another WWYD

[littleteapot]

I might. It depends on how close I was to the mother and how careful I thought she would be. Lice are mostly spread through head to head contact, they don't fly. I think she would be less likely to pick up lice from this girl that she would on a random school day with classmates unaware of their infestation.

If she spends a lot of time with this girl (before her mom found the lice), I would check your daughter carefully. She may already be affected.

Lice are gross and annoying, but not fatal. I give the mom great credit for being honest with you about the whole thing.

There always has to be one dissenting vote

[LauraLap]

I would let my daughter go because I'm now a lice expert - LOL - and we handle it much better now that there have been a few incidents and I have gone to some experts for help on how to deal with it.

I just wanted to re-iterate that you need to tell your friend that most "treatments" don't work. The best way to get the lice/nits out is to nit pick. I have a special comb from Lice Squad (which I think may only be in Canada) and it is amazing.

The reason my daughter kept getting nits again is because others were using the supposed "treatments". My school finally got on board with the proper way to deal with Lice and things have been much better!

[cepmom]

They haven't spent any time together recently other than going to and from school on the bus. She may very well have done a fantastic job combing her dds hair out but I still don't think it's wise to take that risk especially considering they'll be sleeping over for 3 nights.

[wdwmom0f3]

I wouldn't take the chance so I would have to say no. The mom really should just change the date to another weekend when she knows that the issue has been resolved. Personally that's what I would do because I wouldn't want to risk other kids getting it.

[Hannathy]

depends!

First how much time has your child spent with this girl recently? That is more important than the weekend. She is much more likely to have already caught them from her yesterday than she will be today or tomorrow. Plus they are going to a neutral location so that gets rid of the chance there are some in the carpeting or pillows.

I would'nt automatically say no, I would want to find out how they planned on spending most of the time and would be sending my child with their own sleeping bag and pillow and with explicit instructions not to be physically close to the girl and to not use anything she had near her head.


You do know the family could have just not told you right? Many people if they had already treated would have just not said anything.

[cepmom]

Originally Posted by Hannathy

depends!

First how much time has your child spent with this girl recently? That is more important than the weekend. She is much more likely to have already caught them from her yesterday than she will be today or tomorrow. Plus they are going to a neutral location so that gets rid of the chance there are some in the carpeting or pillows.

I would'nt automatically say no, I would want to find out how they planned on spending most of the time and would be sending my child with their own sleeping bag and pillow and with explicit instructions not to be physically close to the girl and to not use anything she had near her head.

You do know the family could have just not told you right? Many people if they had already treated would have just not said anything.

Of course I realize she could have just not said anything, I'm not angry her dd has lice! I appreciate that she told me, I was just taken back a little that she seemed to have an attitude when I told her dd couldn't go, after she told me the decision was up to me. And yes I realize that lice can be picked up anywhere, you can't really control it but to me it's different than sending your child away for 3 days with someone known to have just been treated.

[OceanAnnie]

No. No. No. Why take the risk? Rain check!

[Erin1700]

No way!

[mickeyboat]

I might. I would need to know that the mother was picking / combing her DD's hair thoroughly and repeatedly to get out all the nits.

DD13 had it several years ago, and I spent 6 hours the first day picking, 2 hours for the next two days, and an hour each day until I retreated with the shampoo. I didn't find many after the first two days, but I still took the time to check.

We also cleaned the house thoroughly once, changed her sheets and blankets every day, and vacuumed her room and mattress and our couches and floors every day for a week. We also kept her out of the bedrooms other than hers.

No one else in our family got it.

If I knew that the mother had taken the proper measures, I might allow my DD to go.

[HM]

I think you should tell your DD why you aren't sending her. It's not fair to you to look like the bad guy for no reason. Lice is a pretty common thing in schools and kids are not ostracized by others for having it (at least in my experience....DD had them twice).

[cepmom]

I'm not sure Of her plans to comb through her DD's hair each day until the 2nd treatment...she didn't want the other girls to know about it, so I'm not sure how she'd comb through the girls hair all weekend without the friends knowing ?

[mjkacmom]

Originally Posted by cepmom

I'm not sure Of her plans to comb through her DD's hair each day until the 2nd treatment...she didn't want the other girls to know about it, so I'm not sure how she'd comb through the girls hair all weekend without the friends knowing ?

Bingo - I'm guessing she won't. The last time dd9 got it, and had it professionally removed, her friend had it too. Her mom wasn't that concerned, did the treatment, combed a bit. I let my dd play with her outside, but even after warning dd about not letting their heads get close together, it was a constant (private) reminder (they both knew each other had it - in their group of friends, if someone gets it, they let others know - otherwise, other kids might have it, never know, and everyone gets infected again).

Girls just seem to be all over each other.

[StephMK]

Originally Posted by littleteapot

I might. It depends on how close I was to the mother and how careful I thought she would be. Lice are mostly spread through head to head contact, they don't fly. I think she would be less likely to pick up lice from this girl that she would on a random school day with classmates unaware of their infestation.

If she spends a lot of time with this girl (before her mom found the lice), I would check your daughter carefully. She may already be affected.

Lice are gross and annoying, but not fatal. I give the mom great credit for being honest with you about the whole thing.

There always has to be one dissenting vote

I agree and it depends on the ages of the girl. If I were the mom in question, I would have just re-scheduled and solved the whole problem. I would not want to be responsible for potentially passing it around.

My oldest got them from daycare many years ago and while it was a huge pain, the rest of our family and her BFF never got them.

A lot would depend on sleeping conditions and the types of activities the girls would be doing. I would want the girls to be aware though because you can't police them all the time and you don't want them doing each other's hair over the weekend or sharing brushes, hats, etc.

I don't blame you for not sending her though. They are not fun to deal with!

[luvsJack]

Originally Posted by littleteapot

I might. It depends on how close I was to the mother and how careful I thought she would be. Lice are mostly spread through head to head contact, they don't fly. I think she would be less likely to pick up lice from this girl that she would on a random school day with classmates unaware of their infestation.

If she spends a lot of time with this girl (before her mom found the lice), I would check your daughter carefully. She may already be affected.

Lice are gross and annoying, but not fatal. I give the mom great credit for being honest with you about the whole thing.

There always has to be one dissenting vote

Make that two! I would let dd go.

Having dealt with lice with not only my own kids, but in the child care setting too, I just don't get as wound up about as some people do.

I am always surprised in these threads the lengths some go to get rid of the things. We never had that much of a problem with it. Shampoo once and wash everything in the house in hot water (if it's in the bedroom or has been laid on and can't be washed--it goes either in a hot dryer or gets bagged up for a day or two) Comb with the nit comb a couple of times and use the shampoo again. Never did we have to do anything after that.

BTW, if by some chance you do send your dd, have her keep her hair in a ponytail and spray liberally with hair spray. Helps keep them away.

[Mkrop]

Originally Posted by cepmom

I'm not sure Of her plans to comb through her DD's hair each day until the 2nd treatment...she didn't want the other girls to know about it, so I'm not sure how she'd comb through the girls hair all weekend without the friends knowing ?

I think it is irresponsible of the mother not to have informed the school. That is how this gets spread. One year it was spread on the bus, the girls were seat mates and other than that, had no contact with each other.

I think the mom should have rescheduled.