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Old 12-09-2012, 03:49 PM   #1
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Leaving Infant in the car.....

Today when I was shopping, I saw a woman run into the pizza place we were eating at to pick up take out. She was parked right up front, steps from the store. I noticed her child still buckled in the carseat in the car-the child was sleeping. The lady was gone from her car all of 5 minutes to pick up her food.

I am a new mom and I am so paranoid about leaving my baby even for a minute so I can use the bathroom & I bring my video monitor with me!!

Is it typical for people to do what this mom did?
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Old 12-09-2012, 03:57 PM   #2
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There have been several threads of this nature during my time on the DIS, and general consensus is that some people would. Some people would not. Some people would call the police if they saw someone else do it.

I don't think it's "typical behavior," but I also don't think taking the video monitor in while you pee to monitor a newborn is "typical behavior" either... but everyone does what they feel comfortable with.

As for whether or not I'd do it, probably not. But if I knew I'd only be a few minutes, could see the car/child from where I'd be and could leave immediately if my child needed me (all of which sound possible in the scenario you mentioned), I might. I would always lock the car and turn the motor off though.
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Old 12-09-2012, 04:03 PM   #3
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My son is 19 now. I did that once that i remember when he was a baby. Same thing...take out. I stood next to the window while they got my order ready to go and watched him. Not typical behavior for me, but I did do it.

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Old 12-09-2012, 04:07 PM   #4
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Didn't ever do that with either of ours. Just recently started to leave the 12 year old in the car in charge of the 7 year old under those circumstances. Still won't for a trip inside where they'd be out of view.
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Old 12-09-2012, 04:17 PM   #5
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I had twins and it was a big hassle deal to get them in and out of the car. So I usually ran my errands at night when DH was home. I did one time stop at a yard sale to look at something and they were in the car (toddlers at the time, so sitting up) and I left them in the car with the windows down just a few yards from where I was at (parked on the street, and I was on the driveway looking at something). Some woman came over to the car poked her head in and starting saying poor babies! (It wasn't hot that day either, and I was only on the drive way for about a minute before she did that). When I saw her do that, I went right back to the car and left with my twins. I never did that again.
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Old 12-09-2012, 04:17 PM   #6
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When I was a child it was common for parents to leave their kids in the car to run inside a store, post office, bank, etc.

But nowdays, not so much. I would never leave an infant in the car while I ran inside to pick up a pizza. I would either leave the baby home with Dad or another relative, friend, etc. or I would go to a drive-up window to pick up fast food, or I would cook at home. I just wouldn't feel comfortable leaving a baby alone in a car, even for a minute. But, I wouldn't call the police if I saw someone else do it.
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Old 12-11-2012, 08:35 AM   #7
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Didn't ever do that with either of ours. Just recently started to leave the 12 year old in the car in charge of the 7 year old under those circumstances. Still won't for a trip inside where they'd be out of view.
Wow, where do you live? I was babysitting at 12.
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Old 12-11-2012, 09:27 AM   #8
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I guess I'm a 'terrible' mom. I leave my youngest almost everyday in the car (turned off, no keys, doors locked) while I walk my oldest up the LONG sidewalk that leads to his school. And-I do this 2x per day-In and Out!
1. I'm in a school zone so the speed limit is 10mph and I'm not really concerned with someone hitting my car parked along the side of the road.
2. It's a school zone and the only people that are there are dropping off their own kids and most likely wouldn't want to go home with any 'extras'.
3. There are a lot of people around and it would be very very obvious if someone was trying to break into my car.

If we walk to school I also leave him in his stroller right outside the door (windowed) when I have to go sign out the oldest. There is no stroller ramp and for the 25 seconds it takes to sign my initials and collect my son I really can't see unstrapping the baby and carrying him in and out. If you know what it's like to get a toddler into/out of a stroller you'd agree with this.

Also, to the PP who said she used to let her sleeping kids stay sleeping in the driveway-I do this too! With my older one though, not the baby. I only get scared that he'll wake up and be scared-not that he will get hurt or anything. I crack the windows or leave the door open and only do this during the day. I keep my eye on him too. I'm not a complete loon!
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Old 12-11-2012, 10:11 AM   #9
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Wow, where do you live? I was babysitting at 12.
Mine juuuuuust turned 12 and it's a little different with siblings that grew up as "equals" than with someone else's kids. Oldest is allowed to stay home alone. We won't let her watch her sister 'til next year.
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Old 12-09-2012, 05:10 PM   #10
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There have been several threads of this nature during my time on the DIS, and general consensus is that some people would. Some people would not. Some people would call the police if they saw someone else do it.

I don't think it's "typical behavior," but I also don't think taking the video monitor in while you pee to monitor a newborn is "typical behavior" either... but everyone does what they feel comfortable with.

As for whether or not I'd do it, probably not. But if I knew I'd only be a few minutes, could see the car/child from where I'd be and could leave immediately if my child needed me (all of which sound possible in the scenario you mentioned), I might. I would always lock the car and turn the motor off though.
Well said!

If parenting has taught me one thing, it is to not be so judgemental of other parents.

I know I've had wonderful days and some pretty crappy ones. My kids have had good days and bad. I've had compliments on their behavior and glaring looks on other days.
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Old 12-09-2012, 05:24 PM   #11
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A guy just did that here in CT last week, ran into the store to grab chips and a drink and his car and child were gone.
Thankfully the thief brought the baby to a friends house and the friend took him to the police station.

I never left my kids in the car, I will now if DS16 is with them but he locks the doors as soon as I shut my door. I won't even leave them in the driveway if I need to run back in the house for something.

ETA: I did rip apart a lady once for leaving her kids in the car with it on to run into our local Starbucks. The kids were sleeping was her reason for leaving them. Wanna know the kicker? The Starbucks had a flippin' drive-thru!!
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Old 12-09-2012, 05:29 PM   #12
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A guy just did that here in CT last week, ran into the store to grab chips and a drink and his car and child were gone.
Thankfully the thief brought the baby to a friends house and the friend took him to the police station.

I never left my kids in the car, I will now if DS16 is with them but he locks the doors as soon as I shut my door. I won't even leave them in the driveway if I need to run back in the house for something.

ETA: I did rip apart a lady once for leaving her kids in the car with it on to run into our local Starbucks. The kids were sleeping was her reason for leaving them. Wanna know the kicker? The Starbucks had a flippin' drive-thru!!
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Old 12-09-2012, 05:35 PM   #13
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I'm sure I've done it before, in a similar circumstance (car in my vision, locked, quick in and out). However, I've never felt the need to monitor my kids while peeing. Honestly, I don't get how new parents can't shower. Put the baby in the crib - worst case scenario is the baby cries a bit. I'm glad I had my twins last - I don't even think I owned a baby monitor by that point!

I probably put my kids in more harm's way dragging them through parking lots when they were little!
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Old 12-09-2012, 05:37 PM   #14
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ETA: I did rip apart a lady once for leaving her kids in the car with it on to run into our local Starbucks. The kids were sleeping was her reason for leaving them. Wanna know the kicker? The Starbucks had a flippin' drive-thru!!
Sure, but does it have a drive-through bathroom? jk

I remember having to leave DD in her carseat one time because of a pump problem. I always did pay-at-the-pump, so it freaked me out to have to walk up to the counter for whatever the reason was. I guess I could have taken her out, but it was literally no more than a minute or two and I could see the car out the window the entire time! Still made me nervous, and what I do remember is thinking they will think I am a robber or something because I look so nervous and am in such a rush! Some of us may be overly cautious these days.

It's a tough call sometimes.
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Old 12-09-2012, 05:45 PM   #15
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Growing up I can remember my own mother leaving us in the car when she was running quick errands. That being said, I wouldn't leave my baby in the car alone. Too many crazies out there these days.
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