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View Poll Results: Do you tell your kids your salary?
Yes I tell my kids my salary 24 18.05%
Sort of, I tell them ballpark figures 35 26.32%
No, they do not need to know 57 42.86%
Other - always an other! 17 12.78%
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Old 02-22-2013, 11:49 AM   #46
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My kids don't, but it's only because they've never asked. If they've ever asked, I'd absolutely tell them. I don't get why it should be a secret from your own kids??? I think anything that will help teach my kids about money and budgeting is good and helpful. I'm not ashamed of what we make and I think in times in which money is tight, it's good to be able to explain to kids why it is etc., and what to do when you have extra money etc.

Having said that, I never knew what my parents made growing up, but I really never asked either. I now know the ballpark of what my parents make.
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Old 02-22-2013, 11:56 AM   #47
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By middle school I believe that chldren should have a good idea of what the family budget is. How much my husband makes has always been openly discussed. The children also understood what we discussed in our family was not for discussion with others. It shocks me that some of you are not telling your children things because you fear they'll tell the neighbors or their classmates.

It was also important for them to understand that although we didn't have extra money for some things that other people take for granted (such as we didn't choose to rent a condo on the beach for two weeks every summer, or go to Disney with the kids more than once, instead visiting the Smithsonian and national parks and the like), that they were better off than many. It is important to give to charities for the benefit of those who cannot afford food and clothing, for example.
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Old 02-22-2013, 11:59 AM   #48
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I meant to ask the OP, how old is your DD? You never said in the OP. (My apologies if I missed it later.)

I guess that - like everything else around here - we're all different.

I do seem to be noticing a trend, though, that people who have "plenty" of money don't always seem to share as much info with their kids, as opposed to "middle of the road" or even more so, "less than most". Am I off on that?

Could it be that if you don't have to worry about it, it's not as critical to teach it? I'd think that people who have less perhaps have more to teach about how they make it work, how they can earn more, etc. Just my thoughts...
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:00 PM   #49
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They were given an early foundation of budgeting and involved with the family budget. They knew they had a save, spend and give catagory and were able to budget within those catagories at an early age for their own money. So working with the family budget I would say yes they knew what we made and do to this day eventhough they are grown adults.

They are now passing on the same lessons to their children.

I knew as a child what the family budget was and where the money for that budget came from. I was taught from an early age that there are no secrets with money.

Our adult children even know where to access our wills and financial papers if something were to happen to us, same with their grandmother.

It was never kept a secret from us growing up and we never saw it as a problem with our children. How will they know how to handle money and budget if we don't teach them?
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:00 PM   #50
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I don't have kids yet, but I have no idea what my dad makes per year. I can take a guess, but other than that...he's never mentioned it. I'll probably do the same.
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:05 PM   #51
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I have to add that we've always talked about finances with the kids, just not exact amounts until those pre-college talks. I think kids can get a ballpark understanding of how their household budget works (and those of their friends as well for that matter!) without knowing numbers.

It's interesting with the government furlough stuff going on. We still have one at home and he's a senior in high school and we've already done FAFSA. We had laid it all out on the line, so now he's done the math and knows exactly how much money will be out of our household budget. I kind of wish he was blissfully ignorant instead of worrying, based on numbers he knows, that this will make his college plans more of a challenge. ( I wish I was blissfully ignorant too!)

I'm 51 and I still don't know how much money my parents have and what their monthly income looks like. I do know they're comfortable though. DH doesn't know about his either. With DH's parents, I've been kind of encouraging him to try to find out because I think they may need help at some point soon.
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:07 PM   #52
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I've never understood why money is such a taboo subject. I've told DS10 how much our income is, in passing, but as I remember it wasn't really anything interesting to him. If he asked me about it, though, I would definitely tell him. I don't feel it's private.

Now, my weight, that's private! 😉
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:09 PM   #53
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Unfortunately, my salay is a matter of public record so not only my kids but anyone who wants to find out can! Our new mayor, jerk that he is, published ALL the salaries for municipal workers in the city this year. Lucky for me I get an additional stipend so my salary looks much less than it is because IMO it is no one's business. The amount of the salary should or could be published but not the names of the people who get it. That is wrong on so many levels.
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:11 PM   #54
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The more I think about it, how you grew up probably does have a lot to do with it. Not just whether your family talked to you about it, but how finances actually worked in your home. For kids who grew up really struggling, perhaps it was more anxiety provoking not to know, than to know- depending on their ages. I mean, if the electricity is off, it's clear there's a problem. No food in the house? Yup, big problem. Allowing them to know can give them the opportunity to become part of the solution, maybe.
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:34 PM   #55
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I don't understand the secret aspect of this. I don't think I ever outright told my daughter what my husband and I made but only because she has never asked. I don't understand how we expect and want our children to be open with us but this is a "private" issue. Just my confused two cents....
It's private because children do not keep secrets very well. DD7 sometimes comes home with stories like, "Cora's daddy makes "___" an hour doing "___". Aside from the fact it's none of my business, I know for a fact that the # isn't correct. So, now that leaves me with a dilemma of either having to correct her (and then her correct her friend), or just bite my tongue. I usually reply with, "Honey, it's really not any of our business what Cora's daddy makes".

My children (7 & 12) don't know what we make, but they do know that Daddy makes more than Mommy. And they do know that Mommy took a big salary hit in order to take a job that allows her much, much, much more time home with them. It was important to us for them to understand that with that time comes some sacrifices when it comes to "things" we could afford much more easily a few years back.

I don't know what my parents made, nor what their pensions pay now, though it is public record so I could always look it up if I desired to know. I just don't though.
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:36 PM   #56
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As for public record, those salaries are pretty easy to find with the internet.
An internet search using my name and employer pops mine right up.

I've never found dh's by name, but you can find his salary schedule so if you know his title/level/years of service you can find out easily.
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Old 02-22-2013, 12:51 PM   #57
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I never asked my parents what they made, but they either told me or I picked it up from conversations. I do remember my dad talking with me one day about what his salary came out to on an hourly basis. Basically, he was trying to impart to me how long he had to work in order to afford some of the things we spent money on. I doubt they would have worried about me "blabbing" to my friends, as I didn't need a salary comparison to know that in my hometown full of upper class folks, my upper middle class family had nothing to brag about.

I'll probably share this sort of information with my own kid when she gets old enough for the same reasons my parents did with me: So that she doesn't take for granted any of the nice things we have.
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I've never understood the secrecy either. I always knew how much my dad made growing up. I just never knew how much they spent every month, or how much stuff cost! My parents were habitual overspenders. I wish I had known THAT when I was younger. I learned how to manage money upon finding out in my adulthood how much in debt my parents actually were. Salary is an arbitrary number. Household spending is a much more important thing to make kids aware of.

My husband is in the military. His salary is viewable to the public. It's not a secret.
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They could figure it out. We talk careers with them and my older one is trying to figure out what to do in life. She has looked at the Occupational Outlook Handbook, which would give her a ballpark number.
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I've never understood the secrecy either. I always knew how much my dad made growing up. I just never knew how much they spent every month, or how much stuff cost! My parents were habitual overspenders. I wish I had known THAT when I was younger. I learned how to manage money upon finding out in my adulthood how much in debt my parents actually were. Salary is an arbitrary number. Household spending is a much more important thing to make kids aware of.

My husband is in the military. His salary is viewable to the public. It's not a secret.


It's not that it's a "secret" but I do know my kids until much older had no real "concept" of salaries.

If I told my kids, we make say 150K, my sons would think "rich" which for where we live is the farthest thing from it.

So imo simply saying I make 85,000 dollars is a pretty useless number. why would they need that. If my kids did ask say "how much do you make" my first response would probably be "what do you need to know"? and then take the discussion from there.

Now as far as wills and stuff go, they know where they are and they know who they would have to get in contact with should some thing happen to me. their guardian and the executor of the estate would have to be notified and they know how to do that.
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