Does anyone else get annoyed at people calling you "Honey" or "Babe" - The DIS Discussion Forums

rgf207 · 02-25-2008, 10:40 AM

This is one of my biggest pet peeves. This has been happening more and more to me and I can't stand it.

For example, there is a Taco Bell in the area that I frequent. Everytime this woman hands me my order she always says, There you go "Sweetie" or there you go "Hon"

And just yesterday, I was ordering an iced at McDonalds and the woman called me "Babe"

This bothers me so much. I dont think anyone but my wife should call me that.

Does anyone else hate this?

mickeyboat · 02-25-2008, 10:42 AM

I definitely notice it, but it doesn't get me all torqued up, honey!

Denae

freckles and boo · 02-25-2008, 10:42 AM

It is unprofessional, but it doesn't bother me that much if it is sincere.

marybet · 02-25-2008, 10:44 AM

It all depends on my mood. At times it is really annoying and other times I hardly notice.

kimmikayb · 02-25-2008, 10:45 AM

Now listen here Sweetie...you need to chill out.

Seriously, yes I get called those names a lot. There is only one person who does it that irks me and that's because I think there is more behind it then a general term of endearment. Otherwise, I don't let it bother me.

Now my Mom...oh goodness she hates it. And doesn't mince words telling anyone that who dares to call her that. So I'm sure they call her other names behind her back

NY Disney fan · 02-25-2008, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by rgf207

For example, there is a Taco Bell in the area that I frequent. Everytime this woman hands me my order she always says, There you go "Sweetie" or there you go "Hon"

Does anyone else hate this?

That is very condecending. When people do it to me I feel like they are talking down to me (even though that may not be their intention). Its like when African American men are called "boy". (back from the slave days). Its very insulting.

kimmikayb · 02-25-2008, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by NY Disney fan

That is very condecending. When people do it to me I feel like they are talking down to me (even though that may not be their intention). Its like when African American men are called "boy". (back from the slave days). Its very insulting.

Hmmm, I have never thought of it as insulting.

jbmom · 02-25-2008, 10:52 AM

I don't particularly like it, but I'd rather be called Honey than Maam.

freckles and boo · 02-25-2008, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by NY Disney fan

That is very condecending. When people do it to me I feel like they are talking down to me (even though that may not be their intention). Its like when African American men are called "boy". (back from the slave days). Its very insulting.

I don't think it is the same thing at all. I am sure this will sound snotty, but it is TACO BELL. Pick up your chalupa and hit the road. I only consider it condescension when a person in a position of power uses language to belittle someone else. Someone who asks "You want hot or fire sauce, Honey?" is in no position of power over me, especially if I am the customer.

paintnolish · 02-25-2008, 10:59 AM

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I don't particularly like it, but I'd rather be called Honey than Maam.

My thoughts exactly! I might be in denial, but I am holding at "Miss"!

rgf207 · 02-25-2008, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by freckles and boo

I don't think it is the same thing at all. I am sure this will sound snotty, but it is TACO BELL. Pick up your chalupa and hit the road. I only consider it condescension when a person in a position of power uses language to belittle someone else. Someone who asks "You want hot or fire sauce, Honey?" is in no position of power over me, especially if I am the customer.

I prefer Gorditas

CJBaby · 02-25-2008, 10:59 AM

Except for gross-looking guys calling it out on the street, I don't mind an occasional "honey" or "sweetie" appropriately thrown around.

arielsleepingbeauty · 02-25-2008, 10:59 AM

I have never had it done to me by a male only females and it doesn't bother me at all. I think it would be very disrespectful to my significant other if he were standing next to me and another man called me honey.
I would rather be called honey than someone giving me my food and not even caring about my presence.

And to the reference of calling someone boy. I am 35 and I always call my significant other a boy. I say "hello my boy" and "what a handsome boy". I am saying it in an endearing term not anything derogatory or disrespectful at all . I use the term boy because "man" sounds old and I like to think of myself as still young. lol

luvsJack · 02-25-2008, 11:00 AM

I have a student that comes in my office quite a bit and calls me baby or honey. Very irritating and I do feel talked down too. Now I have had some sweet, older women do it and it never bother me, so I guess it depends on the person.

freckles and boo · 02-25-2008, 11:01 AM

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I prefer Gorditas

I have never had one. Are they good? (I love Taco Bell

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02-25-2008, 10:40 AM	#1
rgf207 DIS Veteran Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Maryland Posts: 4,418	Does anyone else get annoyed at people calling you "Honey" or "Babe" This is one of my biggest pet peeves. This has been happening more and more to me and I can't stand it. For example, there is a Taco Bell in the area that I frequent. Everytime this woman hands me my order she always says, There you go "Sweetie" or there you go "Hon" And just yesterday, I was ordering an iced at McDonalds and the woman called me "Babe" This bothers me so much. I dont think anyone but my wife should call me that. Does anyone else hate this? __________________ 2002 - Off Site;2004 - Off Site;March 2005 - AKL;Sept 2005 - PoP, POR, ASMo;May 2006 - POR;June 2007 - BCV;June 2008 - SSR; March 2009 - SSR; August 2009 - SSR, AKV; Feb 2010 - VWL; Jun 2010 - BCV; Feb 2011 - AKV; June 2012 - BLT

02-25-2008, 10:42 AM	#2
mickeyboat Nothing like the cream and chocolate combination Thank you for omitting the footwear today Moons are a sign of intelligence and beauty Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Here! Posts: 20,569	I definitely notice it, but it doesn't get me all torqued up, honey! Denae __________________ Enjoy yourself. These are the "good old days" you're going to miss in the years ahead. - Author Unknown So couldn’t we all come to the conclusion that it’s not the PLACE that counts, it’s the people who contribute to it? - Delswife

02-25-2008, 10:42 AM	#3
freckles and boo I occasionally lurk on the UK board I can't tell you all the stupid things I have seen my husband do while wearing sandals Bird doo on my sheets isn't sexy Join Date: May 2006 Location: suburban chicago Posts: 6,374	It is unprofessional, but it doesn't bother me that much if it is sincere. __________________ Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

02-25-2008, 10:45 AM	#5
kimmikayb New Rule: The first person to reply on any thread needs to quote the OP. That way when someone does the delete of nevermind edit we know that it was entirely different Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 4,937	Now listen here Sweetie...you need to chill out. Seriously, yes I get called those names a lot. There is only one person who does it that irks me and that's because I think there is more behind it then a general term of endearment. Otherwise, I don't let it bother me. Now my Mom...oh goodness she hates it. And doesn't mince words telling anyone that who dares to call her that. So I'm sure they call her other names behind her back __________________ TnT 2008 Tell The French People I Was Only Drunk, Not Drunk Drunk! *Lady Pinktoolsville, Countess of Renovationsburg* WHAT??? I AM FAT??? WHEN DID THAT HAPPEN???

02-25-2008, 10:52 AM	#8
jbmom Our underwear just gets put in the drawer with no extra attention I've been known to prop my knife under my plate if there is something runny on it Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Southwest Michigan Posts: 6,464	I don't particularly like it, but I'd rather be called Honey than Maam. __________________ Becky Brian DS13 DS10

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02-25-2008, 10:44 AM	#4
marybet I'm from Ohio, I just live in Alabama. Had a crush on Dr. Kildare! Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Alabama Posts: 3,960	It all depends on my mood. At times it is really annoying and other times I hardly notice.

02-25-2008, 10:59 AM	#12
CJBaby I was always taught it was shelter, clothing, INTERPRETIVE DANCER, and THEN food I'm sorry, I would love to, but I suffer from chronic pinky-toe pain Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 1,119	Except for gross-looking guys calling it out on the street, I don't mind an occasional "honey" or "sweetie" appropriately thrown around.

02-25-2008, 10:59 AM	#13
arielsleepingbeauty I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way. Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Red Sox Nation, MA Posts: 2,645	I have never had it done to me by a male only females and it doesn't bother me at all. I think it would be very disrespectful to my significant other if he were standing next to me and another man called me honey. I would rather be called honey than someone giving me my food and not even caring about my presence. And to the reference of calling someone boy. I am 35 and I always call my significant other a boy. I say "hello my boy" and "what a handsome boy". I am saying it in an endearing term not anything derogatory or disrespectful at all . I use the term boy because "man" sounds old and I like to think of myself as still young. lol __________________ 1978 - 1988 offsite , 1989, 1990 CBR, 1992, 1993 offsite, 1994 off site, 2002, 2003, 2004 All-Star Movies, 2006 Pop Century, 2007 POR, 2008 Pop Century, 2009 All Star Movies, 2010 Pop Century, 2011 All Star Music, May 2012 Yacht Club, Aug 2012 All Star Music.

02-25-2008, 11:00 AM	#14
luvsJack DIS Veteran Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: My own little corner of the world Posts: 9,644	I have a student that comes in my office quite a bit and calls me baby or honey. Very irritating and I do feel talked down too. Now I have had some sweet, older women do it and it never bother me, so I guess it depends on the person.

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