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Old 04-20-2012, 01:14 PM   #151
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Good job, Mom
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Old 04-20-2012, 01:22 PM   #152
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I think you have come to a very sensible and mature resolution!

The only thing I might be a little flexible on is the job. I might say he has to be making a substantial effort at getting a job. Like applications into a few places, looking on line etc, only because places are very slow responding and it is hard to find something. My DD in college has been looking for something and it is taking forever and she has experience and good references.

And until he gets hired somewhere-could he cut grass or yardwork for people?


Now make sure you do something with him soon that you can both laugh at and have fun, they go away all to soon and you will miss him next fall, believe me.
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Old 04-20-2012, 01:51 PM   #153
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Well I have read everyone's suggestions and taylored them to me.

First off I have a nice long discussion with my son about skipping and how that now impacts his grades. Because the 2 instances he has skipped are unexcused it cuts his grade down significantly. His problem. Not mine.

I told him that I would be talking to him and his gf about the no gf at my house rule when we aren't home. I said I had no problem sitting down with both of them and embarrassing the heck out of them with the next topic...the dreaded sex talk . I actually entertained the idea of making them both carry around baby dolls for a few days whenever they were at my house and changing baby doll diapers, etc... That was just for giggles though! More funny than helpful probably.

I said he had to get a job by graduation in May. That one is hard since where we live in Michigan is a challenge but it's out there. If he doesn't get hired somewhere I will have to come up with something next.

I also told him it was time to start taking responsiblilty for himself. No more hand holding from me on what he is supposed to do. He needs to figure some stuff out for himself if he wants to grow up.

Thats where I am at so far.

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That sounds like a logical and reasonable resolution.
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Old 04-21-2012, 12:46 AM   #154
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To answer your question - no he did not legally lose his privilege to drive. He wasn't tickted but a police report was written up. We wouldn't let him get his license for a year after that happened and he had other punishments. We dealt with that at the time and while it still frosts my buns I am letting it go and focusing on the here and now.
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OP... We do the best we can and hope, it's the right thing. I sincerely wish you the best.
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Old 04-21-2012, 09:30 AM   #155
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Well I have read everyone's suggestions and taylored them to me.

First off I have a nice long discussion with my son about skipping and how that now impacts his grades. Because the 2 instances he has skipped are unexcused it cuts his grade down significantly. His problem. Not mine.

I told him that I would be talking to him and his gf about the no gf at my house rule when we aren't home. I said I had no problem sitting down with both of them and embarrassing the heck out of them with the next topic...the dreaded sex talk . I actually entertained the idea of making them both carry around baby dolls for a few days whenever they were at my house and changing baby doll diapers, etc... That was just for giggles though! More funny than helpful probably.

I said he had to get a job by graduation in May. That one is hard since where we live in Michigan is a challenge but it's out there. If he doesn't get hired somewhere I will have to come up with something next.

I also told him it was time to start taking responsiblilty for himself. No more hand holding from me on what he is supposed to do. He needs to figure some stuff out for himself if he wants to grow up.

Thats where I am at so far.

Thanks for all the comments!
Sounds good to me. Just remember it is a process you have to tweak together and it will be ongoing for awhile.

Good luck on your journey!
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Old 04-21-2012, 01:42 PM   #156
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I was going to add to this, but it seems like you've come to a good resolution. Its important to have him understand the importance of just showing up and being a hard worker as that carries people through life!

Good job mom!
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Old 04-21-2012, 02:39 PM   #157
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Well I have read everyone's suggestions and taylored them to me.

First off I have a nice long discussion with my son about skipping and how that now impacts his grades. Because the 2 instances he has skipped are unexcused it cuts his grade down significantly. His problem. Not mine.

I told him that I would be talking to him and his gf about the no gf at my house rule when we aren't home. I said I had no problem sitting down with both of them and embarrassing the heck out of them with the next topic...the dreaded sex talk . I actually entertained the idea of making them both carry around baby dolls for a few days whenever they were at my house and changing baby doll diapers, etc... That was just for giggles though! More funny than helpful probably.

I said he had to get a job by graduation in May. That one is hard since where we live in Michigan is a challenge but it's out there. If he doesn't get hired somewhere I will have to come up with something next.

I also told him it was time to start taking responsiblilty for himself. No more hand holding from me on what he is supposed to do. He needs to figure some stuff out for himself if he wants to grow up.

Thats where I am at so far.

Thanks for all the comments!
Looks like you have a great plan.
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