I just don't care... small vent

[meggiebeth]

It does sound harsh to say you don't care if your colleague has had a stroke. That was mean. A stroke is a horrible thing and to say you don't care if someone has one isn't very nice at all.

That said, some people do say these things for attention, and that bugs me to no end. My 'friend' (she is pretty nasty to me) always goes on about how she is severely depressed, and how the French teacher is abusing her (by not giving her the answers but making her work them out herself). She also has her own 'religion' that she goes on about, and says she will become a Buddhist when she is sixteen. It drives me and everyone else crazy and personally I just really dislike attention seekers... Especially when they make things up to get more attention. Somehow I don't think someone could make up a stroke though...

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[Trek Girl]

Sometimes, people may not realize they're oversharing. I'm not saying I think the co-worker overshared in this instance, but some people don't have many (or any) friends at work, and/or they may not have anyone else to talk to outside the office, either. So when they get the opportunity for conversation, they jump on it, even if it's with someone they rarely interact with. Just something to consider.

[Indy Denise]

Oh! The irony of the OP coming here to vent about someone else
"over sharing " .

Methinks the OP overshared when venting..seriously. I usually do not care what someone else thinks, vents, etc here..but this one is very amusing..in a hypocritical, strange way.

[furb & dez]

Originally Posted by Indy Denise

Oh! The irony of the OP coming here to vent about someone else
"over sharing " .

Methinks the OP overshared when venting..seriously. I usually do not care what someone else thinks, vents, etc here..but this one is very amusing..in a hypocritical, strange way.

It's not hypocrisy; these boards exist to facilitate oversharing. Work exists for... work.

[Gumbo4x4]

I would tend to find the answer given to OP to be tiresome as well. And it's all in the presentation. I could imagine myself zoning out midway through that. OTOH, if he had simply said, "I'm not supposed to drive & need to see about a cab", it would have piqued my interest enough to ask why and then listen. I guess I just enjoy an actual conversation more than being force fed someone's life story against my will - even if we cover the same ground either way

[tasha99]

Oversharing and not being able to understand facial/verbal/social cues could actually be a direct result of having a stroke, especially if it was in the right hemisphere of the brain.

[Rylee]

Originally Posted by sam_gordon

Background... One of my coworkers ('A') gets a cab to/from work every day.

The story... A coworker ('B') passes me in the hallway and asks if I've seen 'A'. Me: No, can I help you ('A' and I worked in similar departments and often I can do what he does)?
B: Well, you may know I had some medical issue (he might have said a small stroke) a while back and I'm still not allowed to drive. I have to be in at 6am on 'x' day to fill in for 'C', and my wife is working late the night before and won't be home until 1am. It wouldn't be good for me to ask her to bring me to work, so I wanted to talk to 'A' about the cab company he uses and how much it costs and how reliable they are. Can you tell 'A' I'm looking for him?
Me:uh, sure.

Why are people so willing to share medical issues? I'm sorry, I really don't care. A simple "I need to talk to him about the cab company he uses" would have been just fine.

I was about to share what I thought of this situation, but never mind... I'm sure you don't care.

[Andtototoo]

Originally Posted by mfd25wife

It sounds a little cold, but then again... I'm from the south.

It sounds a little cold, but then again... I'm from NY.

[Indy Denise]

Originally Posted by furb & dez

It's not hypocrisy; these boards exist to facilitate oversharing. Work exists for... work.

Nope! When I am working I am often here! .

Perhaps the Op posts here while working? The OP post time was 10:28 am.

[Piggeldy]

Originally Posted by soccerdad72

On a scale of oversharing, with 10 being a vivid description of one's colonoscopy and 1 being their name, I give this one a 3.

One of my coworkers (a male in his early 60s) is an 11 on your scale. I (a female in my early 30s) really, really, really don't need to hear about his colonoscopies (yes, plural), his colon cancer (in detail), his ostomy bags (my aunt had the same surgery, I never heard any details... and heck, she's my AUNT!), the surgery to close his ostomy, how he has to go to the bathroom at least twice and hour and everything else that I even think is too embarrassing to share with a board where nobody knows me or him or will every get to know one of us.

Giving an explanation of why you need to aks "A" about the cab company (and you are not just too lazy or too posh to take a car) is a max. of 3 on that scale. 1 being "Hi, I am looking for "A", have you seen him?" and 2 being "Can you tell him I am looking for him".

That is how differently people percieve situations

[marcgiu]

OP. Maybe your co - worker should have tried to use as little words as possible. Like......

Man who get cab!
You know?
I look for him.

Would that be better?

[marlynnp]

So what? We should care that you don't care??? You're not that interesting.

[U2_rocks!]

Originally Posted by Gumbo4x4

I would tend to find the answer given to OP to be tiresome as well. And it's all in the presentation. I could imagine myself zoning out midway through that. OTOH, if he had simply said, "I'm not supposed to drive & need to see about a cab", it would have piqued my interest enough to ask why and then listen. I guess I just enjoy an actual conversation more than being force fed someone's life story against my will - even if we cover the same ground either way

I think this is exactly me.

Honestly, all that details given by "B" wasn't strictly necessary - it was oversharing. There may be good reasons for it, it could just be "B's" personality etc., but that doesn't change the fact that extraneous details were given. The OP obviously wasn't in the mood to listen to an explanation. Maybe they are a "get to the point" person like I am. I am either trying to accomplish something or I am chatting - I am not used to the two getting mixed up. If you are asking me for help then get to the point. We can chat afterwards.

[sam_gordon]

Originally Posted by marlynnp

So what? We should care that you don't care??? You're not that interesting.

Yet you bothered to post.

[marcgiu]

I know I should care that you don’t care about someone that I think you should care about.
However I don’t care that you don’t care about us not caring about you not caring about this person.

It’s all about caring (or not)