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BlueIvy 09-04-2013 01:04 PM

This is the worst week of my life
 
I'm not necessarily new to the boards . I browse but don't post .

I'm having the worst week of my life on the heel of what was supposed to be the best week of my life.

Single mom of two , i've been saving and paying off this trip for two years . It's finally just a few days away and im not excited at all. Not even a little bit.

My boyfriend of eight months attacked me on Saturday night. I went through his phone and found out he had been cheating on me the entire time .I am still devastated about that. I took the phone into my bathroom to speak to the woman and when he heard me on the phone he broke the door down and beat me up really badly. I had never been in a domestic violence relationship and never had a man hit me before. He hit me with a closed fist all over my face in front of my children . He punched me so hard the skin came off of my face . When I called 911 he ran and left .

His mother his hiding him out so the police can't find him and im on edge wanting justice ..

For the past 24 months i'd been looking forward to this trip and it's finally here and I'm not excited at all.

I had $1000 saved up for spending money . Now it's dwindled down to $600 because i've been staying in a hotel with my kids until they catch him.

I cant afford to stay in the hotel so I came back home.

I need help budgeting .. I don't think I can stretch the money enough to pull this trip. Honestly I just want to cancel the whole thing because im so depressed . I dont even care about the trip anymore but I dont want to take this trip away from my kids. They definetly need this trip especially after seeing what happened to me.

I dont want anything from any of you guys. Im not telling a sob story to scam anyone. Im not soliciting anything. I just want some help budgeting what I have and help stretching my dollar.

Were doing a 4 night disney cruise 9/8 -9/12 and I have tickets to mnsshp and tickets to universal 2 day park to park .

I plan on using my onboard credit to help towards tips and that leaves $75 left so that brings my money down to $525 if i dont do anything else onboard that costs money.

The post cruise hotel is already paid for but they have a daily resort fee of $25 a night so that drops me down another $75 . That leaves me with $450 to pay for food for 3 nights and 1 day. Were staying at POR one night before the cruise and we'd also need food for that day as well. I planned on making sandwiches the morning of our flight and hot dogs and wrapping the prepared hotdogs/buns in aluminum foil because they'll travel well and that could be a late lunch. I was going to buy the kids kids meals for dinner ....and I'm usually not very hungry so i could have a hot dog /nothing and be just fine .

I have the transportation to the parks already paid for. We're doing the shared mears bus shuttles . They pick you up and drop you back off at the resort.

I have to pay for the taxi to airport and that's $30 . That leaves me with $420 but I plan on taking $20 in singles to use to tip the porters and any miscellaneous things we have to tip for on the cruise that's not included with the mandatory gratuity.

Is $400 enough to feed my family for 3 nights 1 day at the parks ? I wanted to do atleast one sit down but I just cant see that happening with my limited budget. I would like to be able to buy my kids a souvenir and small treats at the park when they want something like a cotton candy or ice cream.

I'm so stressed out. I'm not looking forward to this trip and i'm very depressed . I want my kids to still have a good time but my heart just isn't in it at all. I have not even started packing or preparing or buying anything for this trip and our flight leaves on Saturday. I want to be excited but I just can't . I keep reliving the infidelity and the attack. My leg is black and blue where he kicked me . I have two knots on my forehead as well as the missing skin . I still have aches and pain but im trying to show my kids a brave face.

Please don't rip me a new one for my terrible budget... I really feel terrible . I was supposed to have alot more to spend. 24 months of planning and I have $600 . That is terrible. Nothing for emergencies or unforeseen circumstances. I can't not go on this trip. I'd end up losing almost $5000 ...flights are non refundable, I paid $3300 for the cruise fare. I'd lose that money . The park tickets ... paid for .. I just cant skip the trip.

tinker&belle 09-04-2013 01:15 PM

I would at least call the airlines and cruise line. Maybe you could reschedule with limited fees. We got a round of illness before our Universal trip and Universal said illness was a reason we could reschedule without penalty. Maybe call them and see? So sorry for what you've been through. If anything it would be nice to do it after your face has time to heal so the pictures won't always remind you of the incident. It would also give you some time to save. Do you have a credit card? I don't usually advocate debt for vacation but this is one instance to definitely bring it for an emergency!

Ali 09-04-2013 01:16 PM

Yes $400 is enough for a mom and 2 kids to eat in the parks for 3 days without doing a table service meal and leaving buffer room for emergencies or drinks. Buy snacks and treats and stuff like that. Bring snack foods and breakfast foods in your suitcase. I have never been on a cruise, so I don't know how it works, but I bet there are single serve items you could hoard in your suitcases.

other than that i wish you well.

Marionnette 09-04-2013 01:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BlueIvy (Post 49474147)
I'm not necessarily new to the boards . I browse but don't post .

I'm having the worst week of my life on the heel of what was supposed to be the best week of my life.

Single mom of two , i've been saving and paying off this trip for two years . It's finally just a few days away and im not excited at all. Not even a little bit.

My boyfriend of eight months attacked me on Saturday night. I went through his phone and found out he had been cheating on me the entire time .I am still devastated about that. I took the phone into my bathroom to speak to the woman and when he heard me on the phone he broke the door down and beat me up really badly. I had never been in a domestic violence relationship and never had a man hit me before. He hit me with a closed fist all over my face in front of my children . He punched me so hard the skin came off of my face . When I called 911 he ran and left .

His mother his hiding him out so the police can't find him and im on edge wanting justice ..

For the past 24 months i'd been looking forward to this trip and it's finally here and I'm not excited at all.

I had $1000 saved up for spending money . Now it's dwindled down to $600 because i've been staying in a hotel with my kids until they catch him.

I cant afford to stay in the hotel so I came back home.

I need help budgeting .. I don't think I can stretch the money enough to pull this trip. Honestly I just want to cancel the whole thing because im so depressed . I dont even care about the trip anymore but I dont want to take this trip away from my kids. They definetly need this trip especially after seeing what happened to me.

I dont want anything from any of you guys. Im not telling a sob story to scam anyone. Im not soliciting anything. I just want some help budgeting what I have and help stretching my dollar.

Were doing a 4 night disney cruise 9/8 -9/12 and I have tickets to mnsshp and tickets to universal 2 day park to park .

I plan on using my onboard credit to help towards tips and that leaves $75 left so that brings my money down to $525 if i dont do anything else onboard that costs money.

The post cruise hotel is already paid for but they have a daily resort fee of $25 a night so that drops me down another $75 . That leaves me with $450 to pay for food for 3 nights and 1 day. Were staying at POR one night before the cruise and we'd also need food for that day as well. I planned on making sandwiches the morning of our flight and hot dogs and wrapping the prepared hotdogs/buns in aluminum foil because they'll travel well and that could be a late lunch. I was going to buy the kids kids meals for dinner ....and I'm usually not very hungry so i could have a hot dog /nothing and be just fine .

I have the transportation to the parks already paid for. We're doing the shared mears bus shuttles . They pick you up and drop you back off at the resort.

I have to pay for the taxi to airport and that's $30 . That leaves me with $420 but I plan on taking $20 in singles to use to tip the porters and any miscellaneous things we have to tip for on the cruise that's not included with the mandatory gratuity.

Is $400 enough to feed my family for 3 nights 1 day at the parks ? I wanted to do atleast one sit down but I just cant see that happening with my limited budget. I would like to be able to buy my kids a souvenir and small treats at the park when they want something like a cotton candy or ice cream.

I'm so stressed out. I'm not looking forward to this trip and i'm very depressed . I want my kids to still have a good time but my heart just isn't in it at all. I have not even started packing or preparing or buying anything for this trip and our flight leaves on Saturday. I want to be excited but I just can't . I keep reliving the infidelity and the attack. My leg is black and blue where he kicked me . I have two knots on my forehead as well as the missing skin . I still have aches and pain but im trying to show my kids a brave face.

Please don't rip me a new one for my terrible budget... I really feel terrible . I was supposed to have alot more to spend. 24 months of planning and I have $600 . That is terrible. Nothing for emergencies or unforeseen circumstances. I can't not go on this trip. I'd end up losing almost $5000 ...flights are non refundable, I paid $3300 for the cruise fare. I'd lose that money . The park tickets ... paid for .. I just cant skip the trip.

I don't think that you will have a problem feeding your family on $400/3 nights. You won't have gourmet meals, but you will have food for everyone. People have been able to get by at Disney on a lot less.

I don't often tell people to JUST GO! when they make similar posts. It goes against my grain to encourage someone to take a trip when they are so low on funds. However, it looks as if you will not be able to recover the money you've already spent on this trip. You and the children need to feel safe and happy. So, JUST GO!

But make a plan that ensures that you and the children are protected when you return. Make sure that the police know that you will be traveling. They can send a patrol car around to check the house. And they can contact you if they need to. The threat is not going to go away just because you left town for a few days.

2TxAgs 09-04-2013 01:31 PM

I am so sorry that this has happened to you; that it happens at all to anyone is pitiful. You have my deepest sympathies.

Your trip may be just what you and your children need - to get away, to be pampered on a cruise ship, to be treated kindly. Your food on the cruise will be plentiful, and I absolutely believe your $400 will be fine to feed you for the remaining 3 days. We almost never did table service meals with our kids at WDW - counter is fine, takes less time, can be shared, etc. Think of it this way - 3 $10 meals, 3 times a day is $90, leaving $10 for a couple of ice cream treats. And you probably don't need $10 each for breakfast, and maybe you'll share a lunch or dinner.

I agree that if you have a credit card, take it for emergency use, but otherwise I don't believe you'll need more money. Tell the kids one 'treat' per day, use a resort mug as a souvenier, go to the dollar store and buy cheap autograph book and collect autographs as souveniers. Photos also make good souveniers - if your kids don't have phone cameras, you can buy a one time use camera at wallyworld and let them use that.

Wishing you a good time with your kiddos, and justice for the jerk.

BelleBeautyandtheBeast 09-04-2013 01:38 PM

Go! Immerse yourself in Disney *magic* and get away from reality. Everyone needs a break. It's paid for. You can get by on $400 for food, I've spent less than that and I have 3 kids. Do pressed pennies and other inexpensive stuff for souvenirs. Save the sit down meal for the very last day/meal (if you end up having enough cash).

Put on a smile and make some awesome memories with your kids.

ceecee 09-04-2013 01:39 PM

That should be plenty to take care of meals for you and the kids. We share quite a bit so don't forget you can do that and save quite a bit.
Tell the police where he is hiding and prosecute the guy! Don't back down on it!!! Best of luck to you and stay safe.

pryncess527 09-04-2013 01:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Marionnette (Post 49474340)
I don't think that you will have a problem feeding your family on $400/3 nights. You won't have gourmet meals, but you will have food for everyone. People have been able to get by at Disney on a lot less.

I don't often tell people to JUST GO! when they make similar posts. It goes against my grain to encourage someone to take a trip when they are so low on funds. However, it looks as if you will not be able to recover the money you've already spent on this trip. You and the children need to feel safe and happy. So, JUST GO!

But make a plan that ensures that you and the children are protected when you return. Make sure that the police know that you will be traveling. They can send a patrol car around to check the house. And they can contact you if they need to. The threat is not going to go away just because you left town for a few days.

Ditto

wendow 09-04-2013 01:55 PM

Agree with others. $400 is plenty of money for that amount of time. I could feed my family of 6 for less than that so you will be fine. And I also agree this could be very good for you to just go and get away from all that has happened. I'm so sorry that something so awful happened to you. (((HUGS)))

Marionnette 09-04-2013 02:01 PM

Don't forget that there will be plenty of table service opportunities on the ship. Plus, there will be at least one character breakfast. Take advantage of as many of those as you can! (Plus, "room service" is free!) By the time that you disembark, you're going to be looking forward to simple sandwiches and smaller meals! So, don't worry about making TS reservations for the parks. Enjoy QS meals there. Share them, if you find they are too filling. Take a refillable water bottle so that you're not tempted to spend your precious dollars on Dasani.

bumbershoot 09-04-2013 02:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Marionnette (Post 49474340)
I don't think that you will have a problem feeding your family on $400/3 nights. You won't have gourmet meals, but you will have food for everyone. People have been able to get by at Disney on a lot less.

I don't often tell people to JUST GO! when they make similar posts. It goes against my grain to encourage someone to take a trip when they are so low on funds. However, it looks as if you will not be able to recover the money you've already spent on this trip. You and the children need to feel safe and happy. So, JUST GO!

But make a plan that ensures that you and the children are protected when you return. Make sure that the police know that you will be traveling. They can send a patrol car around to check the house. And they can contact you if they need to. The threat is not going to go away just because you left town for a few days.

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When DS was smaller we budgeted $100 per day for food AND souvenirs. And that's for two adults and one child. We did fine. I'm sure you will be better than fine financially.

Remember that souvenirs can be very small. Kids sometimes want the oddest things; they don't always want the big huge expensive items. And there are plenty of things at WDW that can be purchased later, when you can. in fact you should consider that; if there's something you want to buy but can't now, write down exactly what it is, and the SKU if you can find it. I'm sure you'll buy *something* while there, and the receipt will have the phone number for Disney Merchandise. Later, when you can, call them and give them the info about the item(s) and see if they can find it for you. You can buy it and have them ship it at that time.



Doing the cruise without buying things won't be hard. We bought pictures, a coconut cup, and I got a few drinks, and I think that's all we got that was extra. Oh wait, DH insisted on buying popcorn before the shows. I could have done without all of those extras *easily*.


I'm so sorry this happened to you. :grouphug:



Quote:

By the time that you disembark, you're going to be looking forward to simple sandwiches and smaller meals!
That is SO true. :)

momto2inKC 09-04-2013 02:17 PM

I agree with the others, you have plenty! Go and make some memories with your kiddos! :grouphug:

hlg22 09-04-2013 02:20 PM

I echo what others have said, and am chiming in only to encourage you to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE), if you haven't already - they can help you figure out what to do to ensure your and your children's safety while your ex is still on the loose, possible direct you to no-cost temporary emergency housing in your area, and assist you with next steps in moving forward from here.

wilkeliza 09-04-2013 02:22 PM

Just and idea for a great souvenir that is cheap pressed coins! I have a collection of them and at 51 cents for pennies and 1.25 for quarters it is a cheap take home that your kids can either keep in a book or there are websites that show you how to turn them into bracelets and jewelry. I collected these coins as a child and now as an adult still collect them and make jewelry out of them. It is even a cheap souvenir when you go other places not just Disney.

Claire&TheBoys 09-04-2013 02:23 PM

I agree that you should have plenty of money with $400 for 3 days. You might throw a box of granola bars or pop-tarts in your suitcase to have for breakfast in your room those days. You don't say how old your kids are, but if they're under 10, or if they will eat kids' meals, and you say you don't eat a lot, you could get 3 kids' meals at a counter-service place and probably have plenty. Or 2 adult meals. Each way, you're looking at under $20 per meal. Definitely do-able. And CS doesn't necessarily mean burgers, chicken nuggets and pizza. Consider having a big meal at POR's food court before you head to MNSSHP and you'll have lots of choices, then snack in the park.

I hope you can focus on having a good time with your children and enjoy some time away from this awful situation. Good luck to you!


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