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nurse.darcy 08-06-2012 10:14 AM

are you serious?
 
I am no longer single but have been part of the singles threads forever. In the last 2 months there have been a number of postings asking for single women to say "yes". . .please. . .

Men, come on line on the discussion threads and find friends. Women, do NOT respond to those looking for a "date". If they have not been a part of a conversational thread, get rid of them. Just saying.

Stay safe my friends.

Birdman1511 08-06-2012 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by nurse.darcy (Post 45732255)
In the last 2 months there have been a number of postings asking for single women to say "yes". . .please. . .

I'm confused:confused3...asking single women to say "yes" to what? I'm not trying to stir the pot here or anything I'm literately just lost as to what exactly you're referring to

DisneydaveCT 08-06-2012 06:55 PM

Darcy, I have to agree with Birdman I don't understand what you are posting about on this thread. I have tried to keep up with the conversations, but they move too quickly unless you are on every night. Not as easy as the old chat room in Dismates.

MICKEY88 08-06-2012 07:48 PM

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nurse.darcy 08-07-2012 03:54 AM

Sorry guys. I understand not everyone can keep up with the threads, but you guys have been out here a while and people know you. I was referring to some threads I have seen lately by relative newcomers who do not get to know people first, they just come on here, pop in and ask for a "date".

ctnurse 08-07-2012 06:03 AM

I agree with you Darcy. I was just talking about said threads with a friend the other day. If you want to find someone who shares your love for Disney there are plenty of threads to develop a friendship or at least a conversation before you start posting that you are looking for single ladies to discreetly spend time with at the world. There is also a very nice function of most message boards know as the PM which can be very useful in communicating without the whole world knowing.

My mother once told me to be careful what you post online since it will be there forever and everyone can read it. I still think about that when I post something.

I'll see you in a few weeks. Have a great day!

DisneydaveCT 08-07-2012 06:49 AM

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Originally Posted by nurse.darcy (Post 45741461)
Sorry guys. I understand not everyone can keep up with the threads, but you guys have been out here a while and people know you. I was referring to some threads I have seen lately by relative newcomers who do not get to know people first, they just come on here, pop in and ask for a "date".

Darcy, thanks for clarifying your statement. I agree, some posters appear to be trolling for a "hook-up" at WDW.

But it is not any easier being a guy on-line either. There have been women in these threads over the years that have felt that once a man has a conversation with a woman, even without any romantic inclination, then the man is no longer available.

NJDiva 08-07-2012 08:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Birdman1511 (Post 45734561)
I'm confused:confused3...asking single women to say "yes" to what? I'm not trying to stir the pot here or anything I'm literately just lost as to what exactly you're referring to

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Originally Posted by DisneydaveCT (Post 45738295)
Darcy, I have to agree with Birdman I don't understand what you are posting about on this thread. I have tried to keep up with the conversations, but they move too quickly unless you are on every night. Not as easy as the old chat room in Dismates.

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Originally Posted by DisneydaveCT (Post 45741999)
Darcy, thanks for clarifying your statement. I agree, some posters appear to be trolling for a "hook-up" at WDW.

But it is not any easier being a guy on-line either. There have been women in these threads over the years that have felt that once a man has a conversation with a woman, even without any romantic inclination, then the man is no longer available.

Have to agree with the guys on this one, I wasn't sure what the "yes" was referring to....
And to Dave's point, there are women that are out there trolling for Disney guys and end up being stalkers. Bottom line is be careful what you put out there, and watch what is being put out there for you to read....all that glitters is not gold. I know this may sound bad but there are some crazy people out there, men and women, and the only "normal" thing about them is Disney.
I have been on other forums (non-Disney related) where it got super ugly and people were banned because of what was said in the open forum.
I think most of us are adult enough to know when to continue with a conversation and when to run screaming. But I do appreciate the fact that Darcy is looking out for our new members so thanks Darcy!

Birdman1511 08-07-2012 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by nurse.darcy (Post 45741461)
Sorry guys. I understand not everyone can keep up with the threads, but you guys have been out here a while and people know you. I was referring to some threads I have seen lately by relative newcomers who do not get to know people first, they just come on here, pop in and ask for a "date".

Ahhh ok I gotcha,now, and I was in the same boat as DisneyDaveCT, its hard to keep up with some of the threads and I must've missed several posts. That being said I do agree with you then, if guys are coming in here and just asking girls on a date,and making it publicly known, without taking the time to get to know them first thats creepy..or vise versa, like DisneyDaveCT and NJDiva mentioned..theres just as many femaile creepers on these boards too. But either way, thanks for clearing that up:thumbsup2

NJDiva 08-07-2012 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Birdman1511 (Post 45743097)
Ahhh ok I gotcha,now, and I was in the same boat as DisneyDaveCT, its hard to keep up with some of the threads and I must've missed several posts. That being said I do agree with you then, if guys are coming in here and just asking girls on a date,and making it publicly known, without taking the time to get to know them first thats creepy..or vise versa, like DisneyDaveCT and NJDiva mentioned..theres just as many femaile creepers on these boards too. But either way, thanks for clearing that up:thumbsup2

I have a question, and I'd like to direct it to the gentlemen on the forum, does meeting up in the park with another solo traveler (particularly of the opposite gender) constitute a "date"??
To me, if you are planning on spending time at the parks and feel like "hanging out" with someone else for the day, that does NOT make it a date. you would have been in the park anyway, and the likelyhood of you meeting that particular person in a sea of Disney travelers is very small. plus there's the concept of you meeting up with several solo travelers (the whole DIS meet up thing) and we know that doesn't meet the standard of a "date". the reason I ask is because there are people that see a meet up as just that; a date...now...if something comes out of it afterwards, it is what it is, and you two can move on with whatever you wish to do.
Birdman is right, it's a little creepy/stalkerish to ask girls (or guys) on a date on the board....that being said, you should be prepared to be turned down that same way

DefLepard 08-07-2012 10:20 AM

Just happening to strike up a conversation with a solo traveler and hang out with them for awhile or all day is positively not a date in my book, it's sharing Disney time

Meeting up with several solo travelers like many scheduled DIS board meetings, is just to hang out with Dis'ers, I would buy them a beer :drinking1 not date them

Meet and greet dates "Oct 13th" for example are just a date on the calender, that date is just to see/meet the person behind the computer screen and share happy times in the happiest place on earth

Birdman1511 08-07-2012 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by NJDiva (Post 45743982)
I have a question, and I'd like to direct it to the gentlemen on the forum, does meeting up in the park with another solo traveler (particularly of the opposite gender) constitute a "date"??
To me, if you are planning on spending time at the parks and feel like "hanging out" with someone else for the day, that does NOT make it a date. you would have been in the park anyway, and the likelyhood of you meeting that particular person in a sea of Disney travelers is very small. plus there's the concept of you meeting up with several solo travelers (the whole DIS meet up thing) and we know that doesn't meet the standard of a "date". the reason I ask is because there are people that see a meet up as just that; a date...now...if something comes out of it afterwards, it is what it is, and you two can move on with whatever you wish to do.
Birdman is right, it's a little creepy/stalkerish to ask girls (or guys) on a date on the board....that being said, you should be prepared to be turned down that same way

Thats a really good question and, unfortunately, its something that could easily snowball out of control. And really, its based on two things: matter of opinion and circumstances.
So, before I answer the question, remember...its only my opinion, everybody is different and has the right to formulate their own:hippie: If somebody asks another person on here of the opposite gender(and who they've never met before in person) to meet up at WDW, just the two of them, then thats exactly what it should be, a meet up. Even if lets say, you've really connected with somebody you've met on here, and eventually it came to a point where you've exchanged personal contact information(facebook, phone #, etc.), it should still constitute as a meet up simply because you have to know that this person you've been speaking to for however long that you've met behind a computer screen is the ACTUAL person they've been portraying..and once you do meet this person, and everything seems to be in place, then you go from there..if something comes out of it(dating, relationship, etc.)..then thats wonderful:). And thats where circumstances come into play because so many factors contribute on this subject. from the moment you've started talking, to the moment you've met this person, and everything in between. I mean, everybody is different on this. and unfortunately thats what i mean by it can snowball out of control...lets say "John" and "Sally" have been talking for a few months on here, John asks Sally to meet up at the parks...well, to John it might be a date but to Sally its just a meet up at the parks. thats where matter of opinion comes into play.

But also something to add, I honestly get what Darcy's main point is..and you know, shes been on here far longer than I have, I've always enjoyed reading her posts, and I've never once questioned her judgement on on anything, its just so hard to hit every single thread/post on here that I've just missed these threads about people asking other people they havent met on dates. and shes right, you shouldnt just jump into a thread and ask some random person you've never talked to before in your life on a date... and i honestly don't think she was referring to people asking other people to meet up and hang out at the parks:thumbsup2

Dan Murphy 08-07-2012 10:54 AM

Not looking for a date ot anything similar, happily married here, LOL. But did want to pass on congratulations to you, Darcy. :thumbsup2

goofyernmost 08-07-2012 12:39 PM

I'm getting more confused now. If someone comes on a thread and posts that they are going solo and would like to have someone to "hang" with, and then someone responds and says...sounds good...let's meet at City Hall in MK. That is ok? Or isn't it?

In reality, what is the difference between a first date, and meeting randomly in a theme park other than the safety of having thousands of people surrounding you. Many first dates never go past being a first date. Why is this different unless you include intent with it. If the intent is a further relationship without ever meeting the individual involved well that is not only unlikely but also sad.

I sort of see it like this. Someone, be it male or female, comes on the singles thread expressing that they want to meet with others to share the fun of Disney with, isn't the purpose of posting that to begin with to meet someone, whether it be temporary or permanent? How would one have to respond to have it be non-creepy?

Or have I missed something like...the person didn't say they wanted to meet anyone, they just said they were going solo. Help me out here!

PS...I'm not asking anyone to meet me, just curious.:confused3

mich723 08-07-2012 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by DefLepard (Post 45744328)
Just happening to strike up a conversation with a solo traveler and hang out with them for awhile or all day is positively not a date in my book, it's sharing Disney time

I completely agree with your statement right here.
I find it would be fun to meet up with others who truly enjoy going to the parks, that's all. Just because a person strikes up a conversation with the opposite sex, it shouldn't be assumed that a meet up between those two people would be a date. You don't know the person outside the internet, so how could it be constituted as such? As mentioned by others, factors go into dating and all that. Is the person who they say they are? You never know, so you always have to be careful.
It's true, there are creepers/stalkers out there and it's a scary world. The important thing is to remember that fact, and to always be careful.
I've never talked to Darcy before (I'm new around these parts), but I appreciate your words of staying safe.


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