feb of his senior year of college. He brought her home for us to see her I told him to leave the dog here since he would be coming back home in May and the dog would be living in my house I wanted her trained right. He was living with 6 other guys in a house I knew training would be minimal. He lived home for a little over a year then moved into an apartment with his gf and planned on taking the dog after they got settled in. They took her on the weekend. Monday he set up a web cam to watch her while he was at work. That's all it took he brought her back that night. He could see she was almost in a panic being left alone where she wasn't comfortable. I also think not having a yard, having to walk her everytime she wanted to go out was part of the reason but he never admitted to that. We told him we would take her back but when we went away it was his responsibility to take care of her. He loves the dog so he stays here when he needs to watch her.
Of course it killed DH and I when she was gone for the weekend but things worked out. I had to bite my tongue to not say anything to DS about not having time for the dog but I knew he loved the dog and would figure out she was better off with us.
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Old 11-15-2012, 11:57 AM   #18
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I have had several young adult children while they unsigned up their schooling and saved some money. One child two years ago bought a puppy. This child loved this dog but typical to this age was not really ready for this responsibility. Not only were there several jobs there were serious relationships. Also this child after working two jobs came home took a shower and went out with friends. Dh and I were always caring for this dog. We walked him took him to the park took him to vets offices made sure he had food... The dog follows us around and sleeps in our room. Dh always plays with him for at least an hour a night.
You can see where this is going. Child is ready to move out soon and definitely plans on taking dog. I have been avoiding this conversation. I don't want to estrange a child. It's not just that the dog loves us. He's be happy with my child too if there would be any Te for the dog. But child is beginning the first real job will be taking classes and in the smer will still work two jobs bthere will be parties to go to. That dog will be neglected and left home at least ten hours a day. Dh an I both work but I have frequent time off. I can also afford a dog walker. I am off all summer too. Has anybody dealt with this? How did you handle it? Child thinks we spoil the dog and he doesn't need nearly all of the attention we give him. We do spoil him a bit.
Do what my fil did with DH and his cat. Fil handed DH a roll of GSP tokens and said done! LMAO!

The dog is yours. Tell your child this. Tell him you have paid for his care, food, vet, etc and taken care of him. He is yours. If he wants another dog he can go get another one. Bye bye!!
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Old 11-15-2012, 12:19 PM   #19
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We got Dash 2 days before younger DD started 6th grade, he is her dog. Once she started school though, he was in my care all day long, and she was responsible for him evenings and weekends.

He is now 7 1/2 years old and DD is away at her Freshman year of college, so this is something I have thought about and we have discussed. By the time she graduates, he will be 11 to 12 years old. I really feel he would not do well with a big change like moving and being alone all day at that age. He is used to me being home all day with him (yes he is spoiled). We haven't come to a final decision, but we still have a few years until we need to. I think we will both want the best for him at that time. He will always be her dog, even if he still lives with us.
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So the decision comes down to letting him try and take the dog and assuming he will figure out quickly its a bad idea. But he might not admit it. Or we have an honest talk ahead of time explaining why the dog should stay with us. If he doesn't agree then we get tough risking alienating our son just when he is leaving. None of these choices feels good. I had a disagreement with one child right before he moved out. It was awful. This child is in the I'm now a super responsible adult mode o er night. I'm very glad for him. But this dog wasn't raised to be home alone for hour. I won't be able to get the thought of him alone in a new space for hours and hours out of my head.
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