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Old 09-15-2009, 05:25 PM   #16
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Welcome! I just started poking through your PJ and while reading, realized I left something out of mine.

DH and I met online

god bless the internet.

ok back to yours, loving it so far!
Love it! I love people who can stand up and say...we met online and WHO CARES!

You guys are going to have a blast! Can't wait to read about it!
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Old 09-15-2009, 06:01 PM   #17
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I'm joining in! You are so right, life is too short!

I also met my DH online.

My dad had a heart attack in 2005 at the age of 48. Luckily he was already in the ER when it happened as he had been having chest pains and he recovered quickly with some lifestyle changes. I know how scary it can be. I am so glad everything is working out with your BIL.
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Old 09-15-2009, 06:28 PM   #18
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It's funny you say that because my DH calls where we live God's country!

We live at the very eastern end of Long Island, NY. Summer can be a nightmare because of "summer people" but other then that it's still very peaceful and somewhat unspoiled! We have so many beautiful beaches, wonderful farms and vineyards etc! No mountains though!! LOL!!

My parents live in the Poconos in PA and lived for awhile actually on a mountain in the Catskills in NY but I want some mountains like in your pictures with snowcapped peaks etc. The Catskills and Poconos don't really have that! It's more kinda rolling hill, but big hills.

I forgot to add before that your more then welcome to my blinkie!! I'll even make you a new one! I'm contemplating the Disign board. The thing is, I know it's terribly addictive!!!
I'd love to see that part of NY, I've only been to Manhattan and there is SO much to see in NY. Rolling hills are gorgeous in their own way but you are right, they are hills. When I lived in Chicago we'd go east to ski and then complain that they weren't "real" mountains. The ice on the slopes probably bugged me more but still, it's a very different but equally beautiful, landscape. You should DISign! I love your blinkie! (even if it feels like I am writing "binkie"! )

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You guys are going to have a blast! Can't wait to read about it!
Oh it's a wonderful thing, online dating. I would NEVER have found Jeff otherwise and we were living parallel lives, just 15 minutes away from each other but far enough to have never, ever, met otherwise. My brother just got remarried as well and was mortified to tell people they'd met online. Apparently he never knew about Jeff and I. And what was even funnier is my parents were giving him a hard time until I reminded them about Jeff and I. They'd forgotten about it as well!

It is so not a secret! We are actually proud of it. And Jeff, the poor guy, dated about 50 women online over the 3 years before he met me so the great thing for me is I never have to worry about him thinking he can find someone better! I lucked out and found him almost right away. Operative words being I found him. Only time in my life where I made the first move.

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I'm joining in! You are so right, life is too short!

I also met my DH online.

My dad had a heart attack in 2005 at the age of 48. Luckily he was already in the ER when it happened as he had been having chest pains and he recovered quickly with some lifestyle changes. I know how scary it can be. I am so glad everything is working out with your BIL.
Yay and welcome LL! I'll have to get some light fictures into my PTR

Wow your dad is young! I can relate. My dad had his first heart attack at about 58 I think and he's had to make major changes but is still going strong and 13 years and 10 (I think) stents later!

At 43 though it through us for a loop. It's something Jeff worries about already for himself and this about put him over the edge. I'm so grateful he already had a physical scheduled this week for his flight certification!
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Old 09-15-2009, 07:19 PM   #19
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Meet the kids!

So we’ve had trips as kids, trips without kids and that brings us to this phase of our lives….trips WITH kids!

I love seeing Disney through my kids. I love seeing how it changes as they age. I must say, I love traveling with them to Disney, more and more as they age. I’ll go back and talk about our past trips but here is what they’ve done so far!

DL and Universal CA 2001. Evan and Eric. Eric was an absolute nightmare much of the trip. Of course so was my ex. Not sure who fed off of whom but all I do know is that taking a 13 month old to Disney is forever NOT on my list of things to do!

WDW, Kennedy Space Center and Universal Islands of Adventure 2004. Evan and Eric and their star gazing cousins. First trip to the world and they were rockstars! They don’t remember much of the trip though, which is sad. We do. It did start them down the thrill junkie path although at the time they were a bit traumatized by TOT. Yes, we were THOSE parents. Eric was 4. It was not pretty. Clearly, he’s gotten over it.

DL and Unversal CA 2004. Kendall and Taylor, with Jeff. They couldn’t make the WDW trip for a variety of reasons, Jeff and I were not yet married and their mom was even less flexible than she is now. So Jeff wanted to make it up to them and took them to DL for spring break that year. It was a bit of a soggy disaster and at that point K&T were about as far away from thrill junkies as you could get.

WDW 2008. All 4 kids! This was our make up trip. We tried to plan it for a couple years, really wanting to go over thanksgiving as with 4 kids at 4 different schools, schedule coordination is hard! But it never worked, for a variety of reasons and thanks to the magic of soccer schedules, mid winter break became a valid option and we braved the crowds to bring K&T with us. There was no WAY we were going back again without all 4 kids!

So we did!


Those crazy kids....

Eric. 9


Eric is in third grade in what we call a “highly capable” program. It is a self contained school for gifted students located in one of our districts elementary schools. It pulls from 4 schools, including our home school and has about 100 kids in it, grades 2-6. They mainstream with the rest of the school (about 400 kids) for PE and Music and some field trips. It is an amazing program and is by far, the best thing we ever did for Eric. I believe each child has their “thing” and school is Eric’s. He has just blossomed there.

Eric is also involved in cub scouts, which he loves, plays soccer ,(ok, skips lol), loves Playmobil, is a voracious reader and can entertain himself for hours doing almost nothing. He does tend to live in his own world much of the time which can cause the occasional problem, like him wandering off with strangers. At 9, not something I thought we’d still be worrying about but he is one deliberately naÔve little boy. He inherently believes everyone is good and turns a blind eye to anything different. He will talk the ear off of anyone who will listen. He is one happy, content little boy and I often wish I could live in Eric’s world, it such a nice place! He wants to be a mad scientist and inventor when he grows up and much of his chatter revolves around his invention ideas. He is a thrill junkie.
  • Favorite Ride: EE (followed by TOT!)
  • Favorite Park: MK
  • Favorite Disney Dining: Teppan Edo
  • Must do for the next trip: HOP. It was closed during our trip, much to his disappointment.

Evan. 10

Evan is ALL boy. If it involves bodily functions, harebrained construction, or anything that seems ridiculously dangerous he finds it 1) hysterical and 2) irresistible. He has a great sense of humor and an unlimited amounts of energy. He is a black belt in TaeKwonDo, currently working on his 1st degree international (having received his 1st degree national this past June). He is obsessed with baseball and currently wants to be a major league player when he grows up. He is going to have to get a LOT better for that to happen but we just love how much he loves the game, even if he isn’t all that good! He is all about sleepovers, pranks, music and…fashion. He has always been a dapper Dan and that trend seems to be continuing. He is currently obsessed with shoes. He is starting to become a great helper around the house. Our youngest member of the family, Melvin (the cat) is his pride and joy. And responsibility. He does ok with it so far. Not great, not horrible, but ok.
  • Favorite Ride: RRC. I think. It may be tied with EE
  • Favorite Park: MK
  • Favorite Disney Dining: Teppan Edo
  • Must do for the next trip: Main street barber. He is also pushing for Blizzard Beach but I think he's going to have to miss out on that. We have other plans!

Kendall. 13



Kendall is our soccer player and much of the drama with scheduling in our house revolves around soccer. But it’s worth it. She is worth it. She plays select soccer and then for our state ODP team and it’s a pretty year round venture. While we are doing our best to schedule this so she can go, it's a wildcard and will be until late spring. She may have to make a tough choice. I hope not but....we have to do our best, hope for the best and then deal with whatever comes. As a result (soccer) I'm very short on summer pictures of her that aren't of her on the field!

She also manages to do most of her 8th grade middle school sports, softball, basketball and volleyball and maintain a straight a average. If she wasn’t mine, I might have to hate her! All that pretty blond hair doesn’t hurt either! She has the normal tween drama going on, we get some silent treatments, some stomping and a lot of “I don’t know’s”. She loves anything to do with Vampires and I enjoy reading all the crazy trashy teen books with her. I wish they didn’t drink in those books (among other things!) but then remind myself I was reading Rumble Fish at her age and turned out just fine. I sure as heck wouldn’t have wanted my mom to read those books so the fact that she can share them with me, and her mom, is truly a blessing. I get to do girl things with her, which is pretty sweet for both of us. Pedicures, chick flicks, shopping. Being a bonus mom rocks. Another voracious reader she wants to be a writer when she grows up.
  • Favorite Ride: Dinosaur!
  • Favorite Park: MK
  • Favorite Disney Dining: Teppan Edo
  • Must do for the next trip: Goofy’s

Taylor. 16

Taylor is our budding rock star. Or at least he hopes to be. He is actually on the verge of joining a band so we will see how that goes. His dream is to go to Berklee School of Music, in Boston. He is starting running start this year as a high school Junior, and we have mixed feelings about it. He is doing it so he can take music theory among other things but I am saddened he is checking out of the high school experience. Thanks to soccer, we got to spend a LOT of time with Taylor this summer which was incredibly cool. It is exciting to see him really come into his own. He was our biggest fear for the Feb trip, that he’d be bored, think things were dumb, etc. He had a blast! On the first night of that trip he bought a Mexico Mickey head pin, in Epcot and it still lives on his jacket. He is one very cool kid, I got extremely lucky in the skid department!
  • Favorite Ride: RRC
  • Favorite Park: MK
  • Favorite Disney Dining: Teppan Edo
  • Must do for the next trip: Probably the Petty driving experience, if he could drive it.

We do have two other members of the family who will not be joining us but they will likely make appearances from time to time.

Hank. 11

I’ve had Hank since I was pregnant with Evan so in truth, he is my first child
As you can see, he makes himself at home. In the picture and then on my computer!


Melvin. 2

Evan’s cat (and 10th birthday present)
They fight like brothers. And love like brothers. It’s pretty cool. They are both extremely cool cats with tons of personality, more dog than cat. They meet you at the door, follow you around, lay on top of the computer and, if you are Melvin, run around like a crazy person for no apparent reason. He is crazy. But so was Hank at the same age!

Up next...Meet the In-laws!

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Old 09-15-2009, 08:47 PM   #20
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Awww...your family is beautiful!! Eric and I can't wait to start one. I think I feel like you do. Going to the "world" with kids is going to be WAY different, in a good way!
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Awww, the kids are all adorable!

My cousin goes to Berklee! I think he graduates either this spring or the following December. It is one great school for music.

I love the furry members of the family too. My Sully kitty LOVES to drape himself across my keyboard. I wake up in the mornings and everything is pushed off my desk!
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Awww...your family is beautiful!! Eric and I can't wait to start one. I think I feel like you do. Going to the "world" with kids is going to be WAY different, in a good way!
Thanks! I like them It's all good! I think the most important thing is going with someone, or someones that are open to the magic. A couples trip can be so incredible and there are so many things I'd love to do with just DH it could absolutely be it's own trip! And may well be when the kids are older.

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My cousin goes to Berklee! I think he graduates either this spring or the following December. It is one great school for music.

I love the furry members of the family too. My Sully kitty LOVES to drape himself across my keyboard. I wake up in the mornings and everything is pushed off my desk!
Are you serious? Oh boy, I would LOVE any insight he has. Poor T just has never really found that "mentor" that I think would make all the difference in pointing him in the right way to achieve his goal. He is incredibly talented but we really worry he is being too narrow in his focus. There are an awful lot of great guitar players!

Jeff would be SO mad if he found that in the am. Hank will come up and knock stuff off of Jeff's side (we share an architect style desk that is 2 sided) when he wants my attention and it drives Jeff crazy! Then Melvin sleeps in his chair and gets that white hair everywhere!

And I confess.

I let them get away with it for the most part!
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Are you serious? Oh boy, I would LOVE any insight he has. Poor T just has never really found that "mentor" that I think would make all the difference in pointing him in the right way to achieve his goal. He is incredibly talented but we really worry he is being too narrow in his focus. There are an awful lot of great guitar players!

Jeff would be SO mad if he found that in the am. Hank will come up and knock stuff off of Jeff's side (we share an architect style desk that is 2 sided) when he wants my attention and it drives Jeff crazy! Then Melvin sleeps in his chair and gets that white hair everywhere!

And I confess.

I let them get away with it for the most part!
My cousin I know started with taking only 1 or 2 classes, he wasn't considered a "full time" student or however they term it but he wanted to go there so badly that he took what he could. He's now considered a full out student, he even went to Greece to study for a semester. He's always been very involved in any type of music he can. I know he plays in a very heavy metal band but his solo music is very different from that. My brother went to school for audio engineering so they work together in making albums.

I totally let my cats get away with everything. They are my babies!
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Hi Cynthia!!

You know that I'll be along for this ride! Your family is beautiful... and so was your opening post.

My dad is having heart surgery next month and of course, we're all worried about him. Both his parents had already died from heart attacks by the time they were his age. I understand how worried you are about DBIL... how absolutely awful it must be to have to cope with hospital bills when you don't have insurance.

A magical trip to the World would be "just what the doctor ordered" (if we were the doctors!!)

I'm looking forward to reading about all your planning...


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Found you! I'll catch up on what I'm sure is an awesomely insightful and well written introduction when I can keep my eyes open.
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My cousin I know started with taking only 1 or 2 classes, he wasn't considered a "full time" student or however they term it but he wanted to go there so badly that he took what he could. He's now considered a full out student, he even went to Greece to study for a semester. He's always been very involved in any type of music he can. I know he plays in a very heavy metal band but his solo music is very different from that. My brother went to school for audio engineering so they work together in making albums.

I totally let my cats get away with everything. They are my babies!
Oh that is great information! Thank you so much!!!!

I'd love to hear how he was able do that! DH asked me to ask for more info lol! It sounds like he had plenty of will and found a way to make it happen, very encouraging.

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Hi Cynthia!!

You know that I'll be along for this ride! Your family is beautiful... and so was your opening post.

My dad is having heart surgery next month and of course, we're all worried about him. Both his parents had already died from heart attacks by the time they were his age. I understand how worried you are about DBIL... how absolutely awful it must be to have to cope with hospital bills when you don't have insurance.

A magical trip to the World would be "just what the doctor ordered" (if we were the doctors!!)

I'm looking forward to reading about all your planning...


Kathy
Yay! Kathy! Welcome

I know, I spent tonight looking up medications, bleh! Right now it looks like about $300 out of pocket a month. Which frankly Jeff and I were expecting a lot worse and we are hopeful that we can find some of it cheaper and find him some resouces. No word on the hospital bill yet but he did get to go home today and has a follow up with a cardiologist in 6 weeks. Turns out he has a kink in one of his arteries which likely contributed to the problem. Of course now Jeff wants to make sure that HE doesn't have a kink. And is convinced I'm not cooking healthy enough.

And then asked for me to add cheese to the pasta and poured himself a glass of wine.

I can relate to your situation, having seen my dad through it for gosh, 12 years now? Wow. It's funny, at times we actually completely forget about it. Until thanksgiving when he pulls out his tofurky What is your dad having done? It's great that he is on top of it, I know my GGP died from heart disease quite young as well, but the reality is they just didn't check and know things like we do now so I don't think there is quite the cause for panic that may have been in the past IF you are aware of your genetics and get things checked appropriately. I know I had a major cholesterol scare myself about 7 years ago and it really made a difference in my life, my diet forever changed, for the better. It is so easy to think it can't happen to you, I was 36, relatively fit (I thought) and had a decent diet (I thought). I was floored when I got my results but wow, they really were a blessing.

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Hi Christine! Welcome!!! So glad you found me Oh my, I'm not sure my intro can possibly live up to all that but gosh, thanks!
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All right, I KNOW it's not Disney but it is one of those contributing factors for this trip.

Just in case you haven't seen this....

Harry Potter


I Harry.

I figure no matter how fuzzy your math is, spring 2010 is NOT late august! lol. I hope. That gives them up to 2 months for delays, right? I am excited about the dueling dragons, it was a huge favorite in our 04 trip. Picture 12 adults, splitting in half. Racing to duel to see which group finished first, yelling at the other dragon's coaster as it went by.

Actually there may have been more than 12 of us racing but someone had to have been watching all those kids!

Good memories.

And on a completely unrelated note....my washer is fixed! Oh my goodness, I may never get caught up but oh what a sweet sound it makes.
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Meet the In Laws!

I have a funny life. I actually have THREE sets of in-laws and am lucky enough to really love and enjoy them all. This set is DHís mom Sandie, her husband Paul and then, as already mentioned, his baby brother Doug! Because there are so many in laws it is easier to do first names, Step FIL just sounds weird!

Here we all are, last summer, in front of their townhouse in Denver with their FABULOUS dog, Brady! Doug may have been taking the picture? I think not, if memory serves he just met us later that day.



And the two of them, I love this picture


Sandie.

I LOVE this woman. She just ďgetsĒ me. We have a ton in common and a lot of fun together. My only issue with Sandie has been a bit of the history between she and her ex, my FIL. She drug Jeff into it more than Iíd like (when he was a child) and it has definitely influenced his relationship with his Dad. Which is neither here nor there EXCEPT for the fact that with Dougís situation, there is more interaction and poor Jeff is in the middle. I donít know what is true, not true, Iíve heard different versions and frankly donít care. I just think kids donít really need to know that, or at least not in detail. Itís a hard thing and a fine line and I may change my tune as the Eís age. Evan in particular is starting to ask some questions and I donít believe in lying so at what point is it badmouthing and at what point is it simply being honest?

Hmmn. At any rate my dearest MIL is a very savvy and stylish woman. She ran her own business for years and recently retired. She just went back to work part time at a florist. Thatís my dream retirement job, how fun! We love to do girly things together, swap recipes and just donít get to see each other nearly enough. So when we do it usually involves too much wine but oh do we have fun! She sends me girly presents for no good reason and I have to admit, itís nice to be spoiled! She just sent me an apron that I kid you not, is a cross between Donna ReedÖand Anthropologie. I LOVE Anthropologie. It is the cutest thing ever and while I cook, a lot, Iíve never been an apron wearer. I smile every time I put it on, thinking of her. Someday Iíll wear my pearls with it. Just because I can.

Sandie, like most grandparents, does not feel like she gets to see the grandchildren enough and is always a bit down about the fact that they arenít closer to her, Kendall in particular. She does take it a little personally when really Kendall is just beingÖthirteen. Sheís been trying to figure out a time to come see us, the last visit was in April and it was just her, her husband had a conflict. Originally she wanted to come for Kendallís birthday. That didnít work, Kendall was on vacation with a friend. Then she wanted to come for thanksgiving. That doesnít work, Kendall has a tournament in San Diego. Christmas is an option but Sandie has commitments in her beloved home of Denver (and Paul, with his job is always busy then, even though he is retired he is in demand!) not to mention the fact that they have a very active social live and love to entertain and soÖ it doesnít work well for her. With 5 schools to contend with, there are no common dates off until summer so weíd been discussing this as an idea since we returned from our last trip. The combination of Doug, and no other good times to actually see the kids pushed up the need to get this on the schedule and start planning. We ALL need it to look forward to. She will take it VERY hard if Kendall canít go. There isnít a lot we can do about it so hopefully she can roll with whatever happens, when it happens.

SANDIE HAS NEVER BEEN TO DISNEY WORLD!

When we came home from our February trip, Sandie visited us not all that long after, over Spring Break (the ONE year all 4 kids had it at the same time). We discussed how great it would be to go together and plotted to go for Food and Wine in 2010, during free dining, combining the best of all worlds and everyone interests. This was (gasp) pre-awareness of the existence of the Treehouse and all plots involved a certain Beach Club and the mythical Storm Along Bay. As you can see dates and more have changed since then but Iím getting ahead of myself.

I learned something very interesting during these discussions. Her DH, Paul, is a DISNEY FREAK! And she knew heíd be all over our ideas!

She does take a VERY long time to get ready in the morning, I do not expect her to be a morning rope drop person! Not that we have ever been either...

Paul.



In his element, at our wedding. He was SO sick during this, it was awful!
Paul and Sandie married about 9 years ago. Oh the pictures of Kendall are amazing, apparently the wedding started late as it was all spent curling her hair. He is an Episcopalian priest who married Jeff and I.

And both of them, with the grandkids in 07. I love this picture!


Heís retired but I swear, is always working! He is a jazz musician (plays in a band) , a golf player and an all around great guy. Extremely intelligent, well read, and FUNNY! We like Paul a lot. The Eís love Paul. Evan in particular. Paul does have some very significant hearing loss so that may be a challenge but thankfully he can hear higher pitched voices better so Iím fine! We havenít seen Paul in over a year, when we visited them as part of a huge road trip across America. Paul and Sandie (and Doug) did come out to visit us for Christmas in 07. While it was a good trip, I have a huge family and I think they felt a little lost in it and Paul in particular felt like he was imposing. Iím not sure how much of it was my family who admittedly can be overwhelming (just ask Jeff) and how much of it was the fact that they are both used to being the host and hostess. Of course he wasnít imposing at all and my family really liked him but he is definitely more comfortable on his own turf. Weíve only had one night of vacation ďawayĒ with them and in separate hotel rooms and only really together for meals so I donít have a good feel for what he will be like to travel with. I do know that he and Sandie travel quite a bit, and have a great time. I think that he will be more relaxed in ďneutralĒ territory. We shall see. Iím excited to learn how much of a Disney freak he really is!

Paul has some issues with Doug. He has even more issues with Dougís girlfriend. It will be interesting to see how that plays out. He cares about Doug but Doug does have some self destructive behaviors and I think Paul worries that Sandie does too much bailing out of Doug. Which I canít say I disagree with although Iíd never say it out loud! All that said, this may be a wake up call in more ways than one.

Doug.


This is from our one "trip" together, we all went to Keystone for 2 days and it was really Doug that created the monster snowboarder Taylor is now. Altough at the time, he was not. I vividly recall the three of us (Doug, Jeff and I) strategically placed on the run so that T would make the correct turns and we wouldn't get separated. It's funny now!

And, the brothers


Itís funny, though not really. I feel like I barely know my only brother in law. That makes me very very sad. Iím incredibly close to my siblings (as the oldest of 6, I have a lot of them) and it makes me sad that Jeff doesnít have that. Growing up I think they had some hard times after their folks split up and I know that Sandie worked a lot and the boys were alone a lot in their teens in particular. From what I gather Doug fell in with a less than ideal crowd, or one individual in particular and took off in HS. He didnít graduate and kind of dropped off the face of the earth for a while. No one really knows what went on during this time. Eventually he resurfaced, rebuilt a relationship with his mom and Jeff. He really hasnít rebuilt one with his Dad. He is a general contractor and does AMAZING work. Unfortunately while he prefers to work for himself, he isnít the greatest at managing the business end of things and has been struggling for some time to make ends meet. So, as you might imagine, this news and the financial impact of it is scary. The good news, if there is some (and there always is, I am a silver lining kind of gal) is that he sold his house a couple years back as he couldnít make his mortgage. So from a dept standpoint, other than his business, heís not in horrible shape and if he had to go stay with someone and give up the house he rents, he could.

What I do know about Doug is that he loves hockey, used to play quite a bit but Iím not sure if he still does. He is also an avid snowboarder (again, not sure if he still goes up) and likes things like Nascar and Monster truck races and well, some other bar type activities that we might not go to lol. He is also quite a gamer. Xbox, Playstation all that stuff. He is a good guy but in general has very very different interests than Jeff. Doug is not married and does not have any kids. He was singleÖ.until relatively recently. To our knowledge he has never dated anyone seriously until now.

Iíve probably spent a total of 2 weeks, tops, with Doug over the years and typically it is with the larger group so it isnít like Iím spending a ton of time with him. We did have some nice alone time with him when they were out for Christmas in 07 and it really helped me understand the family dynamics better. I also feel like he and I grew closer, which while it isnít saying much, is something! He actually told me about his girlfriend (the fact that he had one) before anyone! No clue on his feelings about Disney truth be told other than Iíve been told he likes the plan. We did spend a day together at Elitch Gardens, he and Laura ditched us for much of the day to ride on rides that for whatever reason we didn't want to do (I cannot for the life of me recall but suspect it had a lot to do with T&K's pre-disney thrill ride wimpiness, something Jeff and I are very happy is over!). It also well could have been that the E's didn't meet the height requirements. I don't really remember, my MIL was too busy freaking out and I was talking her off a ledge.

CueÖLaura.

Laura.



This is the only picture I have of her and it's a side shot! This is from Elitch Gardens last summer so we do know she likes rides. Whoo hoo!

Laura is Dougís first long term girlfriend according to both Sandie and Jeff. Theyíve been together about a year and a half now. It doesnít appear any more, or less, serious than it did then. She has 2 children but does not have custody and does not seem to see them. We donít ask too many questions. Weíve only met her once, last summer on the big road trip. It was also the first time Sandie and Paul had met her, Doug used our visit to deflect, which was probably smart! She is super nice and sweet and really made an effort to talk to all the kids when we met her which was great. She seems to be a very genuine person and I know works really hard. From what little I can tell, she has a heart of gold. She does like to do the same kinds of things that Doug does. Which, while great for Doug, does concern his mom.
From our perspective we are just happy he has someone who seems to make him happy and we see true genuine affection there. But. Isnít there always a but? If Jeff and Doug are very different, well Laura and Sandie are polar opposites. It is fine for a dinner or something like that but extended conversation is..hard. There just isnít much to talk about and it is awkward. It stresses Sandie out to no end. It is hard to watch, and I see her struggle. I petered out halfway through a really long ride line, just ran out of small talk!

As much as Sandie is happy that Doug is happy, she really wants him to be with someone she can hang out with and enjoy since he lives so much closer to him and she sees him all the time. But that just isnít the case and so she worries she will become less close to Doug. As time has gone by Doug and Laura seem to do their own thing and she isnít around Sandie and Paul too much and it has settled into a bit of a pattern that everyone seems comfortable with. At the hospital it sounds like she visited but they didnít really cross paths. And so the Laura factor will be interesting. I donít know if Doug will want her to go. I donít know if she will want to go. Who knows where they will be at 11 months from now. Whatever happens is fine with me. But it will be interesting. Hopefully drama free but these things rarely are.

If Laura does go, and Kendall can really go, well then we wonít fit in a treehouse. And it is what it is. Iím far more concerned about the who, and the why, than the where (we stay). Yes, the where is important but at the end of the day, not really as long as we are together.

So there we have it. A motley crew complete with the usual family dynamics and minefields but one motivated to be together, to try to experience something special together.

Moments.
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I'm really enjoying your TR. I love your writing style. I am also not close with my soon to be BIL. I see them on holidays but we have never been to their home, nor have they been to our new apartment. We brought the nieces and nephews gifts home from our last WDW trip and we still haven't heard a thank you...or even acknowledgement. I totally get where you are coming from as I am very close with my brother.
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Hi Cynthia!

Finally made it through, and I must say your introductions are quite detailed, putting mine to the kind of shame one feels when just taken a glug out of the milk carton and gets caught!!

Seems like every family has its minefields and funky dynamics. I'm 42, and just now learning more of the deeper family dirt! Odd how parents can sorta just keep it hidden like something moldy and oozing the back of the fridge you pray won't be found by your MIL when she comes to visit.

Anyway, your family is looks like a great one! I love your detailed descriptions of each one-and it's so very obvious you love them to pieces!

Looking forward to more...

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