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Kerchak 09-03-2012 02:31 PM

People Just Don't Get It!
 
We're 2 professionals with no kids, and WDW is our "guilty pleasure". We travel to WDW from the UK twice a year to enjoy our home away from home. However, people just don't understand why a childless couple insist on going back to Disney year after year. People seem to think it's all Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck and all a bit childish for 2 adults on their own. They don't understand that DVC and WDW gives us an escape from 2 very intensive and responsible jobs. Disney offers a safe and fun environment where we can throw caution to the wind and let our hair down with like minded people, without the fear of being judged. I'd be interested to know how other DVC'ers cope with the naysayers.

CajunMomof3 09-03-2012 02:35 PM

Not a DVCer, but I can tell you that people don't understand why DH and I chose to go to Disney WITHOUT the kids. They don't get that it is a chance to be totally immersed in magic that we haven't found anywhere else. DH is in the Army and when we are at Diseny (with or without the kids) is the one time that I see him truly relax.

DebbieB 09-03-2012 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Kerchak (Post 46035970)
We're 2 professionals with no kids, and WDW is our "guilty pleasure". We travel to WDW from the UK twice a year to enjoy our home away from home. However, people just don't understand why a childless couple insist on going back to Disney year after year. People seem to think it's all Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck and all a bit childish for 2 adults on their own. They don't understand that DVC and WDW gives us an escape from 2 very intensive and responsible jobs. Disney offers a safe and fun environment where we can throw caution to the wind and let our hair down with like minded people, without the fear of being judged. I'd be interested to know how other DVC'ers cope with the naysayers.

All I say is "I have a timeshare". People don't know how to respond to that and just let it go.

bobbiwoz 09-03-2012 02:49 PM

Sometimes I just say that I'm going to Florida.

dvcterry 09-03-2012 03:00 PM

we tell them that we are going to Mount Wannahockaloogie, for the induction of the newest member shark bait ooh ha ha. :worship: nobody says a word to us.

DanenRox 09-03-2012 03:35 PM

Ya, we get that too...all the time. So yesterday I was thinking about it and realized most people vacation with a goal in mind: They want somewhere they consider beautiful, safe, relaxing, lots to do, comfortable, reliable and fun. DH and I have found that in WDW. We don't see the reason to keep exploring other venues in hopes of finding it again. DH has traveled all over this country and I've been to more Caribbean Islands than I can count. We choose WDW not because it's all we know...we choose WDW because with all we know, this is our idea of a perfect vacation.
Truth be told, we always end with 3 or 4 nights on St. Pete Beach, just to decompress. For us, that is the cherry on top. :3dglasses

Dean 09-03-2012 03:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Kerchak (Post 46035970)
We're 2 professionals with no kids, and WDW is our "guilty pleasure". We travel to WDW from the UK twice a year to enjoy our home away from home. However, people just don't understand why a childless couple insist on going back to Disney year after year. People seem to think it's all Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck and all a bit childish for 2 adults on their own. They don't understand that DVC and WDW gives us an escape from 2 very intensive and responsible jobs. Disney offers a safe and fun environment where we can throw caution to the wind and let our hair down with like minded people, without the fear of being judged. I'd be interested to know how other DVC'ers cope with the naysayers.

Even with kids involved they often don't understand. To me it's usually a combination of ignorance and jealousy. If they don't want to go there or they even have a general opinion of the entire subject, that's fine, but criticizing my personal choices without invitation instantly steps over the line. Sometimes I just ignore them but nowadays I often say something like "jealous are you?" or simply that we really enjoy going and that's what WE chose to do, but it depends on what they say and how they say it. We just had a recent HI trip and have been a number of times over the years. Often people will say something to the effect they'd like to go but it's too expensive. My response is generally something along the lines of "other than airfare, we usually spend less than going to the beach 2 hours away". If they hit a nerve, I usually say something like "we went for 2 or 3 weeks and only spent $XXX" depending on which trip we're talking which usually either puts the item to rest or they respond by asking how they can go so cheaply also. When I say FF miles and timeshares that's usually the end of it, most people aren't inclined to ask further how they could do the same with timeshare and FF miles. I'm thinking they are making often incorrect assumptions about both options.

com_op_2000 09-03-2012 04:20 PM

What I tell anyone you tries to give me lip:
He who pays the piper :rockband: calls the music :charac2::mic:.
If any of your friends, co-workers, or family members want to pay for you to go on vacation, go and have a great time on them. If you are paying, go where you choose and do not worry about there opinions.

Brian Noble 09-03-2012 04:42 PM

I don't have this problem, but that's mainly because I tend not to share many details with various friends and co-workers.

gojoe 09-03-2012 04:49 PM

I've never been able to explain why to anyone! We go at least once a year without children. They say WHY? I just shrug my shoulders and smile.

I have converted a few, but they were the ones I've helped plan their vacations. They come back, look me in the eyes and say "I get it"

I take joy and comford that my wife and I get it! You should too!

Caren90 09-03-2012 04:52 PM

We go with both our young adult children and without children. The perspective when you do not have young children with you is very enjoyable to me.

We were at BWV in August. One morning while everyone was still asleep (they had been up until 2 am at MK Magic hours), I went out by myself and grabbed a bus for the opening at MK. I enjoyed each stop of the bus as we picked up excited little ones and their parents. I then went into Harmony Barbershop to see if I could get a haircut. I didn't have a reservation and the line was long so I left and sat outside for awhile and watched as families came strolling into the park. I had no time commitment, no children to look after, and no real place to be so I could people watch without any stress or schedule. I then took the Monorail through the Contemporary and on to the TTC. I followed that with another Monorail ride to the gates of EPCOT. Incidentally, riding above EPCOT by way of the Monorail is a great perspective of the park. I went into EPCOT, and walked to the World Showcase which was just opening and bought some pastries in France for the sleeping teenagers back at BWV. I then walked to BWV through the Boardwalk entrance of EPCOT and made it back in time to start breakfast (or brunch at this point) for the sleepers.

The point is, I could never do this when my children were younger but now I enjoy Disney in a completely different way. I expect I will enjoy this type of Disney experience for several years and then begin enjoying a new one as my children have their own children and we travel together. The experience is different EVERY time you go. I have been 5 times this year and each visit has been its own adventure.

Stephen

abdgeek 09-03-2012 06:11 PM

Since becoming a DVC member, I have been blessed to visit WDW more frequently than I had in the past. I've also been able to do DCL and ABD trips. My co-workers now know that I usually travel during breaks and always ask where I'm going. I try my best to be vague because of the jealousy a PP referred to. I went to Hawaii and Greece this year with DVC and one of my co-workers asked me what bank I robbed.

People, in general, do not understand anyone who does things differently. Now I only tell my immediate family(those who need to contact me in case of emergency) where I am going. They wish me well and off I go.

I have finally figured out that the reason I like returning to WDW(besides the high level of service) is that it is the only place where I can be a kid. I can take pictures with characters, dance to the parade music, and no one bats an eye. It's a time during which I can let my hair down, and I don't do that often.

ccigliano 09-03-2012 06:52 PM

I too get the same reaction from co-workers and up till about 5 years ago my own BIL. He too couldn't understand why a highly educated single woman could find returning at least twice a year to a place designed for children so exciting. Then one Easter, I took him, my sis and my three year old nephew on a last minute trip. The only availability was at SSR in a studio and so we made do. He loved the theming of SSR as we are from NY and he'd been to Saratoga in August and appreciated the likeness. Then we went to LTT for a character dinner and while he enjoyed the look on his son's face each time a character came by, he was also amazed at how much the LTT was like a house built in 1776 from the height of the fireplace to hand blown glass windows. Then the ELP and Wishes, again amazement. Then on to Epcot where he was amazed by all the science as he is an ER doc. After a week, he said I get it and never teases me about going anymore and we're all heading back this Christmas:santa:. Just do what makes you happy!;)

GS for life 09-03-2012 06:58 PM

We go yearly and get the same questions. We finally bought DVC this year!!!!! We came back 2 weeks ago and had a great time. This is a relaxing vacation for my family, even if others don't think so. You don't need to open and close the park everyday. We did the rides we wanted, enjoyed the boat ride from WL and left the park to swim. Disney vacations are great.

brertoad 09-03-2012 08:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kerchak (Post 46035970)
We're 2 professionals with no kids, and WDW is our "guilty pleasure". We travel to WDW from the UK twice a year to enjoy our home away from home. However, people just don't understand why a childless couple insist on going back to Disney year after year. People seem to think it's all Mickey Mouse and Donald Duck and all a bit childish for 2 adults on their own. They don't understand that DVC and WDW gives us an escape from 2 very intensive and responsible jobs. Disney offers a safe and fun environment where we can throw caution to the wind and let our hair down with like minded people, without the fear of being judged. I'd be interested to know how other DVC'ers cope with the naysayers.

We are in the same boat. DH and I do not have kids, but we are kids at heart, and we love Disney. A lot of people don't "get it". They can't seem to comprehend that WDW offers many things to many people, even adults without kids. We recently purchased a DVC resale, how we cope? - we just aren't going to tell anyone unless we have to, i.e. they are with us at WDW.
I actively try to convert my MIL and FIL, I think it may be working...If we treated them to an AKL SV room I think that would get them hooked.
:love:


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