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Old 12-06-2012, 10:28 AM   #1
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I just don't care... small vent

Background... One of my coworkers ('A') gets a cab to/from work every day.

The story... A coworker ('B') passes me in the hallway and asks if I've seen 'A'. Me: No, can I help you ('A' and I worked in similar departments and often I can do what he does)?
B: Well, you may know I had some medical issue (he might have said a small stroke) a while back and I'm still not allowed to drive. I have to be in at 6am on 'x' day to fill in for 'C', and my wife is working late the night before and won't be home until 1am. It wouldn't be good for me to ask her to bring me to work, so I wanted to talk to 'A' about the cab company he uses and how much it costs and how reliable they are. Can you tell 'A' I'm looking for him?
Me:uh, sure.

Why are people so willing to share medical issues? I'm sorry, I really don't care. A simple "I need to talk to him about the cab company he uses" would have been just fine.
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Old 12-06-2012, 10:52 AM   #2
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I'm sorry, did you leave out some details? Because I don't see where he shared any revealing information other than saying he had an issue.

That conversation took what? All of 30 seconds?
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Old 12-06-2012, 10:58 AM   #3
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I'm sorry, did you leave out some details? Because I don't see where he shared any revealing information other than saying he had an issue.

That conversation took what? All of 30 seconds?
Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.
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Old 12-06-2012, 11:01 AM   #4
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Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.

You don't care that a coworker had a stroke? Wow. I hope all that compassion of yours doesn't get too overwhelming for you.
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Old 12-06-2012, 11:03 AM   #5
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On a scale of oversharing, with 10 being a vivid description of one's colonoscopy and 1 being their name, I give this one a 3.
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Old 12-07-2012, 06:35 AM   #6
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On a scale of oversharing, with 10 being a vivid description of one's colonoscopy and 1 being their name, I give this one a 3.
One of my coworkers (a male in his early 60s) is an 11 on your scale. I (a female in my early 30s) really, really, really don't need to hear about his colonoscopies (yes, plural), his colon cancer (in detail), his ostomy bags (my aunt had the same surgery, I never heard any details... and heck, she's my AUNT!), the surgery to close his ostomy, how he has to go to the bathroom at least twice and hour and everything else that I even think is too embarrassing to share with a board where nobody knows me or him or will every get to know one of us.

Giving an explanation of why you need to aks "A" about the cab company (and you are not just too lazy or too posh to take a car) is a max. of 3 on that scale. 1 being "Hi, I am looking for "A", have you seen him?" and 2 being "Can you tell him I am looking for him".

That is how differently people percieve situations
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Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.
Remember this when you have something to talk about or ask...don't expect anyone to care.
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Old 12-06-2012, 11:05 AM   #8
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Remember this when you have something to talk about or ask...don't expect anyone to care.
Maybe you're more friendly with your coworkers. I do have some that I'm willing to share with and listen to them share. Someone who I simply say "hi" when passing in the hallway... not so much.

I don't expect the majority of coworkers to care about my personal life.
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Old 12-06-2012, 11:16 AM   #9
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Maybe you're more friendly with your coworkers. I do have some that I'm willing to share with and listen to them share. Someone who I simply say "hi" when passing in the hallway... not so much.

I don't expect the majority of coworkers to care about my personal life.
What's wrong with that? and it's not that they have to "Care" but it does make the place you spend much of the day at, a lot nicer.

Listen, I just experienced a tragedy in my life and let me tell you, it does make the place where I work very nice when folks come up to me and express compassion and concern. Yeah, maybe it's meaningless because they all don't know me well and I don't think I'm an attention hog but it does feel good when the elevator guy says "hey sorry to hear about your loss".
sorry, I'm with the others, why is is so horrible that others simply want to be cordial.

Do we have to know some one's life history to share 3 minutes of our life with them?

For the record you're coworker was simply asking for a little help. Not really what I would say is asking you to "care about her life".
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Old 12-06-2012, 11:40 AM   #10
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Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.
Wow, you don't care that he had a stroke,or "whatever"?! I would care that a perfect stranger had a stroke, and I would most definitely care more that a co-worker had one!! I'm sorry you have no compassion for your co-workers. I see nothing wrong with what your co-worker said to you. He didn't go into all the gory details of his medical problems, he was just explaining to you why he wanted to talk to the other co-worker about what cab company they use. So sorry you couldn't give him the time of day. Very sad.
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Old 12-06-2012, 12:42 PM   #11
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Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.
Using the same logic, he would be walking away immediately after you said "no, can I help you?" because you wouldn't be able to help him anyway.

I don't see what the big deal was and you are just being hard.
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Old 12-06-2012, 01:04 PM   #12
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Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.
You poor dear! You had to spend 30 seconds listening to a coworker instead of pretending that he was a piece of furniture - that's terrible! Why on earth would that man think he's entitled to some human dignity?
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Old 12-06-2012, 01:17 PM   #13
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Sam, you should know by now there is no such thing as venting here. It is not allowed in the perfect world of the Dis. You will be torn apart, mocked, criticized, called awful, fill-in-the-blank, etc.

No one has ever been annoyed by an over-sharing acquaintance or just had a pissy day in general where everything annoys them. Nope, not here.
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Old 12-06-2012, 01:27 PM   #14
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Sam, you should know by now there is no such thing as venting here. It is not allowed in the perfect world of the Dis. You will be torn apart, mocked, criticized, called awful, fill-in-the-blank, etc.

No one has ever been annoyed by an over-sharing acquaintance or just had a pissy day in general where everything annoys them. Nope, not here.
Of course I have, but I don't feel the need to share it with strangers on the internet. If I did, I would fully expect people to tell me that I'm being a whiner - because, well, that's pretty much the definition of being a whiner.

And I'm sorry, I don't think treating a person like they are a stalk of celery is the kind of behavior that should be encouraged. You absolutely have the right to be pissy about spending 30 seconds listening to a coworker, but I think it's pretty sad to brag about it. And yes, posting stuff like this on the internet is bragging - even if it makes you look bad.
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Old 12-06-2012, 01:18 PM   #15
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Maybe this guy really hasn't had a stroke (do you know if he actually did?) but really can't drive because he doesn't have a license (suspension/dui) and doesn't want you to think that he needs a cab for anything other than a medical reason . Maybe that's why he had what you consider diarrhea of the mouth.
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