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MIGrandma 01-05-2013 10:35 AM

Starting to Worry About My Husband
 
DH has had a lower back ache for the past few days, with it steadily getting worse. Last night we had to attend a visitation at a funeral home in town, and it was difficult for him to even walk inside. I was cold so was walking fast and turned to him and jokingly said, "hey, catch up!" and he said he couldn't, it hurt too much to try and walk fast. :(

After we got home he put a heating pad on his lower back and thought it helped. But. He feels worse this morning and feels like the pain is "gravitating toward his stomach." :(

Of course he won't call the doctor, he's a man, he's stubborn. :(

He's attending the funeral this morning, and took a hot, soaking bath before he got dressed. He said he just felt awful. Even kind of clammy and sweaty so he took his temperature, but it was actually below normal.

I worry that it could be serious. Kidney stone? Gall stone? I just don't know. I feel bad for him but don't know how I can help, since he won't call the doctor. :(

I had gall stones (gall bladder removed in '77) so I know what that pain feels like, never had a kidney stone so could that be it?

'Course now it's the weekend and the doctor's office is closed. But if he isn't better by Monday I'll call myself.

palmtreegirl 01-05-2013 10:38 AM

Is he passing urine? If not, then it definitely could be a kidney stone. If it is, the pain will get so bad, he'll want you to take him to the ER. My "never go to the doctor" Dad had them when I was little and he went to the doctor. I had them a few years ago and dang, the pain was horrible, right up there with labor.

Just adding I agree with the others if the pain is that bad get him to the ER right away.

DebbieB 01-05-2013 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by MIGrandma (Post 47089131)
DH has had a lower back ache for the past few days, with it steadily getting worse. Last night we had to attend a visitation at a funeral home in town, and it was difficult for him to even walk inside. I was cold so was walking fast and turned to him and jokingly said, "hey, catch up!" and he said he couldn't, it hurt too much to try and walk fast. :(

After we got home he put a heating pad on his lower back and thought it helped. But. He feels worse this morning and feels like the pain is "gravitating toward his stomach." :(

Of course he won't call the doctor, he's a man, he's stubborn. :(

He's attending the funeral this morning, and took a hot, soaking bath before he got dressed. He said he just felt awful. Even kind of clammy and sweaty so he took his temperature, but it was actually below normal.

I worry that it could be serious. Kidney stone? Gall stone? I just don't know. I feel bad for him but don't know how I can help, since he won't call the doctor. :(

I had gall stones (gall bladder removed in '77) so I know what that pain feels like, never had a kidney stone so could that be it?

'Course now it's the weekend and the doctor's office is closed. But if he isn't better by Monday I'll call myself.

If he feels "just awful", I'd get him to urgent care or ER.

abdmom 01-05-2013 10:40 AM

It could be just about anything, including a heart attack. I'd get him to the ER. Better safe than sorry.

The Mystery Machine 01-05-2013 10:52 AM

My dh had a heart attack and then a triple bypass. I am playing caregiver now.

His symptoms were not even typical. He had the heart attack a week before he finally got diagnosed.

Here is my 2cents since my dh's "misdiagnosis" at the Urgent Care, get a blood test for the enzyme or an EKG to make sure it is NOT a heart attack.

We thought it was the stomach flu. I mean his white count was up, he was dehydrated from barfing 30 times, his back/chest hurt (we blamed that on the barfing because he does get heartburn), he did have faint numbness a few days before in his arm. The doc gave him 3 bags of fluids at the Urgent Care. I cannot believe we did not even think heart attack.

Looking back though, hindsight right, his was whiteish and cold and clammy. When he said he could not do X task without getting short of breath I told him to go to the ER because THAT is NOT a "stomach flu" symptom.

Hopefully it is nothing. Good Luck!

Stitchfans 01-05-2013 11:10 AM

if he can hardly walk from the pain that isn't good. I'd really try to get him to have it checked out. I had something similar like that many years ago and ended up being a sciatic nerve that was pinched. But as said it could be anything.

lsyorke 01-05-2013 11:13 AM

TO THE ER NOW! Back pain can be a myriad of things, with some of the major ones being VERY critical, especially if he is older. GO NOW

abbadackerygirl 01-05-2013 11:24 AM

Cold and clammy is never good. Back pain and cold & sweaty are both signs of a heart attack.

Tell him how important to you it is for him to go to the doctor, and tell him it could be serious. Especially with a lower temp. Lower temp can be caused by low blood pressure. He could have so many other things, kidney stones, perforated intestine, but you can't diagnose him, and neither can he. GET HIM TO THE ER! I'd call an ambulance RIGHT NOW, and have the EMTs check his vitals. If he wont listen to you, he might listen to them.... Good luck.

My mother's been ER nurse for 22 years, and I am a Veterinary Technician. Trust me, he needs a doc.

abbadackerygirl 01-05-2013 11:27 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Mystery Machine (Post 47089289)
My dh had a heart attack and then a triple bypass. I am playing caregiver now.

His symptoms were not even typical. He had the heart attack a week before he finally got diagnosed.

Here is my 2cents since my dh's "misdiagnosis" at the Urgent Care, get a blood test for the enzyme or an EKG to make sure it is NOT a heart attack.

We thought it was the stomach flu. I mean his white count was up, he was dehydrated from barfing 30 times, his back/chest hurt (we blamed that on the barfing because he does get heartburn), he did have faint numbness a few days before in his arm. The doc gave him 3 bags of fluids at the Urgent Care. I cannot believe we did not even think heart attack.

Looking back though, hindsight right, his was whiteish and cold and clammy. When he said he could not do X task without getting short of breath I told him to go to the ER because THAT is NOT a "stomach flu" symptom.

Hopefully it is nothing. Good Luck!

My thoughts exactly!

MOpGrad2013 01-05-2013 11:32 AM

Yes definitely go to the ER/Urgent Care....it could be quite a few things.

Keep us posted.

In our prayers and thoughts.

npmommie 01-05-2013 11:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MIGrandma (Post 47089131)
DH has had a lower back ache for the past few days, with it steadily getting worse. Last night we had to attend a visitation at a funeral home in town, and it was difficult for him to even walk inside. I was cold so was walking fast and turned to him and jokingly said, "hey, catch up!" and he said he couldn't, it hurt too much to try and walk fast. :(

After we got home he put a heating pad on his lower back and thought it helped. But. He feels worse this morning and feels like the pain is "gravitating toward his stomach." :(

Of course he won't call the doctor, he's a man, he's stubborn. :(

He's attending the funeral this morning, and took a hot, soaking bath before he got dressed. He said he just felt awful. Even kind of clammy and sweaty so he took his temperature, but it was actually below normal.

I worry that it could be serious. Kidney stone? Gall stone? I just don't know. I feel bad for him but don't know how I can help, since he won't call the doctor. :(

I had gall stones (gall bladder removed in '77) so I know what that pain feels like, never had a kidney stone so could that be it?

'Course now it's the weekend and the doctor's office is closed. But if he isn't better by Monday I'll call myself.

I agree with the others, get him to the ER to get checked out.

NHdisneylover 01-05-2013 12:12 PM

Ifyou have not left for an ER or urgent care yet, please do ASAP.

I'll keep you and your husband n my thoughts, and please, when you have time, let us all know how he is doing.

4nana 01-05-2013 12:16 PM

MIGma, I share yours and everyones concern :worried:. Yes, our dear soul mates can be so stubborn and brush symptoms off. If he is in that much pain, he will probably feel worst upon returning from funeral :(. Better safe than sorry, sometimes we have to take matters in our own hands concerning loved ones health/illness.

Not to scare you, but I've been there sweetie, better safe than sorry ...gave my DH choice of calling an ambulance or I'd drive him to UC - of course he refused to hear of ambulance, so I drove him to UC, who quickly assessed him, hooked him to IV. They immediately called ambulance for ER and praise God they saved his life! Lord forbid, if we're ever in that situation again, we both know it's ER period! Hugs and prayers, good luck, and pls keep us updated. :hug:

gottalovethat 01-05-2013 12:21 PM

I don't have any advice on what may be causing his discomfort but I will have you and your DH in my thoughts and prayers. Hoping everything works out okay.

BearcatsFan 01-05-2013 12:29 PM

I am so sorry your husband isn't feeling well. I will echo what the others have said - I truly think you should get him to the ER if possible. It really could be anything, from a simple backache to something far more serious.
This is no time to take chances.

I feel for you. I have to drag my husband to the doctor, too.

I'll keep you and him in my thoughts and prayers. Please update us when you know more. :hug:


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