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sam_gordon 12-06-2012 09:28 AM

I just don't care... small vent
 
Background... One of my coworkers ('A') gets a cab to/from work every day.

The story... A coworker ('B') passes me in the hallway and asks if I've seen 'A'. Me: No, can I help you ('A' and I worked in similar departments and often I can do what he does)?
B: Well, you may know I had some medical issue (he might have said a small stroke) a while back and I'm still not allowed to drive. I have to be in at 6am on 'x' day to fill in for 'C', and my wife is working late the night before and won't be home until 1am. It wouldn't be good for me to ask her to bring me to work, so I wanted to talk to 'A' about the cab company he uses and how much it costs and how reliable they are. Can you tell 'A' I'm looking for him?
Me:uh, sure.

Why are people so willing to share medical issues? I'm sorry, I really don't care. A simple "I need to talk to him about the cab company he uses" would have been just fine.

mdsoccermom 12-06-2012 09:52 AM

I'm sorry, did you leave out some details? Because I don't see where he shared any revealing information other than saying he had an issue.

That conversation took what? All of 30 seconds?

mickeysgal 12-06-2012 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by sam_gordon (Post 46867077)
Background... One of my coworkers ('A') gets a cab to/from work every day.

The story... A coworker ('B') passes me in the hallway and asks if I've seen 'A'. Me: No, can I help you ('A' and I worked in similar departments and often I can do what he does)?
B: Well, you may know I had some medical issue (he might have said a small stroke) a while back and I'm still not allowed to drive. I have to be in at 6am on 'x' day to fill in for 'C', and my wife is working late the night before and won't be home until 1am. It wouldn't be good for me to ask her to bring me to work, so I wanted to talk to 'A' about the cab company he uses and how much it costs and how reliable they are. Can you tell 'A' I'm looking for him?
Me:uh, sure.

Why are people so willing to share medical issues? I'm sorry, I really don't care. A simple "I need to talk to him about the cab company he uses" would have been just fine.

Because some people like to just overtalk every subject...medical, family, etc. It's their nature to divulge details. Others feel they have to explain it to such detail as to lend to credibility. Telling someone the why they need the information on the cab company sounds more urgent and necessary to respond to them quicker than a casual "what cab company does X use". Asking the plain vanilla question may not get the response from X in a timely manner.

RadioNate 12-06-2012 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by sam_gordon
Background... One of my coworkers ('A') gets a cab to/from work every day.

The story... A coworker ('B') passes me in the hallway and asks if I've seen 'A'. Me: No, can I help you ('A' and I worked in similar departments and often I can do what he does)?
B: Well, you may know I had some medical issue (he might have said a small stroke) a while back and I'm still not allowed to drive. I have to be in at 6am on 'x' day to fill in for 'C', and my wife is working late the night before and won't be home until 1am. It wouldn't be good for me to ask her to bring me to work, so I wanted to talk to 'A' about the cab company he uses and how much it costs and how reliable they are. Can you tell 'A' I'm looking for him?
Me:uh, sure.

Why are people so willing to share medical issues? I'm sorry, I really don't care. A simple "I need to talk to him about the cab company he uses" would have been just fine.

Because it wasn't a big deal? Heaven forbid someone tries to be nice & explain the situation when you asked them if you could help.

When did we become this society? Where we don't care about anyone else. Where we are so wrapped up with ourselves that we get annoyed at a 60 second conversation w/a co worker.

sam_gordon 12-06-2012 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by mdsoccermom (Post 46867297)
I'm sorry, did you leave out some details? Because I don't see where he shared any revealing information other than saying he had an issue.

That conversation took what? All of 30 seconds?

Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.

shellybaxter 12-06-2012 09:58 AM

Sorry - I don't see a problem. I think it sounds like a prefectly reasonable conversation to me.

JessicaR 12-06-2012 10:00 AM

I also would have found the conversation a little weird. No need explaining - you need a cab and 'A' takes one so I'm looking to talk to him about it. :confused3

The person was over sharing maybe with a reason and maybe not. Maybe feeling you out for a ride offer?

sam_gordon 12-06-2012 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by RadioNate (Post 46867340)
Because it wasn't a big deal? Heaven forbid someone tries to be nice & explain the situation when you asked them if you could help.

When did we become this society? Where we don't care about anyone else. Where we are so wrapped up with ourselves that we get annoyed at a 60 second conversation w/a co worker.

I've been this way for as long as I remember. :confused3

mdsoccermom 12-06-2012 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by sam_gordon (Post 46867344)
Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.


You don't care that a coworker had a stroke? Wow. I hope all that compassion of yours doesn't get too overwhelming for you.

WDSearcher 12-06-2012 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by sam_gordon (Post 46867077)
Why are people so willing to share medical issues? I'm sorry, I really don't care. A simple "I need to talk to him about the cab company he uses" would have been just fine.

Said the person who shared the entire conversation AND the complaint about it with a bunch of total strangers on an internet bulletin board. ;)

:earsboy:

RadioNate 12-06-2012 10:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sam_gordon
Yes, it is very minor vent. I don't care that he had the stroke (or whatever). I don't care that he's filling in for someone. I don't care that his wife is working late and he doesn't want to ask her for a ride. I thought it was strange that he went into all the extra information when a simple "I want to talk to him about the cab company" would have sufficed.

Remember this when you have something to talk about or ask...don't expect anyone to care.

soccerdad72 12-06-2012 10:03 AM

On a scale of oversharing, with 10 being a vivid description of one's colonoscopy and 1 being their name, I give this one a 3. :rolleyes1

sam_gordon 12-06-2012 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by WDSearcher (Post 46867371)
Said the person who shared the entire conversation AND the complaint about it with a bunch of total strangers on an internet bulletin board. ;)

:earsboy:

Yup! :thumbsup2

sam_gordon 12-06-2012 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by RadioNate (Post 46867378)
Remember this when you have something to talk about or ask...don't expect anyone to care.

Maybe you're more friendly with your coworkers. I do have some that I'm willing to share with and listen to them share. Someone who I simply say "hi" when passing in the hallway... not so much.

I don't expect the majority of coworkers to care about my personal life.

RadioNate 12-06-2012 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by sam_gordon
I've been this way for as long as I remember. :confused3

Obviously


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