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Old 09-05-2013, 06:13 PM   #166
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Yet it would be fine for my child to be deprived of fun because he has to listen to your child cry and whine about a stuffed animal, and I shouldn't say anything about it.

And I wouldn't say anything about it, because your child's behavior is your problem, not mine. I just don't care for the hypocrisy. YMMV.

Where's the hypocrisy? I plainly stated that you are welcome to correct a behavior if I'm ignoring it.

I will say that if you can't see the difference between a child crying because they are upset (and being comforted by a parent) and a child whacking yours upside the head then we are on totally different wavelengths.

I will agree that your kids have probably grown into decent teens/adults because you were paying attention and parenting them. Sort of the opposite of the father in the OP.
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Old 09-05-2013, 06:16 PM   #167
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I will say that if you can't see the difference between a child crying because they are upset (and being comforted by a parent) and a child whacking yours upside the head then we are on totally different wavelengths.
Bad behavior is bad behavior, regardless of the reason.
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Old 09-05-2013, 06:31 PM   #168
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What the OP stated was corrective and accusatory. (Whether her statement was true or not). It is not alright to make such statements to someone elses child.


Note: If you look through the thread you will notice that those with any kind of experience in raising and dealing with children are all saying the same thing. Maybe you inexperienced folk should wise up.

What that kid did was not equal to the reprimand he received. And again may I remind you as an outsider have no way of knowing what the situation was with that kid and his family. I can think of many examples of why such behavior could be deemed okay.
They are NOT all saying the same thing. It seems to me that the answers to this question of what you would do in this situation are pretty much split down the middle.

Any way you slice it, in my opinion, the OP did not "discipline" the child in any way. Apparently some people have a different definition of "discipline"...which explains a lot of the terrible behavior I see these days from children, teens, and adults. That form of "discipline" to me is equivalent to no consequences for bad behavior.

I think I want to do bad that will make someone else uncomfortable and that I know is wrong. I think to myself, "What will the consequences be?" The answer: someone will tell me I did it. Not that I was bad, or wrong, or yell at me...they will tell me I did it. Wow...that's going to make me think twice.

How do I know the child KNEW it was wrong? Because they LIED about it afterwards when there was a RESPONSIBLE adult with them.

It was left to the family to "discipline" the child however they saw fit. OP did not discipline the child, did not deny them entry into the hot tub, did not tell them they were bad, did not yell at them, but only expressed the rules if the child wanted to come into the hot tub. It would be different if the OP had said, "You cannot come in here." That could be construed as a punishment...but saying they cannot pee in the hot tub is not in my opinion because it is an unacceptable behavior and affects other guests.
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Old 09-05-2013, 06:43 PM   #169
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And who gets to be the arbiter of when a parent is correctly parenting the child?
Everyone get to be the arbiter of when a parent is effectively parenting!! If your child is misbehaving and intruding on everyone else with their actions and you do nothing to correct it, then I have a right to make a comment regarding such. If your misbehaving child can infringe on my rights then I can infringe on yours. You don't get a free pass because you think you know better than everyone around you.

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Even when your an adult posting on a forum.
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Old 09-05-2013, 06:46 PM   #170
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Everyone get to be the arbiter of when a parent is effectively parenting!! If your child is misbehaving and intruding on everyone else with their actions and you do nothing to correct it, then I have a right to make a comment regarding such. If your misbehaving child can infringe on my rights then I can infringe on yours. You don't get a free pass because you think you know better than everyone around you.



Even when your an adult posting on a forum.
The fact that you consider someone disagreeing with you to be exhibiting bad behavior proves the point that you shouldn't be judging whether or not a child is being parented correctly.
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Old 09-05-2013, 07:18 PM   #171
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All right. After reading the responses I think now I would say something to the parent first, and not the child. Although I still support the OP and think she did nothing wrong. However, something WOULD be said. I am not emotional and rarely get mad , so I assure you my manner would be polite and non-hostile, but I would ask that the child be talked to about the appropriateness of peeing in the pool.

I will be there next week, maybe you guys better just call security now.....
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Anyone else find it ironic that in a discussion of a child's bad behavior, some adults can't manage to have a civil conversation?

It's time, once again, to review the DISboards Guidelines.

Particularly item 4, "No Fighting/Sarcasm."

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