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JanetRose 12-06-2012 09:07 PM

Disciplining a child who tells lies
 
Heard about someone who disciplines his child (about 10 years old) who tells a lot of lies by not letting him talk for 20 days....the boy is also home schooled.

Don't want to start any fights but wanted to find out if that is reasonable...I think it's extreme.

abdmom 12-06-2012 09:09 PM

It's emotional abuse, IMO. I'd be calling CPS.

Southernmiss 12-06-2012 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by JanetRose (Post 46872332)
Heard about someone who disciplines his child (about 10 years old) who tells a lot of lies by not letting him talk for 20 days....the boy is also home schooled.

Don't want to start any fights but wanted to find out if that is reasonable...I think it's extreme.

I agree. I think dad needs to go to parenting classes to learn another method of disciplining his son. I think not letting the child speak borders on abuse. I would wonder what else goes on in the house with that child and any other children in the home.

Peanut Giggleface 12-06-2012 09:21 PM

First of all make sure you have your facts straight. If you're going on hearsay, then I would do some checking. But if what you heard is truth, then I would go to the authorities. That is absolutely emotional abuse and pathetic parenting.

ebtbmom 12-06-2012 09:25 PM

That's one of the strangest things I've ever heard. Some kids are "homeschooled" because the parents don't want people knowing what bizarre stuff they do to their children. I think this needs further investigation.

a1tinkfans 12-06-2012 09:49 PM

Not sure why the child is lying, which clearly is not a good pattern...but then the punishment is so awful, I do not understand that either.

Poor parenting at best. Hope this is not accurate....:confused3

goofyintoronto 12-06-2012 09:55 PM

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Originally Posted by abdmom
It's emotional abuse, IMO. I'd be calling CPS.

Totally agree!!!! What the heck is wrong with that man??

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diznee25 12-06-2012 10:14 PM

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Originally Posted by JanetRose (Post 46872332)
Heard about someone who disciplines his child (about 10 years old) who tells a lot of lies by not letting him talk for 20 days....the boy is also home schooled.

Don't want to start any fights but wanted to find out if that is reasonable...I think it's extreme.

So sad. :rolleyes: This could teach the child to become a better liar, instead of coming forward with the truth...in future instances. Why would you ever want to come forward with the truth if you're going to get that type of punishment?

Agree with others: this is emotional abuse. I can't imagine with other forms of punishments this father gives for other infractions....ugh, I don't want to think about it! :sad2:

diznee25

nchulka 12-06-2012 10:20 PM

This makes no sense, how do you not let a child talk at all for 20 days??!!! I can see a parent saying this is frustration (much like you're grounded for 6 months!) but I can't see that they could ever actually follow through on it :confused3

Andtototoo 12-06-2012 10:43 PM

That's emotionally abusive.

I would also wonder what else that parent is doing to the child in the name of so-called discipline. I

angwill 12-07-2012 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by nchulka (Post 46872793)
This makes no sense, how do you not let a child talk at all for 20 days??!!! I can see a parent saying this is frustration (much like you're grounded for 6 months!) but I can't see that they could ever actually follow through on it :confused3

:thumbsup2 Sounds exaggerated. If the kid can't talk for 20 days when does he ever have the chance to lie. Besides that when you play the be quiet for 5 minutes game no kid can make it over 60 seconds. lol

I can only imagine what CPS is going to think if someone calls and says "I am calling in about a child that is abused because his father punishes him by not allowing him to talk for 20 days each time he lies."

lovin'fl 12-07-2012 07:50 AM

And what's the punishment if he talks during the 20 days? You should definitely look into it and if it's true and there are even other more bizarre punishments, you should report it.

JennaDeeDooDah 12-07-2012 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by nchulka (Post 46872793)
This makes no sense, how do you not let a child talk at all for 20 days??!!! I can see a parent saying this is frustration (much like you're grounded for 6 months!) but I can't see that they could ever actually follow through on it :confused3

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Originally Posted by angwill (Post 46873201)
:thumbsup2 Sounds exaggerated. If the kid can't talk for 20 days when does he ever have the chance to lie. Besides that when you play the be quiet for 5 minutes game no kid can make it over 60 seconds. lol

I can only imagine what CPS is going to think if someone calls and says "I am calling in about a child that is abused because his father punishes him by not allowing him to talk for 20 days each time he lies."

:thumbsup2 Agree with both of these.

punkin 12-07-2012 08:00 AM

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Originally Posted by nchulka (Post 46872793)
This makes no sense, how do you not let a child talk at all for 20 days??!!! I can see a parent saying this is frustration (much like you're grounded for 6 months!) but I can't see that they could ever actually follow through on it :confused3

That's because you are not an abusive parent. Believe me, as someone who is currently involved with a family case of emotional abuse, I can definitively state that an abusive parent can and will follow through.

I do not advocate calling CPS just based on hearsay. However, if you have witnessed something, please call. No child should have to suffer emotional abuse.

shortbun 12-07-2012 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by abdmom (Post 46872349)
It's emotional abuse, IMO. I'd be calling CPS.

Yep, matter of fact, if you want to PM me with the details, I'll call them right now. Disgusting.


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