Spinoff of the Special Snowflake Thread - Your Biggest Parenting Regret (Babies)

[badblackpug]

I am truly hoping Disneyatlast is a troll, sincerely hoping.....

Now you can call me crazy, delusional. demented, unhappy, perfect whatever you want, but the issue here is not the gender of the parent/child or the age of the child, the issue here is an adult that refuses to acknowledge the clearly defined personal physical boundaries of a child. The "unsettling" factor is just added to by the fact that it is just one of his children he singles out, particularly when the children are different genders. This is not typical or normal behavior from an adult.

I know that you think everyone here is picking on you, but just imagine that your son goes to school, or the pediatrician, or some other mandated reporter and says, "I like to sleep in my own room, but my dad makes me sleep in his bed with him, and sometimes he comes in my room after I'm asleep and takes me out of my bed and brings me into bed with him."

This would be reported to DCS in a minute. Probably less than a minute.

Even if there is nothing nefarious going on here, what you and your husband are teaching your son is that adults do not need to honor his personal, physical boundaries. As someone who has a degree in early childhood development you see how devastating that could be.

BTW, I'm a nurse, if your son came into the office and made the statement above I would be required to report it to DCS. As a nurse, you know that, too.

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Originally Posted by wvjules

I think maybe someone has fallen off their rocker, and I'm not taking about Betty White.

This made me lol

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Originally Posted by badblackpug

I am truly hoping Disneyatlast is a troll, sincerely hoping.....

Now you can call me crazy, delusional. demented, unhappy, perfect whatever you want, but the issue here is not the gender of the parent/child or the age of the child, the issue here is an adult that refuses to acknowledge the clearly defined personal physical boundaries of a child. The "unsettling" factor is just added to by the fact that it is just one of his children he singles out, particularly when the children are different genders. This is not typical or normal behavior from an adult.

I know that you think everyone here is picking on you, but just imagine that your son goes to school, or the pediatrician, or some other mandated reporter and says, "I like to sleep in my own room, but my dad makes me sleep in his bed with him, and sometimes he comes in my room after I'm asleep and takes me out of my bed and brings me into bed with him."

This would be reported to DCS in a minute. Probably less than a minute.

Even if there is nothing nefarious going on here, what you and your husband are teaching your son is that adults do not need to honor his personal, physical boundaries. As someone who has a degree in early childhood development you see how devastating that could be.

BTW, I'm a nurse, if your son came into the office and made the statement above I would be required to report it to DCS. As a nurse, you know that, too.

Well said. Especially the boundaries explanation and how, as the boy gets older, others may see it.

[wvjules]

You don't need to have the account cancelled to not come back. You just don't come back. Simple.

[msjprincess]

Originally Posted by DisneyATlast

The ignoring method obviously doesn't work here.

I just keep getting "infractions" for MY rude comments. I went ahead and cussed the moderator to make sure I go ahead and have my account cancelled.

There are some real fruit loops here. Then again, what can you expect from people who wear Mickey Mouse ears for fun?

You can say that again

[wvjules]

Originally Posted by msjprincess

You can say that again

There are some real froot loops here.

[North of Mouse]

Originally Posted by DisneyATlast

The ignoring method obviously doesn't work here.

I just keep getting "infractions" for MY rude comments. I went ahead and cussed the moderator to make sure I go ahead and have my account cancelled.

There are some real fruit loops here. Then again, what can you expect from people who wear Mickey Mouse ears for fun?

I've just been lurking, but now you are really going to extremes - cursing the moderator? For real?

This really makes a person seem truly unbalanced. To really ignore (if this *was* your intent) is to simply *stop* posting when you said you were, more than once, if I recall. Just don't keep . You are just digging a deeper pit

[Granny square]

Lol, the biggest snowflake here is your husband who uses your child for comfort. I wouldn't worry about what goes in in bed of others. I could go nurse my baby and come back to a nice big bed for people who wanted comfort and time with one another and not some some grade school kid.

But then again my husband made time during daylight hours to spend time with our boys.

[Scurvy]

Originally Posted by DisneyATlast

The ignoring method obviously doesn't work here.

I just keep getting "infractions" for MY rude comments. I went ahead and cussed the moderator to make sure I go ahead and have my account cancelled.

There are some real fruit loops here. Then again, what can you expect from people who wear Mickey Mouse ears for fun?

It strikes me as funny that you are named DisneyATlast and yet you are calling people who wear Mickey ears fruit loops. As a member of a Disney board, and with a name like yours, I'd think you were a Disney fan just like all the ear wearing folks.

You know the fact that you have an account doesn't mean you are required to post, don't you? Why not just walk away instead of trying to get banned?

You are obviously bothered by the fact that so many people find your situation abnormal. I hope that once your initial anger has subsided, you are able to look at the situation clearly and consider whether it really is as healthy as you seem to think it is. I don't think someone would react the way you are if they were truly as comfortable with the situation as you claim to be. Your reaction just seems too much like the old "The lady doth protest too much" scenario to me.

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Originally Posted by DisneyATlast

Get a life you miserable hag.

Why are you so obsessed with me?

You badger EVERYBODY and act like your crap doesn't stink.

Nice

[jennyjinx3]

Originally Posted by Janepod

Quote:
Originally Posted by DisneyATlast
Are you mental?
Of course, I'm being judged by people who don't sleep in the same beds or even rooms as their spouses, don't let their children cry, and think that men serving as banks while they play parent is "normal."
What the heck does this mean???

It means something like this:
http://www.disboards.com/showpost.ph...&postcount=382

"I like when people have such strong opinions about people not paying "their own way," but when talking numbers, they only mention "DH's check." Ironic."

I am still confused. I must be having a slow day. Too me it sounds like a dig at SAHMs.

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Originally Posted by jennyjinx3

I am still confused. I must be having a slow day. Too me it sounds like a dig at SAHMs.

She's YAGEing(is that a word??? Lol)

I call trouble maker from the beginning.

[2disneyboys]

Back ON topic...

my biggest parenting regret (and I know I'll have more as my kids are only 9 and 12) is that I didn't try pumping with my 1st baby. I tried to BF, and that didn't work out (not getting into why) and I just went right to formula. With my 2nd, I tried BF again, again, didn't work out, so I rented a hospital grade pump, and pumped and pumped and pumped.. I went back to work when DS2 was 6 weeks old. At that point I only pumped in the evenings & on weekends. I didn't pump during the day at all. But because of pumping & freezing, my DS2 was exclusive breast milk until he was almost 8 months old. At that point, supply was pretty much gone so he finished the year w/ breast milk & formula supplemented. I wish I had pumped w/ my first.

I also wish I had not spent so much money on bunches of useless stuff that they never used or never played with.

I do agree w/ previous posters though... I think we are all just parents doing the best we can at the time based on the information and resources available to us. with this in mind, I don't "really" regret anything.

[crashbb]

Originally Posted by DisneyATlast

If you're going to go out, go out with a bang.

By the way, I would never wear Mickey ears or any other cartoon junk. Disney World is for kids. Duh.

And you are posting on a Disney message board, why?

Now, I've never work Mickey ears (or, as an adult, anything with a character on it), but I'd be a hypocrite if I made comments like you are making while on a Disney message board.

[Granny square]

Originally Posted by DisneyATlast

Get a life you miserable hag.

Why are you so obsessed with me?

You badger EVERYBODY and act like your crap doesn't stink.

Lol, really? Have you read your posts ragging inn all who make different choices than you? If so then you would understand my amusement. Lol, or obsession. . As far as miserable? Not quite.