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Old 05-09-2013, 10:02 AM   #1
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Furious - need some clarity

On Monday I came out of work to the parking lot to find my suv (a year old) smashed to pieces. I was parked on an end and someone cornered too fast, they took out the whole passenger side, and the back end is damaged and bumper on the ground. It was a pretty good smash. My car was pushed out of the spot and up against the car next to it which was also damaged. Security came and took a report, I called the police they took a report, and my car was towed. So the last 2 days have been filled with calling insurance, getting a rental, lots of hassle. Trying to figure out how to come up with the deductible. I am also pregnant which I mention only because I think the hormones are making me angrier.

Yesterday afternoon security contacted me to tell me they viewed the security camera and have the plate of the person who did it. It is someone that works for my facility. On the video she came flying around the corner, took out my car, pulled over to look at HER car then got back in and drove to the far side of the lot to park then went in to work. Her car is damaged, but not too bad since its a very heavy Mercedes Benz. She is a Doctor. Security reported it to HR, I called the police to report it to them. My facility asked me not to report it to the police until they spoke with her, I did anyway because I am ANGRY.

So anyway, now this doctor is begging me to "not get her fired" and claiming HR said it was up to me. She followed me out to the parking lot last night. She actually told me she doesn't want her kids to starve. A doctor, who did a hit and run in a MERCEDES actually used that line on me. HR has not said anything to me at all. Doctor claims she was going to confess but was just too busy. (rigggghhht). Not sure what the police did last night if anything but I know they went to her house and took a report. I also have no idea who the other damaged car belonged to or what their take on the situation is. I am off today and trying to chill out.

I want her fired. I want her fired YESTERDAY. I saw the video, there was no remorse, no care for the fact that other peoples property had been damaged. All she cared about was her car. There is zero doubt in my mind that she was never going to confess ever. I also don't think she is going to get fired after all she is a doctor and I am just a peon. HR seemed to want to sweep it under the rug as soon as they found out who she was. So I guess it doesn't matter what I want.

Am I just filled with hormones and are they clouding my judgement? I have ZERO sympathy for this woman I am pretty angry.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:07 AM   #2
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On Monday I came out of work to the parking lot to find my suv (a year old) smashed to pieces. I was parked on an end and someone cornered too fast, they took out the whole passenger side, and the back end is damaged and bumper on the ground. It was a pretty good smash. My car was pushed out of the spot and up against the car next to it which was also damaged. Security came and took a report, I called the police they took a report, and my car was towed. So the last 2 days have been filled with calling insurance, getting a rental, lots of hassle. Trying to figure out how to come up with the deductible. I am also pregnant which I mention only because I think the hormones are making me angrier.

Yesterday afternoon security contacted me to tell me they viewed the security camera and have the plate of the person who did it. It is someone that works for my facility. On the video she came flying around the corner, took out my car, pulled over to look at HER car then got back in and drove to the far side of the lot to park then went in to work. Her car is damaged, but not too bad since its a very heavy Mercedes Benz. She is a Doctor. Security reported it to HR, I called the police to report it to them. My facility asked me not to report it to the police until they spoke with her, I did anyway because I am ANGRY.

So anyway, now this doctor is begging me to "not get her fired" and claiming HR said it was up to me. She followed me out to the parking lot last night. She actually told me she doesn't want her kids to starve. A doctor, who did a hit and run in a MERCEDES actually used that line on me. HR has not said anything to me at all. Doctor claims she was going to confess but was just too busy. (rigggghhht). Not sure what the police did last night if anything but I know they went to her house and took a report. I also have no idea who the other damaged car belonged to or what their take on the situation is. I am off today and trying to chill out.

I want her fired. I want her fired YESTERDAY. I saw the video, there was no remorse, no care for the fact that other peoples property had been damaged. All she cared about was her car. There is zero doubt in my mind that she was never going to confess ever. I also don't think she is going to get fired after all she is a doctor and I am just a peon. HR seemed to want to sweep it under the rug as soon as they found out who she was. So I guess it doesn't matter what I want.

Am I just filled with hormones and are they clouding my judgement? I have ZERO sympathy for this woman I am pretty angry.
Fired? Shouldn't she be arrested? Totally inexcusable. I don't blame you for being mad. Absolutely despicable. Her children will not starve.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:11 AM   #3
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Get her and/or her insurance company to make you whole . . . meaning they pay for the repairs and rent you a car, and let it go. If the cops decide to go ahead and move forward, that's their decision.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:11 AM   #4
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I highly doubt that HR would leave the decision to fire her up to you.

I can totally understand how angry you are, but I don't think her being fired is the answer. I think it just needs to be reported to the police and have them determine what course of action to take from a legal stand point.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:20 AM   #5
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Fired? Shouldn't she be arrested? Totally inexcusable. I don't blame you for being mad. Absolutely despicable. Her children will not starve.
Inexcusable, yes.
Despicable yes.
But a civil case since it happened on private property and there were no injuries, so no grounds to arrest her. I'd leave any firing decision up to the company, but that certainly sounds like a firing offense.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:23 AM   #6
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I am really bummed about my car. I drive cars until the wheels fall off, and it is the first "new" car I have had in 15 years. Sure they can fix it, but it is not going to be like it was. We are still waiting to hear how bad the damage is and how much the estimate is.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:41 AM   #7
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She has absolutely no right to confront you about this. She lost that right when she chose to drive away and not report the accident. Tell her that if she tries to talk to you again.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:27 AM   #8
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Inexcusable, yes.
Despicable yes.
But a civil case since it happened on private property and there were no injuries, so no grounds to arrest her. I'd leave any firing decision up to the company, but that certainly sounds like a firing offense.
In many states leaving the scene of an accident warrants criminal penalties.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:31 AM   #9
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I highly doubt that HR would leave the decision to fire her up to you.

I can totally understand how angry you are, but I don't think her being fired is the answer. I think it just needs to be reported to the police and have them determine what course of action to take from a legal stand point.
Agree.
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Inexcusable, yes.
Despicable yes.
But a civil case since it happened on private property and there were no injuries, so no grounds to arrest her. I'd leave any firing decision up to the company
, but that certainly sounds like a firing offense.
She did a horrible thing, no doubt. I'd be furious. However, I could NOT live with myself if I was responsible for getting someone fired. I'd want that decision to come from HR. Not me. In the end i'd feel guilty...esp since I know she has kids to feed. Yes im a softy. I just couldnt do it. I'd leave it up to the company/HR.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:35 AM   #10
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I agree with this.


Agree.


She did a horrible thing, no doubt. I'd be furious. However, I could NOT live with myself if I was responsible for getting someone fired. I'd want that decision to come from HR. Not me. In the end i'd feel guilty...esp since I know she has kids to feed. Yes im a softy. I just couldnt do it. I'd leave it up to the company/HR.
I wouldn't say "I" got her fired for this. HR has not said anything to me about that by the way, she is the one that said they told her it was up to me. My point is SHE will have gotten herself fired for what SHE did. I am not responsible for her actions she is. If HR asks me my opinion is good riddance and show her the door. I will sleep just fine at night with no guilt at all.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:36 AM   #11
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I agree with this.


Agree.


She did a horrible thing, no doubt. I'd be furious. However, I could NOT live with myself if I was responsible for getting someone fired. I'd want that decision to come from HR. Not me. In the end i'd feel guilty...esp since I know she has kids to feed. Yes im a softy. I just couldnt do it. I'd leave it up to the company/HR.
The OP has nothing to do with getting her fired. The Dr's actions would be the reason she was fired.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:46 AM   #12
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I agree with this.


Agree.


She did a horrible thing, no doubt. I'd be furious. However, I could NOT live with myself if I was responsible for getting someone fired. I'd want that decision to come from HR. Not me. In the end i'd feel guilty...esp since I know she has kids to feed. Yes im a softy. I just couldnt do it. I'd leave it up to the company/HR.
I wouldn't lose a wink of sleep over her getting fired. Did the dr. give a moment's thought to the two cars she damaged and to what it would cost the owners to repair them? Apparently not, as she just kept on going without even leaving a note. She is sorry she got CAUGHT. As the OP said, if she had been the one to hit the dr.'s car, she'd have been terminated.

The dr. needs to be banned from that parking lot, as she is a danger. I'd go to HR and tell them she is harassing you and that it needs to stop NOW since you am pregnant and the stress is not good for you. Have a written record that she is harassing you. Through HR, let her know that ALL contact will be via the insurance companies.

She sounds like a loon.

ETA: I agree with a previous poster. Let the police know that she is following you and trying to coerce you regarding what to do. Have a record of this everywhere.
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:51 AM   #13
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Agree.


She did a horrible thing, no doubt. I'd be furious. However, I could NOT live with myself if I was responsible for getting someone fired. I'd want that decision to come from HR. Not me. In the end i'd feel guilty...esp since I know she has kids to feed. Yes im a softy. I just couldnt do it. I'd leave it up to the company/HR.
I, too, would feel bad for any mother being fired.

However, if the doctor were fired, I don't think it would be the OP's fault.

The doctor hit the car and drove away. Her dishonesty (not leaving a note or confessing immediately) would be the causes for her termination.

If the doctor had taken one minute to leave a note, she wouldn't be in this position. It sounds like the doctor was in a rush (because she was speeding and "too busy") and made a conscious decision to drive away from the scene of an accident. Not only is that dishonest, it's bad decision making - not the traits I would want in a doctor!
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Old 05-09-2013, 10:33 AM   #14
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I'm not a jump to "call a lawyer" type person normally, but between your workplace handling it somewhat unethically (asking you to do something against your moral judgement) and the doctor accosting you in person (especially with you being pregnant), I would consider going in for a consult, just to cover yourself. That way, if she tries to discuss it with you again, you can hand her your lawyer's card and say, "I would appreciate you discussing it with him/her, not me" and that would be the end of her stressing you out.

Whether or not she gets fired is her own fault, nothing to do with you.

Take the high road, let the insurance company/place of employment/doctor duke it out, and try to stay out of the fray as much as you can, especially for the baby's sake. A vehicle can be replaced, but a healthy baby is irreplaceable.



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Old 05-09-2013, 10:44 AM   #15
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In many states leaving the scene of an accident warrants criminal penalties.
In my state (Ohio), it would be a misdemeanor of the first degree and a class five suspension of her driver's license.
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