Getting Married Young? - The DIS Discussion Forums

joedplumber · 01-24-2013, 10:34 AM

So today at work while talking to a coworker it came up in conversation on how I have been married for 11+ years. At which point she remarked OMG you must of got married young. I replied that my wife and I were 24 when we got married and she confirmed that we were definitely young at that age.

Just wondering if people think this is young to get married? My thought is young would be getting married between 18-20 and the average to me 20-30.

Now don't get me wrong you get married when you are ready and there is no wrong or right at any age as long it is a legal age.

NHdisneylover · 01-24-2013, 10:35 AM

Yeah, I tend to think as getting married young as meaning as teenagers or very early 20s.

DH and I were both 23. We had both finished college at that point. I never thought of that s particularly young to get married.

soccerdad72 · 01-24-2013, 10:35 AM

I wouldn't consider 24 to be "married young", but I guess it's all a matter of perspective for folks.

phorsenuf · 01-24-2013, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by joedplumber

So today at work while talking to a coworker it came up in conversation on how I have been married for 11+ years. At which point she remarked OMG you must of got married young. I replied that my wife and I were 24 when we got married and she confirmed that we were definitely young at that age.

Just wondering if people think this is young to get married? My thought is young would be getting married between 18-20 and the average to me 20-30.

Now don't get me wrong you get married when you are ready and there is no wrong or right at any age as long it is a legal age.

I was 19 when I got married. I consider that young. This July will be our 30th wedding anniversary.

SC Minnie · 01-24-2013, 10:40 AM

I don't consider 23/24 as 'young' for getting married. At that age one could have finished college, have a full time job in their field, and be self supporting.

I was 2 months shy of 24 when DH and I got married. I didn't consider myself 'young'.

My nephew got married at 17. Now that's young.

joedplumber · 01-24-2013, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by SC Minnie

I don't consider 23/24 as 'young' for getting married. At that age one could have finished college, have a full time job in their field, and be self supporting.

I was 2 months shy of 24 when DH and I got married. I didn't consider myself 'young'.

My nephew got married at 17. Now that's young.

Spot on!

I and my DW were both a year out of college and working in our field of major and both living at home before we got married.

I guess you could call us the "Ducks in a Row" type. lol

fitzy819 · 01-24-2013, 10:55 AM

I was 19 and DH was 21 when we got married. I felt we were married very young but it worked for us. We are having our 4th anniversary in March though, yay!

SaraJayne · 01-24-2013, 11:23 AM

I would consider 24 to be about right for getting married and 30 "old".

DH was 21 and it was my 22nd birthday when we got married. We've been together for 17 years.

MIGrandma · 01-24-2013, 11:23 AM

DH and I were barely 18 each when we got married, and yes I consider that young. He was established already in his farming career with his Dad, he had started "buying into the business" when he was 16.

We have been married 37 years and still going strong.

I consider teens and 20's to be young, 30's to be average age to get married I guess.

momto2girls · 01-24-2013, 11:29 AM

I got married when I was 24, almost 25. I felt that was really young. I remember feeling rather embarrassed to tell people that I was married.

I'd already finished grad school at that point, but it still felt young.

daughtersrus · 01-24-2013, 11:37 AM

I was 21 and DH was 22 when we got married. We'll be married 27 years in a few weeks.

On the other hand, my brother married a girl that was 20yo. She was married and divorced with 2 children by the time she was 15yo.

Needless to say, their marriage didn't last too long either.

LisaR · 01-24-2013, 11:42 AM

I wouldn't define 24 as really young.

DD (17) has a friend who was married at 18 and pregnant six months later. They seem very much in love and it is working for them, but it totally skeeves my DD out.

She posts pictures of her belly and my DD can't even wrap her head around the concept of being married and pregnant at that age.

jgh · 01-24-2013, 11:44 AM

My fiance and are getting married in April 2014.

We will both be 22 (me only by one week, and him by about seven months).

Honestly I think it depends on the couple. There are some people that are mature enough to be married at 16 or 17 (regardless of negative stigma attached to getting married that young...) and there are some people that aren't mature enough to be married even when they're 25 or 30. I really think it depends on the individual people.

lovesmurfs · 01-24-2013, 11:56 AM

DH was "on the shelf" at 33 when we married, but I was 22. Going on 23 years this year!

violetrose · 01-24-2013, 01:17 PM

24 seems on the young side, but not young, for couples today. I got married at 25 but that was 25 years ago and 25 didn't seem as young as it does today. When we got married I was 25 and DH was 29, we had already been out on our own for years and each owned our own home. Our children are in their mid 20s and are just finishing up college, we hope they get jobs and certainly don't expect that they will be owning a home until much later like early 30s. So in today's age I do think 24 is a little young. Not too young, but on the young side of what is probably financially ideal. Our DS is in a serious relationship and I have a feeling he will be popping the question this year, he will be 23. I personally wish he'd wait until he was a little older, like 28, but the heart wants what the heart wants. They are both well rounded and homebodies so I think their marriage will work out but it won't be easy on them. He just graduated from tech school and she is in her last year of college, but then they will need to find jobs and somewhere to live. I'd not mind them living at home a little longer to save before going out on their own but I don't see that happening. Our DD will be 24 this year, will finish her Masters, and plans to move home at least for a couple of years to save money to buy a house.

01-24-2013, 10:34 AM	#1
joedplumber Love Vacationing! Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Connecticut Posts: 117	Getting Married Young? So today at work while talking to a coworker it came up in conversation on how I have been married for 11+ years. At which point she remarked OMG you must of got married young. I replied that my wife and I were 24 when we got married and she confirmed that we were definitely young at that age. Just wondering if people think this is young to get married? My thought is young would be getting married between 18-20 and the average to me 20-30. Now don't get me wrong you get married when you are ready and there is no wrong or right at any age as long it is a legal age.

01-24-2013, 10:35 AM	#2
NHdisneylover Lanyards are taking all my poor organizatioanl skills mice and such creatures tend to like to travel aorund Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Heidelberg, Germany (formally from New Hampshire) Posts: 11,845	Yeah, I tend to think as getting married young as meaning as teenagers or very early 20s. DH and I were both 23. We had both finished college at that point. I never thought of that s particularly young to get married. __________________ Hadley My blog about my wanderings and ramblings in Europe, Disney and where ever else life takes me: http://hadleyswanderingsandramblings.blogspot.de/

01-24-2013, 10:40 AM	#5
SC Minnie Are we there yet??? Buying toilet paper is like flushing money down the toilet. The folded over ones are the absolute best!!! Join Date: May 2001 Location: Fort Mill SC, VWL, and HHI Posts: 8,856	I don't consider 23/24 as 'young' for getting married. At that age one could have finished college, have a full time job in their field, and be self supporting. I was 2 months shy of 24 when DH and I got married. I didn't consider myself 'young'. My nephew got married at 17. Now that's young. __________________

01-24-2013, 10:55 AM	#7
fitzy819 Mouseketeer Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Coast of Virginia Posts: 111	I was 19 and DH was 21 when we got married. I felt we were married very young but it worked for us. We are having our 4th anniversary in March though, yay! __________________ Me (23) DH (24) Piper Ellie WDW as a kid - 1992, ASM - 2008, POP - 2011, CR- Club Level -2013 TOP SECRET: Surprise 50th Birthday Trip 2013 PTR

01-24-2013, 11:23 AM	#9
MIGrandma A woman is like a tea bag. You never know how strong she is until she's in hot water~Eleanor Roosevelt I have a toilet problem 33 people looked, and not one followed the rule! Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 4,947	DH and I were barely 18 each when we got married, and yes I consider that young. He was established already in his farming career with his Dad, he had started "buying into the business" when he was 16. We have been married 37 years and still going strong. I consider teens and 20's to be young, 30's to be average age to get married I guess. __________________

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01-24-2013, 10:35 AM	#3
soccerdad72 Mouseketeer Join Date: Oct 2012 Posts: 390	I wouldn't consider 24 to be "married young", but I guess it's all a matter of perspective for folks.

01-24-2013, 11:23 AM	#8
SaraJayne Stop moving those smilies! Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 12,075	I would consider 24 to be about right for getting married and 30 "old". DH was 21 and it was my 22nd birthday when we got married. We've been together for 17 years.

01-24-2013, 11:29 AM	#10
momto2girls DIS Veteran Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: The midwest Posts: 2,341	I got married when I was 24, almost 25. I felt that was really young. I remember feeling rather embarrassed to tell people that I was married. I'd already finished grad school at that point, but it still felt young. __________________ Be Careful What You Wish For Because You Just Might Get It

01-24-2013, 11:37 AM	#11
daughtersrus DIS Veteran Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Chicagoland Posts: 5,496	I was 21 and DH was 22 when we got married. We'll be married 27 years in a few weeks. On the other hand, my brother married a girl that was 20yo. She was married and divorced with 2 children by the time she was 15yo. Needless to say, their marriage didn't last too long either.

01-24-2013, 11:42 AM	#12
LisaR Join Date: Sep 2000 Posts: 7,883	I wouldn't define 24 as really young. DD (17) has a friend who was married at 18 and pregnant six months later. They seem very much in love and it is working for them, but it totally skeeves my DD out. She posts pictures of her belly and my DD can't even wrap her head around the concept of being married and pregnant at that age.

01-24-2013, 11:44 AM	#13
jgh Peter Pan! Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Athens, GA...461 miles from WDW! Posts: 526	My fiance and are getting married in April 2014. We will both be 22 (me only by one week, and him by about seven months). Honestly I think it depends on the couple. There are some people that are mature enough to be married at 16 or 17 (regardless of negative stigma attached to getting married that young...) and there are some people that aren't mature enough to be married even when they're 25 or 30. I really think it depends on the individual people. __________________ October 11-13, 2012 @ Pop Century December 31, 2012 - January 1, 2013 @ DTD & IoA October 11-14, 2013 @ On-Site (Undecided) 19 trips to WDW, 1 trip to DL, 2 voyages on DCL!

01-24-2013, 11:56 AM	#14
lovesmurfs I need to start thinking of pithy things to say It costs him money every time I watch! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Physically or mentally? Posts: 5,140	DH was "on the shelf" at 33 when we married, but I was 22. Going on 23 years this year! __________________ "Life is not like a box of chocolates. It's like a jar of jalapeno peppers. What you do today can burn your butt tomorrow." "Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society." Mark Twain "Some people are like Slinkies. They serve no useful purpose, but they sure are fun to push down the stairs."

01-24-2013, 01:17 PM	#15
violetrose DIS Veteran Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 1,188	24 seems on the young side, but not young, for couples today. I got married at 25 but that was 25 years ago and 25 didn't seem as young as it does today. When we got married I was 25 and DH was 29, we had already been out on our own for years and each owned our own home. Our children are in their mid 20s and are just finishing up college, we hope they get jobs and certainly don't expect that they will be owning a home until much later like early 30s. So in today's age I do think 24 is a little young. Not too young, but on the young side of what is probably financially ideal. Our DS is in a serious relationship and I have a feeling he will be popping the question this year, he will be 23. I personally wish he'd wait until he was a little older, like 28, but the heart wants what the heart wants. They are both well rounded and homebodies so I think their marriage will work out but it won't be easy on them. He just graduated from tech school and she is in her last year of college, but then they will need to find jobs and somewhere to live. I'd not mind them living at home a little longer to save before going out on their own but I don't see that happening. Our DD will be 24 this year, will finish her Masters, and plans to move home at least for a couple of years to save money to buy a house. __________________ me DH DD23 DS22 DS18

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