Originally Posted by disykat
I'm curious, if we take how people "should feel" out and answer the question:
Do you think that the 14/26 6th grade girls who weren't invited might feel bad if other girls wear those shirts when they are all together at school?
Yes or no.
Can you answer "no?"
I can absolutely answer no. At least, a child that was raised to be confident and to understand that life isn't fair can. We've also been doing the bat/bat mitzvah circuit. There have been some my daughter has not been invited to, including a couple for girls in her religious school class. She's seen the favors and seen pictures and she's absolutely fine with it.
Frankly, I think the only people that truly feel bad are the parents who end up making much ado about nothing.