Originally Posted by Nixie
Thank you for this. This really helps. I guess I am asking too much of our school? The principal told me he wouldn't even qualify for a 504 because he isn't struggling academically. I am not expecting him to be put into different classes or anything. I totally don't think he needs that. What he does need is a little more emotional support during school. When something "goes wrong" for him, he shuts down. That can turn into anything from him literally acting out in school by yelling or screaming to hiding under a desk, to running outta of classroom, or like last year, physically threatening a teacher. That is what I was hoping they would help me on so it doesn't get to that point for him. I want him to have an avenue open that if he is feeling like he is getting to that point, he can talk to someone (eventhough he won't want to. they will have to prod and encourage him to explore what is going on). This is what we do at home. I guess this is beyond what should be expected for a school to be able to do for him. They seem to be more focused on the academic part than the actual social/emotional part which is what he is having the biggest problem with. I am looking into some social groups and such in our area that he can attend after school, so we can start helping him learn to identify and manage his emotions and what is considered socially acceptable behavior.
FWIW - I don't think you are asking for anything unreasonable and I feel that meeting children's emotional needs is something that even the best schools struggle with.
Hopefully, the school will find a way to work with you to meet your son's needs whatever the avenue may be.