Originally Posted by teacherforhi
I don't expect normal. However, it concerns me when teenagers start confusing possessive boyfriend behavior with devotion. Someone who tells you where to go and who you may associate with doesn't love you, he views you as a possession.
And yes, for the record, I know it's fiction. However, there are a great many people (teen girls in particular) who seem to believe that Bella and Edward have the perfect relationship and wouldn't hesitate to let a boyfriend treat them that way because it means he loves her.
This. I found the series disturbing for a few reasons (mainly that dreck that badly written was published, nevermind got popular, heh) but the relationship portrayed as normal and loving was primary. I don't like girls reading it, or I suppose watching it, though it hadn't occurred to me prior to this thread that people would watch the movies without reading the books, for the above reason. Adults engaging in fantasy is different; adults engage in all manner of fantasies they'd never actually want to come true, but girls thinking this is an ok, nevermind idyllic relationship is a problem, imo.
As to Bella being the problem, I think they're both awful, thinly, sadly-drawn characters and the entire relationship is a dire mess. Her pathetic, helpless, agent-less idiocy is bad enough but if someone I know told me their bf snuck in the house to watch them sleep, I'd be taking them to the locksmith and the courthouse for a restraining order.
The part where the book goes literally blank because she ceases to exist if he's not around is particularly egregious. Not cool.