|08-06-2011, 09:04 PM||#1|
Join Date: Mar 2007
Mom is having memory loss
UGH..I posted a few weeks ago in the community room about how to have a talk with a parent about not driving.
My Mom has been getting very forgetful lately and our concerns (me, dh, my brothers and SIL's) is that she has told us she has been getting lost while driving.
She blames it on the town...town is growing and changing so much (yes it has to some extent...but not fast enough where you cannot remember how to get around) She blames it on the bad winter we had (she didn't drive much with all the snow we had)
She got lost recently in a neighboring town because she went down the wrong street and she said she could not find her way back to Main Street for a while. I guess she drove around until she found it.
So a few weeks ago I did borrow her car (because I really did need an extra car that week)...then when I was supposed to give it back my brother called her and asked if he could use it.
So I take her to her Dr (calling the Dr first) and the Dr. brings up driving and in a very gentle way explains to Mom we need to find out why she is getting forgetful and until then it would be best if she didn't drive. I said in front of the Dr. the car is now in my town and it will stay there until we figure out what is wrong with her.
Mom took it well, extremely to well.... Until this morning. She called here at
8am (I was in the shower) so she hung up and called my SIL (to speak to my brother) She completely flipped out and my brother went to her house to talk with her. She had calmed down..but told my brother she will take me to court if needed to get her car back...She does not remember that my brother needed the car after me...even though I have reminded her HE has it not ME.
When db reminded her we are concerned with her getting lost...she said she will get a map of town and mark off where all the stores are so she can find her way (around a town she has lived in for 40 years!!)
She has to write everything down because she forgets stuff..even when she does write it down, she still forgets. We have to call her to remind her of stuff (another brother just got married so there was a lot going on) She need sto move because she cannot afford to live in the townhouse she is in...but she keeps putting that off and stalling...telling us she needs 6 months to a year to sort things out....One day she agrees with us that she needs to move and be closer to us and a day later she does a 180 and refuses to talk about it. UGH!!! Times like this I really miss my Dad he died 7 years ago...
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