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Old 01-14-2012, 04:28 AM   #1
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Asking for some advice.. I just found out that my husband is cheating on me with a girl mostly online....I know they have met up once or twice but either way it still hurts... I cannot afford to live on my own due to i only make 8.1 an hour. I am going back to school and my goal is to be stable by the time my daughter graduates high school.......(4 years) i guess i need help do i tell my husband that i know or just hold off and get my marbles in a row? We are also waiting a workman's comp case to be settled and hopefully my husband will help me out to get on my feet if he wants to end our marriage.. Need some words of advice.
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Old 01-14-2012, 04:28 PM   #2
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Yes, an emotional affair and/or a physical one hurts.

I could not wait to get this out in the open. That is me, and I'm not just saying it, I've lived it.

Personally, I got the evidence printed out first. I had proof, I wanted to have all the facts so there was no denying it.

There can be counseling to help you both, if you choose to go that route. If you both want to salvage your marriage. I would say get legal advice about your situation, as they are all unique.

I can feel your pain, and if you need or want to send a personal message, please feel free.
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Old 02-09-2012, 12:22 PM   #3
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I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. Just so you know, when my parents divorced, my dad was waiting on a lawsuit settlement from an accident at work. Splitting the settlement was actually put in the divorce papers, and my mom received half of the settlement as she was entitled to.

Make sure you retain a lawyer, because you'll need child support, the worker's comp case, and other things (possibly pensions or SS) to be laid out legally, and you'll want a lawyer to work with that. I know in a recent divorce in my family, the man had to pay the greater share of the cost of the divorce since he made so much more than his wife.

If you have proof, print it out in duplicate. You'll want one copy to give your husband and a second copy (kept somewhere else) to give the lawyer. I'd also suggest screen shots of any websites or email (use the "print screen" button on your keyboard and then paste it in to a paint document and save it with titles you'll understand), and then email those to yourself. These will also help prove your case when your husband erases all the evidence (and he will!). If he knows or might know your email address, start a new email address he doesn't know about and email all evidence to yourself. That way, it's someplace he can't get to it to erase.

Protect yourself, here. If he's cheating, who knows what else he'd be willing to do. Also, even if you have all these backups, it's still easy to get rid of them if you decide to try and work it out.
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Old 02-10-2012, 12:40 PM   #4
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OP, how are things going for you?
I'm sorry that you are "stuck" in this situation.

Since he has already cheated on you, be strong enough not to sleep with him again. You don't want to pick up anything.

Keep us posted, and feel free to vent any time.
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