|01-25-2013, 01:39 PM||#1|
Are We There Yet?
Join Date: Jul 2008
Spinoff of "Too Young to be Married"
Were you "warned" that you weren't ready to get married by family/friends? Not necessarily because of age, but for any reason?
And not a joke warning (doesn't every man get one or two of those?), but people who were seriously trying to make you reconsider.
And how do you feel about people sharing their feelings on this issue?
Both DH and I were warned.
His father told him he should be out enjoying his youth/sewing his wild oats. That he was too young to get married (we were both 22).
A friend of my aunts (yeah, a stranger) told me that my long-distance relationship with a military guy was doomed to failure (because is didn't work out for her in her youth).
We were not offended by DFil's suggestion. He said it kindly and was trying to be helpful. I was pretty annoyed with the stranger who just assumed she knew all about us based on her own failed relationship, but it did make me think twice, and consider whether I was making a good choice.
We both ignored the warnings and have been happily married for 17.5 years.
I have never told anyone I thought they were making a mistake when they got married. I admit that in two instances I did have concerns, but I took part in both ceremonies and held my tongue. In the long run, neither of those marriages lasted. I really doubt it would have made a difference if I had said something.
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