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mouseketeer_mom 11-15-2012 07:06 AM

Need to vent... My heart is breaking
 
So you can see by my ticker that we are supposed to leave in a week. Monday, DH's boss told everyone that there would be no more vacation this year and the week between Christmas and New Year that they typically have off will be spent working. My DH truly thought that once he explained about our longgggg anticipated trip that has been booked and paid for since February he would make an exception. That conversation didn't go well at all. So, there is little hope that this magical trip that we have been planning and surprised our kids with just two weeks ago, won't happen.

Vacations in general and Disney vacations in specific are more of a once every five year thing than an annual thing for our family. This was the kids BIG Christmas gift this year. We were so excited for Disney at Christmas.

I just waffle from being angry to crying...

DH works for a small company (less than 25 employees) so there is no employee handbook or written guidelines for vacation time. I feel like we have no recourse. It's so frustrating. My DH has had two sick days EVER. Not just this employment but EVER. He took only 4 days off last year total and the new "vacation" year started in October.

His boss simply said that the company had deadlines to meet and in this economy, if they didn't meet them, someone else would. End of conversation.

lovethattink 11-15-2012 07:18 AM

I'm so sorry. You are justified to be both angry and sad. Can you re-schedule the trip? Do you have trip insurance?

Nayan 11-15-2012 07:51 AM

That stinks, but employers know that there's a number of folks wanting work so they can play the 'we'll get one that will' game. I hope you have trip insurance and can reschedule for another time.

mjkacmom 11-15-2012 07:56 AM

DH works for a VERY large company, and the same thing happened last year. He took off the week before Christmas, but his department was told not only did they have to work, but everyone had to work overtime, as well, to hit their numbers. We didn't have a paid vacation scheduled, but he did lose about 7 vacation days that he never got to take, roll over, or be paid for.

Depending upon the industry, end of year vacations can be tricky.

diamondpixienc 11-15-2012 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Nayan
That stinks, but employers know that there's a number of folks wanting work so they can play the 'we'll get one that will' game. I hope you have trip insurance and can reschedule for another time.

This is so sad but true :( However as this poster has said can you reschedule it? or maybe consider going alone with the kids and/or see if another adult can go with you? I truly hope you will be able to work something out. Take care ok.

MommyBell08 11-15-2012 08:15 AM

That just plain stinks. So sorry for you and your family. Let us know if you are able to reschedule. :hug:

chcoley 11-15-2012 08:41 AM

What a scrooge! I hope his boss sleeps well at night knowing what he's taking from your family. :(

Spunky946 11-15-2012 08:46 AM

I am so sorry. I hope it works out for you.

mm1971 11-15-2012 09:23 AM

I certainly don't blame you for being both angry and sad. I work for a small company as well and am responsible for Finance, operations and HR. While we do have times that we are strict about vacation time, I would never force someone to cancel a planned and paid for vacation(especially around Christmas). I know it is really hard to find a job right now and businesses know this. If I were your husband, I would start looking for a new job. I now this doesn't help, but I would have no loyalty left for the boss (which is me by the way) if my company were to pull something like that.

mm1971 11-15-2012 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by mjkacmom (Post 46713158)
DH works for a VERY large company, and the same thing happened last year. He took off the week before Christmas, but his department was told not only did they have to work, but everyone had to work overtime, as well, to hit their numbers. We didn't have a paid vacation scheduled, but he did lose about 7 vacation days that he never got to take, roll over, or be paid for.

Depending upon the industry, end of year vacations can be tricky.

Preventing an employee's use of earned vacation time and then having him lose his time is against the law. It is earned time and he has every right to use that time or be compensated if not allowed to. They should have either allowed him to take the time, carry it over or paid him for the days accrued that were lost. Sounds like hubby needs to be "sick" for a few days.:sick:

Ashlander 11-15-2012 09:49 AM

That is horrible of your husband's boss! I'm so sorry that happened - I hope it will all work out :(

kamik86 11-15-2012 09:54 AM

I can't imagine what I would do if my job pulled that. I guess we are lucky in our "Year end crunch time" where we really have to all hit our numbers and get things in before the fiscal year ends is over Sept 30th.

4kids4karen 11-15-2012 10:25 AM

That does sink for your family. It sounds like the small company is struggling in this economy. My friend's husband is going through the same thing. They keep doing rounds of layoffs. He had vacation approved for Thanksgiving and they were headed out-of-state to visit relatives but he had to lay off some of the folks in his shop which in turn cancelled people's vacation time so they had enough coverage. He is still happy he has a job as he was worried he may be one of the ones cut. He was asked to rate between two of his workers and rated them even although one is obviously better than the other, he didn't want to be the deciding factor. He was flat out told his name came up for cuts and they saved him so he needed to man up and rate the two ladies appropriately or it may be him next time. As I heard, one lady is a great performer but complains, the other doesn't complain but had low performance.

Soben 11-15-2012 10:30 AM

I'm sorry for you, I hope you're able to reschedule!

katie111 11-15-2012 10:35 AM

That totally stinks!! I know its not ideal but what about taking the kids on your own? I'm a SAHM and my husband is in sales. He gets lots of vacation time but never uses more than 7 days a year as he feels like if he's not selling he's not making money. Therefore, I often take the kids on vacation by myself. We had a trip planned for last week at Disney but a couple weeks before we went he found out he needed to go to a conference on the same dates. I know if he talked to his boss he could have gotten out of the conference but that's just not the way he works. So, the kids & I went by ourselves. And we had an AWESOME time. Sure we missed him but we LOVE Disney & went from morning till night. I have 3 kids as well (ages 5, 9, & 10) and it was such an easy trip with them. I would highly recommend it if your DH is okay with it. As an added bonus my kids think I'm awesome because all of my friends have said" I could never take my kids alone to Disney". I think its one of the easiest vacations to do alone with them. Good luck with whatever you decide.


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