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Old 09-27-2012, 12:59 PM   #1
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No Santa!!!!!

Has anyone ever told their child there is no santa If so how did you do it? My ds is 10 and in 5th grade, I know kids told him last year there is no santa.When he asked me about it(his little brother was in the room at the time)I told him that santa was magic and when you believe, santa brings the presents and when you don't believe your parents give you gifts.He said he still believes. I guess I'll see what he says once all the kids start talking about santa again.I just don't want him to be made fun off, so is it kinder if I tell him
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Old 09-27-2012, 01:17 PM   #2
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I am in the same boat. I have twins who are 10 and an 8 year old who all still believe. I don't want my fifth graders to be made fun of but I also don't want to tell them when they still believe. What to do?!!
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Old 09-27-2012, 01:27 PM   #3
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I never told mine, they just figured it out on their own. It was like around me they would act like they believed which is fun for them, but around their friends they didn't. My teenagers still go out on Christmas Eve to put reindeer food on the grass. It's just fun to pretend. They get a pass to behave that way because they have an 8yo brother who still believes.

Last year my 8yo's friend's grandmother that she lived with told him that Santa isn't real, I was so angry. Apparently they choose not to believe in Santa or the Easter Bunny or anything like that so they felt it was in his best interest to share their beliefs with him. I told him that Santa just doesn't come to their house because they don't believe in him, but my Aunt said I should've told him that their grandmother was mean and naughty so Santa didn't bring her gifts .
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Old 09-27-2012, 01:33 PM   #4
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DD knew at 4th grade that it wasn't real. She asked me seriously and I told her. For our relationship at that age it was very important for her to know that she could ask us anything and we would tell her the truth. She's an only and I think it's harder when you have littler kids in the picture.
She didn't cry about it - instead I did because it's closing a chapter on her childhood and it made me so sad that she wasn't young enough to believe. The nice thing about when they know is that you get the credit for it.
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Old 09-27-2012, 01:41 PM   #5
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I'm sure my 5th grade DD (almost 11) knows, but wouldn't dare admit it for fear of not getting anything from Santa or ruining it for her brothers. My almost 10 year old believes wholeheartedly, and I think he will for a very long time (he is totally into the "magic").

My mom never said he wasn't real....I got Santa gifts up until she passed away (I was 23). I imagine that's how we will do it in our house, too.
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Old 10-01-2012, 10:26 AM   #6
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I think your son already knows and chooses to hold on to the magic. Don't worry.
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Old 09-27-2012, 06:16 PM   #8
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I am in the same boat. I have twins who are 10 and an 8 year old who all still believe. I don't want my fifth graders to be made fun of but I also don't want to tell them when they still believe. What to do?!!

I could have written your post exactly. My kids are the same ages and I am struggling with what to do with the older two this year
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Old 09-27-2012, 06:47 PM   #9
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it's not all bad sometimes when they find out. my kiddo found all the teeth the tooth fairy took in a box. she figured it all out. while she was bummed about santa not being real, after asking questions, she realized how much work goes into making christmas special. she ended up being really touched and appreciative for the extreme lengths i went to at times to keep it magical. now at 12 she still leaves carrots out "for the reindeer" and cookies for "santa", even tho she's an only child and doesn't really need to fake it for others. she just likes to believe that "santa" is more of an idea and a feeling than a fat man in a suit. sometimes she'll make me something and wrap it with a from santa tag. plus, when it's time to put presents under the tree now and i tell her to go to bed, she actually does and STAYS there. lol and no more waking up at the crack of dawn for presents! she's content to just wait till i wake up because she knows i was probably up late doing all the christmas things.
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Old 09-27-2012, 06:51 PM   #10
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What do you mean there's no Santa?!?!

Seriously, I am 35 years old, have my own kid, my mother comes to MY house that I OWN on Xmas and I still get presents from Santa and my mother STILL insists that she saw Santa when she was a kid.

You never have to tell your kids and they will grow up just fine, lol. I think at some point the self preservation instinct kicks in and even if they do still believe they know enough not to say so in front of their friends.
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I could have written your post exactly. My kids are the same ages and I am struggling with what to do with the older two this year
Good luck to you! Funny thing in our house is that I think my younger daughter might figure things out before my older two!
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Old 09-27-2012, 01:25 PM   #12
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Never once in my life did I tell my kids that Santa wasn't real. My parents also never did that. I think at a certain age you get wise enough to start wondering about it. Then you either start asking around or you don't and just come up with your own conclusions. Mine didn't ask, so I found no reason to bring it up. (They are 17 and 19 now).

I personally found out at age 10 when I saw my parents putting together a gift on Christmas eve for my little brother that said "From Santa" on Christmas morning. Of course, I didn't say anything. No one want to ruin Christmas for the little kids. I have no idea how my kids found out.

Good luck deciding what to do.
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Old 10-02-2012, 12:31 PM   #13
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Wait....
There's no Santa?
Wow....
Bummer.
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Old 10-02-2012, 03:00 PM   #14
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I told my children "the real Santa story" when they were both very young (2-3 yrs old). I believe in always telling the truth. We expect the truth from our children and I believe in giving them truth in return. We had fun pretending there was a Santa. I can't think of it being any more fun even if they really believed. We told Santa stories and even left milk and cookies for "Santa Dad" lol. I told my children the real Christmas story and I believe it was less confusing for them to know the truth from the very beginning.

Also, as a child I remember being very upset with my parents when I found out Santa wasn't real. I was upset thinking they had told me a lie.
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Old 10-02-2012, 03:03 PM   #15
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Wait....
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Wow....
Bummer.
Only if you dont believe in the magic of Christmas
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