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Old 09-06-2010, 10:36 PM   #1
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Has anyone ever complained about your kids at the parks?

Let's all be up front and admit it-our kids are not perfect, especially in an overstimulating place like WDW. At one point in time they have tantrummed, misbehaved, gotten a bit too hyper, unintentionally insulted someone, fought with their sibling loudly and in public, swung a chain at someone unintentionally..... they are kids and it happens.

I just wondered how you dealt with it in the parks? Did you punish them? Leave the line you were in? Leave the parks? Put them in time out? Make them apologize to the stranger they upset? Apologize for them?

Or did you just ignore it and let it go & hope the guest they just upset will let it go too because you are on vacation and don't want to ruin your trip or your kids' memories?

Also, does anyone on here set up incentive systems for your kids? (i.e. "If you behave, you will get ____at the end of the day")

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DH and I discussed this before ever going to WDW. We decided that a direct apology to the guest "we" might have inconvenienced would be best, along with having words with the child to make sure she understood whatever might have happened was NOT acceptable. This is pretty much status quo at home, although at home it might be followed by a time out. We decided not to go the time out route in WDW, as it is our vacation also and we didn't want to ruin our time. It is pointless to threaten, "One more whine and we will leave the park," if you really aren't willing to stick to your ultimatums. Of course, it was easy to make these decisions as 99% of the time DD is very, very well behaved, so it was hard to imagine that we'd ever be in this situation. Honestly, I don't think any of the situations OP mentioned were ever an issue with DD... lucky for us, I guess, but also because DD knows some things just aren't acceptable (swinging the queue chains, for example). I personally wouldn't use an incentive system; to me, that's bribing a kid to behave in the manner in which she is expected to behave regularly. I wouldn't do it at home, wouldn't do it at Disney.

None of this is much of an issue at WDW anymore, as DD is almost 17... at least I don't think it'll be a problem!
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Old 09-06-2010, 11:02 PM   #3
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We have had one major meltdown. It was about midnight and my 4 year old decided he wanted a huge monorail to take home. There was no way we could get it home. He wailed from the back of the park all the way to the monorail. We just kept walking, smiled and said sorry to the people we passed.

You would be amazed how many people understand and how far a simple apology can go. We have never had anyone be rude to us because of his behavior.
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Just don't do what we once saw.... a mom having a total meltdown in front of everyone. Yelling and screaming and not calming herself down. She just kept going on and on like a lunatic!!! I was scared for the kids! I'm not saying I'm an angel but she went overboard!

I have 2 boys aged 2 and 4 and they can get along really well and then there are times when they are horrible little monsters I'd like to dis-own!!! I take away toys if they misbehave which usually makes them realize they made a mistake. But then sometimes they have a fit I took something away and carry-on about that. But like the previus poster they are mostly good at Disney. They can get cranky due to being overtired in which we realize its our cue to retire for the day or at least for a few hours of down time.

We really have to go along with their schedules. i may have an itinerary I'd like to follow but sometimes it goes completly out the window.

Good luck and just remember your on vacation! And most people around you have little monsters of their own and will be understanding
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Old 09-06-2010, 11:11 PM   #5
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DS decided to throw a tantrum while we were getting lunch at Pecos Bill's once. I had already ordered and paid, and he just went to pieces. The trouble was that I was there alone with him so I held him and had to let him rant since we were waiting for an order. I got some nasty looks but luckily it was over with fast.

I don't know what brought that one on. He had very few tantrums and I made sure that he was well rested during our trips.
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Let me preface this by saying that I neither have nor want children (this in no way invalidates anyones choice to have any) so my bf and I definetly notice when children are misbehaving. We notice even more when parents are ignoring it. I'm sorry, but just because you are on your vacay doesn't mean you get to take a vacation from parenting Please don't tell yourself that most people have kids, most people sympathise, most people don't mind, or whatever if your kid melts down. The polite thing to do is to remove them from any enclosed area (if you are in a line, leave the line, if you are in a theatre, leave the theatre, if you are in a restaurant, leave the restaurant) to calm your little one down and deal with them.
Also please, please, please discipline them the same way you would at home! To not do that lets them know you are a push over on vacation and they can do as they please with no consequences. Just because it may inconvenence you doesn't mean you should skip it. If you usually do a time out - do it! It gives your child much needed structure and lets them know that you expect good behavior, even at a theme park. We can't tell you how many times we were annoyed by people letting their kids run wild at the expense of others. The one family that stood out to us the most as the best parents ever were the ones that actually gave their kids a time out for their tantrum at having to leave Dinoland. The kids were wailing and slapping and kicking at their dad and they sat them down and made them sit for a time out. It worked and the kids left sniffling and parents seemed calm. Kudos to them!
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Let me preface this by saying that I neither have nor want children (this in no way invalidates anyones choice to have any) so my bf and I definetly notice when children are misbehaving. We notice even more when parents are ignoring it. I'm sorry, but just because you are on your vacay doesn't mean you get to take a vacation from parenting Please don't tell yourself that most people have kids, most people sympathise, most people don't mind, or whatever if your kid melts down. The polite thing to do is to remove them from any enclosed area (if you are in a line, leave the line, if you are in a theatre, leave the theatre, if you are in a restaurant, leave the restaurant) to calm your little one down and deal with them.
Also please, please, please discipline them the same way you would at home! To not do that lets them know you are a push over on vacation and they can do as they please with no consequences. Just because it may inconvenence you doesn't mean you should skip it. If you usually do a time out - do it! It gives your child much needed structure and lets them know that you expect good behavior, even at a theme park. We can't tell you how many times we were annoyed by people letting their kids run wild at the expense of others. The one family that stood out to us the most as the best parents ever were the ones that actually gave their kids a time out for their tantrum at having to leave Dinoland. The kids were wailing and slapping and kicking at their dad and they sat them down and made them sit for a time out. It worked and the kids left sniffling and parents seemed calm. Kudos to them!

You hit the nail on the head! I think i've never run into any direct comments from people because they can see that i'm trying my best to handle it. My kids have the same rules EVERYWHERE we go and they know we mean what we say. It doesn't matter if we are at home, on the playground, or at disney world. With that said we also try to prevent these things by making sure they slept enough, ate enough, drank enough, and took needed breaks.
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The kids were wailing and slapping and kicking at their dad...
that happened in public because it is tolerated at home. how very sad.
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Let me preface this by saying that I neither have nor want children (this in no way invalidates anyones choice to have any) so my bf and I definetly notice when children are misbehaving. We notice even more when parents are ignoring it. I'm sorry, but just because you are on your vacay doesn't mean you get to take a vacation from parenting Please don't tell yourself that most people have kids, most people sympathise, most people don't mind, or whatever if your kid melts down. The polite thing to do is to remove them from any enclosed area (if you are in a line, leave the line, if you are in a theatre, leave the theatre, if you are in a restaurant, leave the restaurant) to calm your little one down and deal with them.
Also please, please, please discipline them the same way you would at home! To not do that lets them know you are a push over on vacation and they can do as they please with no consequences. Just because it may inconvenence you doesn't mean you should skip it. If you usually do a time out - do it! It gives your child much needed structure and lets them know that you expect good behavior, even at a theme park. We can't tell you how many times we were annoyed by people letting their kids run wild at the expense of others. The one family that stood out to us the most as the best parents ever were the ones that actually gave their kids a time out for their tantrum at having to leave Dinoland. The kids were wailing and slapping and kicking at their dad and they sat them down and made them sit for a time out. It worked and the kids left sniffling and parents seemed calm. Kudos to them!
Can't agree with you there.. I have a 2yr old who is just learning to talk and express his feelings.. he throws plenty of fits to see what reaction he will get out of people or because he is upset that we cant understand him. Thats what two yr olds do.. the worst this to do is give them attention when all they want is a reaction so if my son is whining for no reason then I'm going to ignore him for a little and see if that works rather then giving him what he wants. Sorry if u run into us in the park! I used to say things like you said before I had a kid.. easy to say what not to do or to do when you don't have a little monster. With all this said.. I would NEVER let my son get away with doing something mean, nasty or anything to anyone but sometimes small tantrums or fits need to be ignored for a few.
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Let me preface this by saying that I neither have nor want children (this in no way invalidates anyones choice to have any) so my bf and I definetly notice when children are misbehaving. We notice even more when parents are ignoring it. I'm sorry, but just because you are on your vacay doesn't mean you get to take a vacation from parenting Please don't tell yourself that most people have kids, most people sympathise, most people don't mind, or whatever if your kid melts down. The polite thing to do is to remove them from any enclosed area (if you are in a line, leave the line, if you are in a theatre, leave the theatre, if you are in a restaurant, leave the restaurant) to calm your little one down and deal with them.
Also please, please, please discipline them the same way you would at home! To not do that lets them know you are a push over on vacation and they can do as they please with no consequences. Just because it may inconvenence you doesn't mean you should skip it. If you usually do a time out - do it! It gives your child much needed structure and lets them know that you expect good behavior, even at a theme park. We can't tell you how many times we were annoyed by people letting their kids run wild at the expense of others. The one family that stood out to us the most as the best parents ever were the ones that actually gave their kids a time out for their tantrum at having to leave Dinoland. The kids were wailing and slapping and kicking at their dad and they sat them down and made them sit for a time out. It worked and the kids left sniffling and parents seemed calm. Kudos to them!
I'm sorry, it seems like most of you have let this one go, but I just can't. I feel the overwhelming need to paraphrase this post - here goes:

"I don't have kids, and don't want any, but I WILL tell you how to properly parent the ones YOU have."

That about right?



Further...

1. Disney is a place for children of all ages. Therefore, you will encounter many of them while touring the parks.

2. Children (of all ages) behave in VASTLY different ways, from one child to the next, and from one moment to the next.

3. Parents discipline and handle their children in VASTLY different ways, from one child to the next, and from one moment to the next.

4. As long as there are no signs of abuse, it is NOT YOUR PLACE to tell another parent how to discipline their children.

5. Is it rude to allow children to bother other park guests? Absolutely. But is it just as rude to interfere with/scold/comment to a parent who is dealing with (or not dealing with) their own children? Absolutely.

I know enough about my kids and they know enough about my expectations that I will remove them from public situations in which they act inappropriately. But other people to not handle their kids the same way, and I would never presume to know what's best for their families.


As parents, I am sure most here would agree that we have dealt with many, many stressful parenting situations, including those in which we are not particularly proud of our responses.

To assume that we are not handling our children "correctly" or up to your expectations is unfair and presumptuous.

Last visit, I sat with my kids in the back row of a boat on Splash Mountain and watched the single mother of four (ages around 5 to 10-11) in front of us beg, plead, holler, and cry to her children to sit down and behave on the ride. She was at her wit's end, and, while I initially thought some pretty ugly thoughts, by the end of the 10 minute ride I had been reminded well enough that her job is tough enough without some random stranger looking down his nose at her and jumping to conclusions. For her, this may have been the trip of a lifetime and she was trying to hold together the crumbling remnants of her dream vacation. Fact is, it wasn't my place to judge. That's somebody else's job. [/rant]


Sorry if this post comes off as rude - I'm trying to be as gentle as possible and get my point across.
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Just don't do what we once saw.... a mom having a total meltdown in front of everyone. Yelling and screaming and not calming herself down. She just kept going on and on like a lunatic!!! I was scared for the kids! I'm not saying I'm an angel but she went overboard!
OMG! I can't believe you saw ME!

The worst thing I have ever had happen involving my kids was at Mickey's PHilharmagic and my aunt was hold DD(8months old) and the lady behind her said "I could see if she wasn't holding that f' ing baby" though she said the whole word. I grabbed the baby from my aunt and held her in my lap. When it was over I confronted her and told her I would appreciate it if she talk about my child that way. She acted all innocent and said "why what did I say" so I repeated it and her adult daughter I thought was going to melt into the floor. The mother tried to say she didn't say it but the daughter told her she should apologize.

Okay so that was the worst thing anyone has ever "complained" about my kids. And really it was the complainer who was misbehaving.

Tantrums result in leaving if a quick "peace time" doesn't work. It sucks for everyone but one parent and child or all of us leave and go back to the hotel for a nap.
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Of course my kids are angels, so this doesn't affect me.




YEAH RIGHT! Oh course my children have misbehaved at disney world. But i have never had anyone say anything directly to me. Maybe the people see me trying to desperately gain control of the situation or help my kids recover or apologize for them. Or maybe because my kids have never had a full out temper tantrum (the kicking and blood curdling screaming kind). Or i'm just very lucky. Whenever i feel like my kids have bothered someone i always tell them to stop doing what they were doing and i usually apologize to the person that might have been bothered. Usually people are more than understanding.
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OMG! I can't believe you saw ME!

The worst thing I have ever had happen involving my kids was at Mickey's PHilharmagic and my aunt was hold DD(8months old) and the lady behind her said "I could see if she wasn't holding that f' ing baby" though she said the whole word. I grabbed the baby from my aunt and held her in my lap. When it was over I confronted her and told her I would appreciate it if she talk about my child that way. She acted all innocent and said "why what did I say" so I repeated it and her adult daughter I thought was going to melt into the floor. The mother tried to say she didn't say it but the daughter told her she should apologize.

Okay so that was the worst thing anyone has ever "complained" about my kids. And really it was the complainer who was misbehaving.

Tantrums result in leaving if a quick "peace time" doesn't work. It sucks for everyone but one parent and child or all of us leave and go back to the hotel for a nap.
Those people are lucky you had respect for other guest and didnt want to to get loud in front of your kid she should of said it in a different way that didnt have the f word in it. Some other people would of started a fight right there you handled it right . It sad when kids have to aplogize for their parents.
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My son is three and he's been to disney twice. most of the time apologies work, and if they don't who cares. It's disney, it's made for kids of all ages, and if people don't understand that kids breakdown sometimes then they must be in the wrong place.

However my advice is: don't forget naps if they need them, feed them often, and take breaks, esp swimming breaks. Give them some input (even if it not in the schedule). Most of all, when they get tired at the end of the night, remember you still have to get back to your resort, so factor in some time.
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OMG! I can't believe you saw ME!

The worst thing I have ever had happen involving my kids was at Mickey's PHilharmagic and my aunt was hold DD(8months old) and the lady behind her said "I could see if she wasn't holding that f' ing baby" though she said the whole word. I grabbed the baby from my aunt and held her in my lap. When it was over I confronted her and told her I would appreciate it if she talk about my child that way. She acted all innocent and said "why what did I say" so I repeated it and her adult daughter I thought was going to melt into the floor. The mother tried to say she didn't say it but the daughter told her she should apologize.

Okay so that was the worst thing anyone has ever "complained" about my kids. And really it was the complainer who was misbehaving.

Tantrums result in leaving if a quick "peace time" doesn't work. It sucks for everyone but one parent and child or all of us leave and go back to the hotel for a nap.
No only not talk about your child like that...How about not talk like that where kids may hear you????!!!!! Wow. People are crazy!
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