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Old 02-07-2013, 08:37 AM   #46
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I also have a problem with meetings at work -- the culture of our office is to set off for the meeting (we have 10 floors) at the time the meeting is going to START. The first month I was at the office, I couldn't understand why I was in a conference room all by myself when the meeting was supposed to have started.

I've started sending the meeting invite for 10 minutes before I want the meeting to begin.

Grr.....
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Old 02-07-2013, 09:29 AM   #47
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While I am annoyed with habitually late friends, I am even more annoyed by people who arrive perpetually early (but only at somebody's house, not a restaurant or outside location.) If the invitation states 6pm, that does not mean 5:30 or even 5:50. I noticed many people say that 10 to 30 minutes early is their version of ontime. I hope you are not showing up at people's houses 30 minutes early.

I find it equally rude, if not more rude to impose on your host/hostess earlier than when they invited you.

And no, I and most everybody I know, do not like their guests arriving early, saying they "can help out" or "put me to work."

That said, the best late story:

DS plays high school football. He plays on both Varsity and JV. This fall, he was asked to play down to the Freshman team as their entire O line was either out with injuries or academically ineligible that week. So, he agreed. Loves the sport and more play time the better.

So, the team they were playing was supposed to be pretty good. Imagine our surprise when the bus pulled up and 11 players got off. Yup, 11. We were wondering how these kids were going to play both sides of the ball for 4 quarters with no subs.

Come to find out, the coach was having an attitude problem with the team. They were told to show up at the bus at a certain time. They were habitually late, causing the team to be late to their games.

So, the coach was fed up. He left three quarters of the team at the school when they did not show up on time.

Had to admire that coach that he would sacrifice a game to teach the boys a lesson on punctuality and team work.
OMG, YES! If I say come to dinner at 7, do not arrive a minute before, because I may still be in sweats and running around the kitchen like a maniac. I can't stand people trying to "help", after almost 11 years of marriage my MIL has finally learned to just sit in the living room with her glass of wine until dinner is ready.
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Old 02-07-2013, 10:24 AM   #48
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My hubby and I are constantly on time. We are always the first. Sometimes driving around the neighborhood before knocking on the door.

We live in California. We made friends with our sons high school football team mates parents who are from my husband's home state Iowa. At one game they invited us to their home in Newport Beach to watch Iowa play on New Years Day. My husband was exicited to watch Iowa play with a fellow Hawkeye fan. He was happy! It was an early game - 9:00 am - New Years morning...get where this is going?

I got up at 6:00 am to get ready. Hubby picked up the babysitter at 7:00 am to stay with daughter as we were taking the older sons. They had no small children. This man and my hubby hit it off. He invited us to come to his home to watch Iowa play right. We get the teen age boys up. Half asleep. We get there early and drive around until my hubby was going nuts - 10 minutes to game time.

We knock on the door. No answer. Knock again. No answer. Two minutes to game time - hubby kinda pounds on the door. This guy comes down in his underware to answer the door and seems like he forgot he even invited us! My eyes, my eyes! Did I really need to see this man in his skanky underware?

We go into a dark quiet house - no one up - don't know how to turn the TV on. We wait and wait. It was so gross. He comes down in sweats, turns the game on and goes back upstairs. The wife didn't come down until half time.

No food. No coffee. They had told us to come for breakfast and watch the game. We took the invite seriously. I would have brought something!

Throughout the first quarter their guests, family, come down from bed and continue to lay all over the couches. They were obviously so hung over!

It was so uncomfortable. The wife comes down and goes through her cookbooks and then leaves. No explanation. Just takes off. Was she mad we were there? I was there when they both invited us! I took off and went to the grocery store and brought back food. He finally made coffee.

We still talk about that all the time. We could have stayed home, as it was raining and all...stayed in OUR pjs and had our coffee and breakfast.

We never did that again and I never really gave her or him my time after that. I was so mad I had a babysitter with my daughter when we could have been home eating pancakes and bacon with her.

There was no room to sit as their 'nephews' or whoever were sprawled out on the couches. I was sitting on the stairs pissed off but my husband just wanted to watch Iowa play. The things we do
Wow. I have to admit, although I would have been ticked off, there's a time to cut bait. If it was obvious that we weren't expected, I would have left, headed home and caught the second half. I can't imagine running to the grocery store for food, etc unless it was my sister or BFF!!
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Old 02-07-2013, 10:54 AM   #49
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worst late person story:

My sister is habitually late---and there is always an excuse. Every. Time. We always lie to her about the start time of family functions. There is nothing to do to change her. She wont change.

SOOOOO--she and my brother in law decided to throw his mother (my sister's MIL) a surprise, casual 90th birthday party at their home. They didn't send the invite out until 4 days before the party. She calls me and asks if I minded coming a little early to help out and would I mind bringing a small appetizer. She was making chili and it was going to be casual. Sure. No problem. (BTW- I have three children and live an hour away)

Guests are supposed to be arriving at 4:00 pm, so I tell my husband.. "I don't want us to get there until 3:30 because I don't want to be stuck doing all of the work. But I do want to help my sister out a bit. "

We arrive at 3:35 pm the day of the party with my appetizer and three children. We walk in the house and its empty. No chili is cooking, nothing is sitting out. Not even a bowl of nuts. There is a stack of napkins in the middle of the coffee table but that's it. I yell for my sister but there was no answer. I call her on her cell. She is at the grocery store getting stuff for the party. Including the makings for chili. Its now 3:40. My mom arrives with an appetizer in hand and my brother in law pops out of the basement with his pajamas on saying that he finished a sign for the party on posterboard that says "Happy 90th, Mom!!" It is now 3:50, my sister calls and asks of her husband has gone to the Liquor store yet for drinks. He says "No--I've been working on a sign!" She says, "nevermind--it'll just be easier if I go there now."
At 3:55 the door bell rings--the first guest has arrived and they're early. my brother in law asks me to answer the door as he runs upstairs because he "has to take a shower". Guests start to arrive and are introducing themselves to me b/c they think I'm the hostess--and I'm not!! Thank God we at least had the brie pastries and veggie/dip tray that my mom and I brought. at 4:07 my sister runs into the house with her arms full of groceries. She still has to start the chili and put out drinks. It all ended fine but I cannot imagine living my life like that.

Seriously. This is how they live. It's awful.
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worst late person story:

My sister is habitually late---and there is always an excuse. Every. Time. We always lie to her about the start time of family functions. There is nothing to do to change her. She wont change.

SOOOOO--she and my brother in law decided to throw his mother (my sister's MIL) a surprise, casual 90th birthday party at their home. They didn't send the invite out until 4 days before the party. She calls me and asks if I minded coming a little early to help out and would I mind bringing a small appetizer. She was making chili and it was going to be casual. Sure. No problem. (BTW- I have three children and live an hour away)

Guests are supposed to be arriving at 4:00 pm, so I tell my husband.. "I don't want us to get there until 3:30 because I don't want to be stuck doing all of the work. But I do want to help my sister out a bit. "

We arrive at 3:35 pm the day of the party with my appetizer and three children. We walk in the house and its empty. No chili is cooking, nothing is sitting out. Not even a bowl of nuts. There is a stack of napkins in the middle of the coffee table but that's it. I yell for my sister but there was no answer. I call her on her cell. She is at the grocery store getting stuff for the party. Including the makings for chili. Its now 3:40. My mom arrives with an appetizer in hand and my brother in law pops out of the basement with his pajamas on saying that he finished a sign for the party on posterboard that says "Happy 90th, Mom!!" It is now 3:50, my sister calls and asks of her husband has gone to the Liquor store yet for drinks. He says "No--I've been working on a sign!" She says, "nevermind--it'll just be easier if I go there now."
At 3:55 the door bell rings--the first guest has arrived and they're early. my brother in law asks me to answer the door as he runs upstairs because he "has to take a shower". Guests start to arrive and are introducing themselves to me b/c they think I'm the hostess--and I'm not!! Thank God we at least had the brie pastries and veggie/dip tray that my mom and I brought. at 4:07 my sister runs into the house with her arms full of groceries. She still has to start the chili and put out drinks. It all ended fine but I cannot imagine living my life like that.

Seriously. This is how they live. It's awful.
And this explains why I am not a late person. It is for my own preservation, as I could not stand inviting that level of stress and rushing around into my life. Maybe some people thrive on it, I don't know.
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I'm an on time person. Spouse is a late person. If we're meeting for lunch, I say a time 15 minutes earlier than the real time. If we're driving somewhere for vacation, I say I want to leave an hour earlier than I want to leave. I'm going to have to increase that to an hour and a half. If we're hosting a get together, I tell my spouse it's one hour earlier than it is.
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We knock on the door. No answer. Knock again. No answer. Two minutes to game time - hubby kinda pounds on the door. This guy comes down in his underware to answer the door and seems like he forgot he even invited us! My eyes, my eyes! Did I really need to see this man in his skanky underware?
PixieDuster, this is about the time I would have said Oh. I guess you forgot you invited us and weren't expecting us.... Well some other time then. Sorry to wake you. Then I would have left. It's already awkward and I'd be thinking at that point staying would be more of the same or worse. And as you posted, it was.
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PixieDuster, this is about the time I would have said Oh. I guess you forgot you invited us and weren't expecting us.... Well some other time then. Sorry to wake you. Then I would have left. It's already awkward and I'd be thinking at that point staying would be more of the same or worse. And as you posted, it was.
Agreed, there's no way in he!! I would have stayed, how awkward for everyone! But then, I can't imagine inviting ANYONE to my home at 9 AM on New Years day for anything!
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I am an early/on time person. However, if I'm early & its an event at someone's home, I either drive around the neighborhood or park & read my book or something for a bit. I despise people being late. It's a poor use of my time having to wait for them and to me, it's the height of rudeness.. they may as well say thier time is more important than my time. I have actually said this to my sister (one of my habitual late peoples) and she is like, no, its not that, I just always run behind. I asked her if she would be late for a meeting with the President of USA, or a King or a Movie Star & she's like, of course not! and my answer is then, well why is THIER time more important to you than MY time. She looked at me, shook her head, hugged me & said, your right, I'm sorry. That girl has never been late to anything involving me since then... over 5 years!

This is a big diff between the occassional "opsie" late vs habitual late. Everyone at some point or other has an opsie late.. traffic, unexpected something.. whatever. I do my best to not let this annoy me because things happen but once it becomes habitual, I speak up to the person. I am not a doormat!

Also, I never "wait" on the late person if I'm serving food or having entertainment. Why should I punish everyone who is on time by having a rushed performance or cold food?.
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I know I am about to get flamed, but I still want to speak in my own defense.

I am one of those people of whom who are all speaking with such hostility and contempt. Yup, I run late! Not horribly late like some of these stories, but it is a struggle for me to arrive anywhere on time. Typically it is around 5-10 minutes.

This is not done in an attempt to be in control of the situation, not out of selfishness or any other passive aggressive motives. It just happens. Usually I end up being like the kids story about giving a moose a muffin. (for those who don't know, it's a series of events that play off the previous event...if you give a moose a muffin he'll want some butter, then he'll make a mess, then he......and ends up back at the beginning). I can think I left adequate time to get out the door....but then I realize I forgot to take the meat out of the freezer, then the phone rings and like a dummy I answer it, the phone call ends up being a doctors office calling about my husbands appt I didn't know he had, on the way to the phone I grab some water and spill it all over myself, then I have to change shirts which then don't match my shoes, etc, etc, etc.

At times I admit to being disorganized. But apparently not too bad since I always seem to be asked to organize something or other by my friends and co-volunteers.

If I was perpetually really late to things, I wouldn't blame someone for leaving. But a phone call first would sure be nice. There is no reason to have a stand-off on being rude.

People who are always early drive me nuts. I see that as a waste of time. While I don't want people to have to wait for me, if you are early aren't you just wasting your own time? Being early is NOT on time and being on time is NOT late. Do not show up at my house early. I will not be prepared for you 90% of the time. You are now cutting into my prep time and stressing me out. That is not a laudable attribute. Our best friends show up early to almost all gatherings. At my house at least they are family and make themselves at home and I will give tasks if there are any to be done. But I have seen them show up early to other homes and then they just make everyone uncomfortable sitting like a lump waiting for the event to begin.
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I know I am about to get flamed, but I still want to speak in my own defense.

I am one of those people of whom who are all speaking with such hostility and contempt. Yup, I run late! Not horribly late like some of these stories, but it is a struggle for me to arrive anywhere on time. Typically it is around 5-10 minutes.

This is not done in an attempt to be in control of the situation, not out of selfishness or any other passive aggressive motives. It just happens. Usually I end up being like the kids story about giving a moose a muffin. (for those who don't know, it's a series of events that play off the previous event...if you give a moose a muffin he'll want some butter, then he'll make a mess, then he......and ends up back at the beginning). I can think I left adequate time to get out the door....but then I realize I forgot to take the meat out of the freezer, then the phone rings and like a dummy I answer it, the phone call ends up being a doctors office calling about my husbands appt I didn't know he had, on the way to the phone I grab some water and spill it all over myself, then I have to change shirts which then don't match my shoes, etc, etc, etc.

At times I admit to being disorganized. But apparently not too bad since I always seem to be asked to organize something or other by my friends and co-volunteers.

If I was perpetually really late to things, I wouldn't blame someone for leaving. But a phone call first would sure be nice. There is no reason to have a stand-off on being rude.

People who are always early drive me nuts. I see that as a waste of time. While I don't want people to have to wait for me, if you are early aren't you just wasting your own time? Being early is NOT on time and being on time is NOT late. Do not show up at my house early. I will not be prepared for you 90% of the time. You are now cutting into my prep time and stressing me out. That is not a laudable attribute. Our best friends show up early to almost all gatherings. At my house at least they are family and make themselves at home and I will give tasks if there are any to be done. But I have seen them show up early to other homes and then they just make everyone uncomfortable sitting like a lump waiting for the event to begin.
No flames from me, this describes me to a T. Just this morning as I was fixing my coffee for work, it spilled all over the counter and down the crack between the counter and the stove. So, I just cleaned it up the best I could until I get home tonight, plus I had to make an unscheduled stop at Dunkin Donuts because no one wants to deal with me with no coffee. Fortunately, my job is flexible so if I'm a little late, it's no big deal as long as my work gets done.
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My pet peeve is people who are habitually late and don't think it's a big deal. Rude, rude, rude!!! Don't call me while I'm sitting at the restaurant, on time, and tell me you're on your way-20 minutes away, which means you haven't even left your house yet.

Don't call me and say you're in a meeting for an hour when I'm expecting you in 10 minutes.

I know stuff happens. I know it happens more than once. If you put me in a place where I am left wasting my time waiting for you...I'm not happy-I am busy too. I'm just not rude, disorganized, thoughtless or arrogant about our friendship or relationship. From now on, you go to voice mail. I MAY get back to you in a few days. From now on, you call me when you get to our appointed meeting place and then I'll leave my house. I'll get more bills paid, laundry done, books read, long baths taken, children sorted out, vacations planned. You waste my time no more!!

Vent over.
I had to laugh when I read this, because I used to be the same way. People showing up late really used to get under my skin!

But we recently moved closer to DH's family, and I've found out that they are all that way. More specifically, my FIL, whom I work with. He's always running 20-30 minutes late. Or he'll call at our appointed time, to say that he can't make it, and needs to reschedule. (That's really annoying!!)

However, he's a really sweet old guy, (in his 70's), and he doesn't do it to be rude. He's a real estate broker, and that just sort of goes with his line of work.

But it's taken awhile for me to get used to this. DH and I are very punctual people, so I was a little taken back to know that his whole family are "late" people! FIL being late is understandable, but when I'm just hanging out with MIL or SILs for lunch or shopping....well you shouldn't be running 20 minutes late all the time for that stuff!

One thing that's really funny: When MIL invites all of us over for dinner, my SILs are always late. DH and I show up on time, and we're all sitting around the dinner table waiting on SILs.....they always show up 15 minutes later. Everyone is used to it, so we usually just start eating without them.
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People who are always early drive me nuts. I see that as a waste of time. While I don't want people to have to wait for me, if you are early aren't you just wasting your own time? Being early is NOT on time and being on time is NOT late.
But, it isn't wasting YOUR time for me to be early. And I am not a person who knocks on someone's door at 6:30 for a 7 o'clock party- I will wait in the car, drive around the block a few times, or run a short errand to fill the time.

When others show up late (5 minutes or 45), it tells me they think their time is more valuable than mine. If someone doesn't build any "wiggle room" into their preparation time, they end up late, as you state you often are. So, because someone doesn't want to waste their own time arriving early, they end up wasting others time making them wait for them.
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My sister is always late. Ugh. We all hate it.

She has 4 kids and they are all early. Funny how that works.

DH and I are early. I am early because he is early. I was late once and he drove around the block and I thought he'd left me, lol. That was 25 years ago. I saw him leave plenty of people though so I knew he'd do it.

DD is also early. She says all her college friends run late.

The thing that bugs me most is people late for their hair appointments. Every once in a while you can understand but some people are always late. Well, guess what? If you are 15 mins late, you'll get a wash and cut, not style. If it is over 15 mins., you can reschedule. Why punish the rest of my day and the people on my book because one person thinks the world revolves around themselves???
My stylist is always late. It started out me getting to my appointment (15 minutes early) and having her text me and say I'm running late. And it happened every single time. So now I don't leave me house until the time of the appointment because sure enough she texts me and says she is running late. She is a little scattered (!), but I like the job she does so I just try and deal with it.
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I read somewhere about late people being "Time optimists". THey simply think they can get more accomplished in a shorter period then a realistic time frame. They are often too optimistic about travel time, people's expectations etc....
I still say RUDE.
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