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720L 11-25-2012 02:36 PM

So excited going to Disney for Christmas BUT everyone is mad at us for leaving.
 
I'm so excited for a Disney Christmas trip....but everyone we tell gets mad that we are going to be gone at Christmas! I'm not expecting them to change plans, but mentioned maybe having a special party with us before we leave......NOPE they aren't doing it. OK.......I will not let this ruin my trip....I will not let this ruin my trip...I will not let this ruin my trip.

Gumbo4x4 11-25-2012 02:37 PM

Is your last name "Krank"? :lmao:

JennaDeeDooDah 11-25-2012 02:44 PM

Were all of you planning on having some kind of family get-together for the holiday? Why would they care how you are spending Christmas?

Tinker'n'Fun 11-25-2012 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by 720L (Post 46784379)
I'm so excited for a Disney Christmas trip....but everyone we tell gets mad that we are going to be gone at Christmas! I'm not expecting them to change plans, but mentioned maybe having a special party with us before we leave......NOPE they aren't doing it. OK.......I will not let this ruin my trip....I will not let this ruin my trip...I will not let this ruin my trip.

I may be a bit confused. I see no problem being at Disney during Christmas. I always just RSVP with a sorry we can't make it, BUT are you saying you are asking others to change the date of their parties so you can attend when you are not at Disney?

shortbun 11-25-2012 02:54 PM

Well, it seems a little late for you to tell everyone you're going to be gone for the holidays and ask for a special party just for you. If you want to celebrate Christmas with the family, you need to be there, kwim? Family would accomodate military, college, sickness, other families schedules but to ask that they schedule an extra party so you-who intentionally made plans to be away. Too much to ask. I wouldn't be mad but I'd probably roll my eyes and shrug you off because it would feel like you had done that very thing to me. As adults, we should know that we don't get it all our way.

Gumbo4x4 11-25-2012 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by shortbun (Post 46784480)
Well, it seems a little late for you to tell everyone you're going to be gone for the holidays and ask for a special party just for you. If you want to celebrate Christmas with the family, you need to be there, kwim? Family would accomodate military, college, sickness, other families schedules but to ask that they schedule an extra party so you-who intentionally made plans to be away. Too much to ask. I wouldn't be mad but I'd probably roll my eyes and shrug you off because it would feel like you had done that very thing to me. As adults, we should know that we don't get it all our way.

If that's indeed what OP is saying (and I read it the same way as you), I agree 100%. Maybe OP can host a gathering prior to the trip, or after the holidays are over?

mickeysgal 11-25-2012 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by 720L (Post 46784379)
I'm so excited for a Disney Christmas trip....but everyone we tell gets mad that we are going to be gone at Christmas! I'm not expecting them to change plans, but mentioned maybe having a special party with us before we leave......NOPE they aren't doing it. OK.......I will not let this ruin my trip....I will not let this ruin my trip...I will not let this ruin my trip.

We've done Disney at Christmas a couple of times - it's a great trip. Be prepared for lines like you've never experienced before.

Not sure who you're referring to when you say "everyone". Many families are deeply rooted in holiday traditions together so I can see why some may be upset. But they'll adjust. Friends, neighbors, etc? No reason for them to be mad. At any rate, I wouldn't ask for a special party to fit my travel plans. The holidays are busy enough and I wouldn't want to try to fit everyone into a special early bird verson of Christmas. I would probably would have done gifts at Thanksgiving instead and be done with it.

Have fun!

JennaDeeDooDah 11-25-2012 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Gumbo4x4 (Post 46784508)
If that's indeed what OP is saying (and I read it the same way as you), I agree 100%. Maybe OP can host a gathering prior to the trip, or after the holidays are over?

Oh! I didn't read it that way. I read it as she was inviting people to an early Christmas party and that they didn't want to go because they were mad that she wouldn't be there on the 25th. Your way does change things.

luvmy3 11-25-2012 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by 720L (Post 46784379)
I'm so excited for a Disney Christmas trip....but everyone we tell gets mad that we are going to be gone at Christmas! I'm not expecting them to change plans, but mentioned maybe having a special party with us before we leave......NOPE they aren't doing it. OK.......I will not let this ruin my trip....I will not let this ruin my trip...I will not let this ruin my trip.

I am confused as well. Are you inviting them to your house for a get together or are you expecting whoever usually hosts Christmas to do something early so you can be there? If its the latter, I can understand them not doing it.
I wouldn't let anything ruin your trip, you don't have to please anyone else for Christmas, and they don't have to please you either ;)

*JoGo* 11-25-2012 03:08 PM

The way I read it is the op's extended family is saying why are you going to be away for Xmas, why go now, when will you do Xmas, etc....

I don't think they are truly mad. Maybe the op's parents but not literally everyone. They also probably have tentative Xmas plans for family gatherings already made based on past xmases, and perhaps said when will we give you your gifts... And ThEN the op says we can have a party earlier! And the relatives said no, bc they are busy. Or perhaps the gathering is their main Xmas event and who wants to do Xmas two weeks or more before actual Xmas and then sit at home on Xmas while op and what feels like everyone else in the world is having fun with family.

At any rate, op, go, have fun.

Gumbo4x4 11-25-2012 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by JennaDeeDooDah (Post 46784531)
Oh! I didn't read it that way. I read it as she was inviting people to an early Christmas party and that they didn't want to go because they were mad that she wouldn't be there on the 25th. Your way does change things.

Your way is a possibility too. I really can't tell :confused3

Gumbo4x4 11-25-2012 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by *JoGo* (Post 46784571)
The way I read it is the op's extended family is saying why are you going to be away for Xmas, why go now, when will you do Xmas, etc....

I don't think they are truly mad. Maybe the op's parents but not literally everyone. They also probably have tentative Xmas plans for family gatherings already made based on past xmases, and perhaps said when will we give you your gifts... And ThEN the op says we can have a party earlier! And the relatives said no, bc they are busy. Or perhaps the gathering is their main Xmas event and who wants to do Xmas two weeks or more before actual Xmas and then sit at home on Xmas while op and what feels like everyone else in the world is having fun with family.

At any rate, op, go, have fun.

Definitely :)

lovin'fl 11-25-2012 03:23 PM

Christmas is a month away and my family (and DH's) have not made plans yet. I think it's still early. I understand OP as we went last Xmas and went with all my inlaws. My mom was not happy and I am still hearing about it. Her BF even said something at Thanksgiving...I said something about going away next Thanksgiving and he said "your kids will never get to know what it's like to spend the holidays with their grandma since you keep dragging them away for every holiday". My kids are 15 and 13 and last Xmas was the 1st time we did a holiday vacation. And, last year, I asked my mom to do her Xmas dinner after we got back from Disney if she wanted to have an Xmas with us (my kids are her only grands...I have 1 bro who doesn't have a wife or kids) or she could skip it or I could do a dinner when we got back...her choice and she chose to do a New Year's dinner (we were at Disney from 12/20-26....BTW there were NO lines until 12/24...it was nice). I know she likes us to do Xmas presents at her house, under her tree.

OP, enjoy your trip. It really is something to see Disney at Xmas. If you'll be there before the 24th...get everything in before Xmas Eve as it gets super crowded and unbearable.

eliza61 11-25-2012 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by 720L (Post 46784379)
I'm so excited for a Disney Christmas trip....but everyone we tell gets mad that we are going to be gone at Christmas! I'm not expecting them to change plans, but mentioned maybe having a special party with us before we leave......NOPE they aren't doing it. OK.......I will not let this ruin my trip....I will not let this ruin my trip...I will not let this ruin my trip.

Just one of those things op. I know my parents would have had a cow also had I came in and told them we would not be visiting them over Christmas!!

My son is a college freshmen and if I'm honest, I would be real salty if he called and said he wasn't coming home for the holidays. :scared1:

Anyway, go and have fun.

Planogirl 11-25-2012 03:33 PM

Look at it this way. It would be worse if they didn't care. Hopefully, you can plan something special for your family and that you'll also have fun at WDW.


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