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Old 06-24-2011, 06:21 PM   #1
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Feel like I am losing everyone

Hi everyone my name is Lynette and I have decided to post because I truly feel like the important people in my life keep leaving me.

Starting with my uncle who died of a sudden heart attack when I was 7 years old, my family seems to be falling apart piece by piece.

My mum was diagnosed with cancer when i was 9 and it was such a difficult thing to try and be a child whilst my mum and best friend was violently ill.
I had to try and do my best to not let the fact that for many months a year every year my mum would be in hospital or sick at home, affect my school work or my attitude.
My mum was the bravest person I know and she fought anything the cancer threw at her but then my favourite aunt (mums sister) was diagnosed with lung cancer she was even more frail than my mum and this seemed to put a lot of stress on her yet they gained strength from each others willingness to battle the disease.

My aunty died within a year of being diagnosed it was very sudden I didn't even know she was as sick as that.
Her passing broke my mums heart and she died 5 weeks later.
I was 16 at the time.
Fast forward till last year when my uncle, again on my mums side is told he may have bowel cancer and has to have several operations. Thankfully a few months ago it was discovered that he did not in facet have cancer it was something else.

I finally felt that some good luck had finally fallen to my family.
Then this week another of my mums sisters just got diagnosed with lung cancer that is untreatable and the doctors can do nothing for her. We are not sure how long she will live and she is just be realistic about her situation. She was married to the uncle who died when I was young.

I just don't understand how this is possible. None of the cancers are hereditary and it just seems like some kind of terrible joke. I am now 20 and still find the loss of my fa,ily members especially my aunt and my mother very hard I don't know how I will cope with my aunt dying, I was wondering if you could spare some kind thoughts or even a prayer because my family and I are in desperate need. Thank you for listening to my ramblings
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Old 06-24-2011, 09:25 PM   #2
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Hi Lynette,
I am so sorry for the losses you have had in your life, you have certainly had a lot to deal with at very young ages

It can be hard to make sense of why some people experience so much loss, I really don't have any answers.
Growing up with a sick parent is difficult and I cannot imagine what it must have been like to lose your precious mum when you were a child.

I truly wish I had words that could bring you comfort as you now face another loss in your family.
Although I don't have the words, please know that I am thinking of you and your family and am sending you a big Koala cuddle

Take care and post here anytime you need a chat of a

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Old 06-24-2011, 11:11 PM   #3
I am like HELLO IT IS TEN OCLOCK...Anderson is on

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Quasar is right in everything. You have been dealt so much at a young age. You must be a strong, admirable young lady.

I wish I could take away some pain, but that is not possible. I am truly sorry for everything/everybody you have lost. Loving and losing is never easy, especially when they are so close to us.

Please feel free to chat about anything, anytime. We are a great group of supporters and friends.

Hugs and prayers going out
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Old 06-26-2011, 09:10 PM   #4
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Saying prayers for you and your family. I am so sorry for all that you have gone through. You are a very strong young woman. Sending you hugs.
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Old 07-01-2011, 09:45 PM   #5
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((HUGS)) sometimes these things just all happen at once and it really shakes you to the core!
A few years ago I had..my Great Aunt on my Dad's side die right after the new year. Then my great Aunt on my Mom's side died the end of Jan. Then my Uncle (dads brother) dies in April. them my husbands Uncle died in May... I swear, I was thinking the poor school thought we were nuts when i had to keep calling my children out for a family funeral.
You will get through this, in the mean time come here to share...(hugs)
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Old 07-03-2011, 08:02 PM   #6
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I just wanted to say I am so sorry and we are all here if you need a friend. I am 40 years old and have lost so many of my family members. The first death I can remember was my grandfather when I was three. I then lost my daddy when I was 15 and my brother-in-law when I was 17. I have since lost my oldest brother who was my rock. I have also lost my grandmother, mother-in-law and two aunts. I know when my brother died I really had a hard time dealing with it. I just could not see what the point of living was if the end we would all die anyway. It took me a long time to find any joy in life but eventually I did. You are so young to have to deal with all of this and I am so sorry. If you ever need to talk we are here or feel free to pm me at any time. My prayers are with you.
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