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Old 11-02-2013, 03:35 PM   #1
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You won't believe what I saw at the food bank!

At the food bank today you wont believe what I saw:

- I saw a family with too many kids (6!) roll up in a new mini-van, obvious deadbeats!

(Of course the mini-van was mine, this family are my neighbors and I was giving them a ride. The 6 kids? 4 are adopted from an abusive familial situation. Only two of the kids were planned. The dad hasn't worked since I've met them, you know, since he was shot in the Iraq war. The wife works but it is only part time. She had to sell a successful business when they took on the other kids so she could get them to their special appointments etc. Now that they are settled, she is having trouble finding anything else permanent and full-time. In the summer, she puts together multiple part time positions, but once the summer is over here the opportunities here dry up. Sometimes when she gets sick, or the kids need things for school, things get too tight. She wouldn't take my help directly, but did let me drive her down to the food bank, and helped out as a volunteer with me.)

- I saw no Audi, BMWs or Mercedes in the parking lot, in fact I saw no cars that looked less than 5 years old, and Im no car expert but most looked considerably older.
- I saw neighbors bring neighbors who had no car to drive
- I saw an old lady on Oxygen, actually a couple of them
- I saw an elderly couple who made a point of saying "God bless You" to everyone helping.
- I saw lots of older people who never thought they would be there.
- I saw kids, lots and lots of them
- I saw empty shelves, lots of those too.
- I saw people getting turned away

If you can consider donating, this time of year need is high. Its true you may help out some irresponsible deadbeat, but chances are much greater that box of mac n cheese you donate might fill the belly of a child with nothing else.

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Old 11-02-2013, 03:47 PM   #2
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Your view is better than mine, it sounds like the individuals at your area food bank need the help.

I drive by a bus stop that is located in front of the food bank in my city. I drive by every weekday. I see adults in their 20s, and 30s who have their food bank bags on the floor of the bus shelter because they are always texting on their phone with one hand and have a cigarette in the other.

I live in Canada where cell phone service ($150 a month minimum) and cigarettes ($90 a carton) are very expensive.

I believe the people who really need the help often don't get the food and the others are using the local food bank to allow them spending money for their vices.

Last year on the news there was video of families lined up for their turkey and toy basket for Christmas. I noticed as did my coworkers that everyone in the shot had a phone in their hand.
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Old 11-02-2013, 03:51 PM   #3
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We live in the country, and our foodbank serves truly needy folks. People without indoor plumbing. OP, thanks for the laugh!! I had to read your post a couple of times to get the gist.
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Old 11-02-2013, 04:15 PM   #4
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Last year on the news there was video of families lined up for their turkey and toy basket for Christmas. I noticed as did my coworkers that everyone in the shot had a phone in their hand.
But why does that bug you so much? We've had cellphones as our only phone since '02, way before we could truly afford them, and it's because our landline service was costing stupid amounts of money, was always being charged erroneously, and wasn't helpful when away from the home (obviously). Nowadays it's how many people have internet, which is helpful in many ways, even to those without enough money.


But hey, I grew up in a home where the dad left and almost never paid child support, it was just my mom working her fingers to the bone to help us, and she did her best. She did go on food stamps (I don't remember if there were food banks then, or in our area) and some form of welfare. And she did smoke because she was *addicted*, it was an addiction that started when she was 15, she was able to quit during her pregnancies but then she went back to it, and despite many tries she was never successful in quitting until she was 35 (and I was 10 and we had been off food stamps for a few years) and nearly died of an asthma attack. So she had groceries and cigarettes on the belt. She also had dog food. Because she had two big sled dogs from earlier in her life, and she wasn't willing to give them away or kill them during our personal economic downturn. She also wasn't working; figured that staying home with us for a couple years was good for us (she made a good decision there).

Whenever I read judgment of people who are getting aid of some kind, I think of us, and how absolutely bonafide my mom's reasons were for getting assistance, and I think "that person judging would have thought that the family I grew up in was doing something wrong", even though my mom was doing the absolute best she could, trying to make up for the decisions she made as a teen (smoking at 15, marrying at 17).
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Old 11-02-2013, 04:17 PM   #5
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Yes most in my area abuse the system as well...I just stood in line at the gas station while a woman paid for pop, snacks etc with her assistance card and then purchased 20.00 worth of lottery tickets with cash..go figure....
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Old 11-02-2013, 04:25 PM   #6
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Yes most in my area abuse the system as well...I just stood in line at the gas station while a woman paid for pop, snacks etc with her assistance card and then purchased 20.00 worth of lottery tickets with cash..go figure....
A friend of mine started working at a convenience store recently and she says that happens a lot at her store.
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Old 11-02-2013, 04:26 PM   #7
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But why does that bug you so much? We've had cellphones as our only phone since '02, way before we could truly afford them, and it's because our landline service was costing stupid amounts of money, was always being charged erroneously, and wasn't helpful when away from the home (obviously). Nowadays it's how many people have internet, which is helpful in many ways, even to those without enough money.


But hey, I grew up in a home where the dad left and almost never paid child support, it was just my mom working her fingers to the bone to help us, and she did her best. She did go on food stamps (I don't remember if there were food banks then, or in our area) and some form of welfare. And she did smoke because she was *addicted*, it was an addiction that started when she was 15, she was able to quit during her pregnancies but then she went back to it, and despite many tries she was never successful in quitting until she was 35 (and I was 10 and we had been off food stamps for a few years) and nearly died of an asthma attack. So she had groceries and cigarettes on the belt. She also had dog food. Because she had two big sled dogs from earlier in her life, and she wasn't willing to give them away or kill them during our personal economic downturn. She also wasn't working; figured that staying home with us for a couple years was good for us (she made a good decision there).

Whenever I read judgment of people who are getting aid of some kind, I think of us, and how absolutely bonafide my mom's reasons were for getting assistance, and I think "that person judging would have thought that the family I grew up in was doing something wrong", even though my mom was doing the absolute best she could, trying to make up for the decisions she made as a teen (smoking at 15, marrying at 17).

And harmful as cigarettes are, it is a much better addiction than alcohol or drugs.
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Old 11-02-2013, 05:26 PM   #8
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If you can consider donating, this time of year need is high. Itís true you may help out some irresponsible deadbeat but chances are much greater that box of mac n cheese you donate might fill the belly of a child with nothing else.
Excellent message. I've known many many good people who need a hand. I am blessed. Sure there may be some willing to take advantage, but I refuse to stop helping and I refuse to teach my children that they shouldn't be grateful and give back.
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Old 11-02-2013, 05:59 PM   #9
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Your view is better than mine, it sounds like the individuals at your area food bank need the help. I drive by a bus stop that is located in front of the food bank in my city. I drive by every weekday. I see adults in their 20s, and 30s who have their food bank bags on the floor of the bus shelter because they are always texting on their phone with one hand and have a cigarette in the other. I live in Canada where cell phone service ($150 a month minimum) and cigarettes ($90 a carton) are very expensive. I believe the people who really need the help often don't get the food and the others are using the local food bank to allow them spending money for their vices. Last year on the news there was video of families lined up for their turkey and toy basket for Christmas. I noticed as did my coworkers that everyone in the shot had a phone in their hand.
Where exactly do you live in Canada where you're paying $150/mth in cell phone bills?? I'm in Ontario, and I have an iPhone through Bell and pay $40/mth. It's my only phone as I was paying $35 for my landline! I don't think having a cell phone is indicative of not needing assistance. Now, the ones who come into my government office to pick up their monthly cheques, wearing designer jeans, shoes, etc and carrying Coach bags...maybe.
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Old 11-02-2013, 06:03 PM   #10
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At the food bank today you wonít believe what I saw:

- I saw a family with too many kids 6! roll up in a new mini-van, obvious deadbeats ĖCourse the min-van was mine, this family are my neighbors. The 6 kids? 4 are adopted from an abusive familial situation. The husband hasnít worked since Iíve met them, you know, since he was shot in the Iraq war. She works but it is only part time. She had to sell a successful business when they took on the other kids so she could get them to their special appointments etc. Now that they are settled she is having trouble finding anything else permanent and full-time. In the summer she puts together multiple part time positions, but once the summer is over here the opportunities here dry up. Sometimes when she gets sick, or the kids need things for school things get too tight, she wouldnít take my help directly but did let me drive her down to the food bank, and helped out as a volunteer with me.
- I saw no Audi, BMWís or Mercedes in the parking lot, in fact I saw no cars that looked less than 5 years old, and Iím no car expert but most looked considerably older.
- I saw neighbors bring neighbors who had no car to drive
- I saw an old lady on Oxygen, actually a couple of them
- I saw an elderly couple who made a point of saying "God bless You" to everyone helping.
- I saw lots of older people who never thought they would be there.
- I saw kids, lots and lots of them
- I saw empty shelves, lots of those too.
- I saw people getting turned away

If you can consider donating, this time of year need is high. Itís true you may help out some irresponsible deadbeat but chances are much greater that box of mac n cheese you donate might fill the belly of a child with nothing else.
I read on AOL today that last Friday EVERYONE receiving food stamps had their amount CUT as of that date. I feel badly for those people who depend upon food stamps to feed their families. There was speculation that food banks would feel the crunch as well because those families would have to depend more heavily upon them. I fear that some children will go hungry this month as a result of the cut.
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I read on AOL today that last Friday EVERYONE receiving food stamps had their amount CUT as of that date. I feel badly for those people who depend upon food stamps to feed their families. There was speculation that food banks would feel the crunch as well because those families would have to depend more heavily upon them. I fear that some children will go hungry this month as a result of the cut.
It's a 5% across-the-board cut.

http://www.sfgate.com/news/article/F...ts-4949110.php
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The U.S. Department of Agriculture said that the people in Berks and about 47 million more nationwide will now receive about 5 percent less each month. That amounts to about 16 meals a month for a family of three receiving the maximum benefit and shopping wisely, according to the Reading Eagle. The food stamp program is downsizing because a temporary boost that was included in the 2009 stimulus bill expired this week.
Please take the time to pick up a few extras when you grocery shop this week. Most stores around me have bins for collecting non-perishables at the exit. It doesn't take any extra effort on my part to donate every trip. Scan your circulars. Clip some coupons and drop what you can in those collection bins. Yes, someone might be scamming the system. They will do it anyway. And if we don't replace what they take, then someone who does need it will go hungry.
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Yes most in my area abuse the system as well...I just stood in line at the gas station while a woman paid for pop, snacks etc with her assistance card and then purchased 20.00 worth of lottery tickets with cash..go figure....
Is that most people on assistance in your area though, or just the ones you notice? I absolutely agree that people make horrible choices with some of their food stamp money. I also know that some are given very little assistance, which barely helps and others are given too much. My friend was a sahm and her husband up and left. Applied for assistance and was given $600 a month in food! For herself and 2 young girls! So yes, you might see her buying candy and soda with food stamp money but that was after she bought all the healthy food for meals. The whole system needs to be redone, but those in power to do so would probably just screw it up more
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Old 11-02-2013, 07:28 PM   #13
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This is a topic close to my heart
I am planning a food drive at our school for our local food bank--many of our kids and their Families HAVE to use that food bank.
I have seen true Hunger in the eyes of a child-heart wrenching!!!
Our theme this year is:

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My Canadian Polar Bear that has been to Disney a few times will sit beside the Cave.

If everyone gave just one tin or box of food (What A Wonderful Life) we would have!
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Old 11-02-2013, 07:39 PM   #14
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Food stamps are not supposed to supply all the food for your family - they are supposed to SUPPLEMENT. Supposed to HELP you - not provide all the food for your family.

That being said, the need is always high for people at food banks - not just holidays.
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Old 11-02-2013, 07:52 PM   #15
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Please before judging someone for the choice you see them make. walk a mile in their shoes...You see a snippit of their life and decide that they abuse the system.

Kind of ironic that people find it so easy to assume those on public assistance are scamming the system, but see no injustice or don't discuss what happens when those with money funnel it to other countries to avoid paying taxes. the effects on the people as a whole are the same.
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