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Eeyore Girl 06-08-2012 08:57 PM

Grandmother has cancer
My grandma has been one tough cookie. She is a cancer survivor of many differnent types and has faught all of them. Radiation....Chemo... She has been cancer free for 18 years! I was raised by her and have been living with her since the day i was born...

Well this week has been a tough one. For 2 weeks my grandma has not been eating much, throwing up what she does eat (which at most is a half a cup of food a day) and constantly going to the bathroom. I finally took her to the hospital on Sunday to get an IV drip on her. The ER doctor there ran some blood work and said she was fine she could go home. My mother took her on Monday to her regular doctor and he said to go and and do a cat scan just to see what is going on. Well on Tuesday morning I took her to do the test. We sat there for an hour so she could drink the radium and she couldnt finish it. Well the doctor said that was ok and testing was successful. The doctor calls my mom and tells her the colon cancer is back and it has spread. He calls a family meeting where he tells us she has fluids in her abdomen and blockage in the intenstines as well as a mass on her liver. She is 95 years old and no doctor will treat her or do anything for her...My mom asked about how long if we had to put a time frame....6 months.... My borther is over seas in the Army and another in training. She ask should we wait to call them till we are closer....he says "no, get them now." Well from there to now things have gotten worse. She can no longer walk 2 steps, can't eat but 2 spoon fulls of food for a meal, sleeps all day and has pain when she moves and I just carry her to the bathroom or bedside camode.

She has decided not to go or stay at a hospital or to be kept alive when the time comes. We have her in home hospice care and are just praying for her to make it everyday til my brothers come home and beyond!!

She is like my mother...I am trying to keep as strong as possible for the whole's hard. Please keep her in your prayers and thoughts.

Christine 06-09-2012 06:43 AM

I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother. It must be awful for you to deal with. That's just crazy that it came back after all that time. Cancer is an awful thing. I agree that not doing anything at this point is probably the best for her. Not because she's too old but because it sounds very advanced and the treatments would probably just do her in and add misery on top of her current suffering. And to what end? When cancer gets this far, there is very little to anything you can do to fix it.

Hang in there and just be with her, keep her comfortable, and take care of yourself. Let us know how it goes.

mommasita 06-11-2012 12:10 AM

:hug: I am so sorry.

I will keep your grandmother as well as your entire family in my thoughts and prayers.

Eeyore Girl 06-13-2012 10:18 PM

thank you both for your thoughts. Updated news is yesterday she started to go numb in her limbs and said she couldn't feel anything and was running to the bathroom every 5 minutes. my mom rushed her to the ER thinking this could be the beginning of a stroke. We they got to the ER they attempted to take blood about 5 times cause her veins kept blowing. When they finally were able to do so the results came back that she was extremely anemic and needed a blood transfusion. Well overnight they gave her 2 bags of blood. this afternoon she was able to come home and they told us to keep her as comfortable as possible and try to avoid the hospital because she shouldnt get sick with th germs. Today she ate a lot and has been keeping the food down. When I say a lot I am still only talking about a few tablespoons of food. We will continue to pray and hope everything goes for the better...

Eeyore Girl 06-21-2012 07:40 PM

I am writing to let you know that my grandmother has passed away. She passed peacefully at home a little before 10 PM on Sunday 6/17/2012. She was surrounded by the family, who stayed beside her to the end. My brothers were home from overseas as well and were here with her. She went how she wished she would home, in comfort and with no pain. We are all keeping strong in these hard times and thank everyone for all your prayers and thoughts. We have shared everyone's emails with Grandma until the very end. :littleangel:

MomiTo2SwtGuys 06-21-2012 09:04 PM

So sorry for your loss. Praying for you. I'm glad you can take comfort in knowing that she passed peacefully.:cloud9:

DisneyFan32WI 06-21-2012 09:27 PM

It is always a relief when someone you love so dear can pass peacefully.

:hug: to you during this time.

luvmarypoppins 06-22-2012 10:19 AM

:hug: Wishing you Gods peace and comfort in the days ahead.

So sorry for your loss. I am glad you all got to be with your precious grandma and that her passing was peaceful.

Eeyore Girl 06-24-2012 09:48 PM

at this time a week ago she passed. It has been a tough week but we got through it. It feels really ackward to be in the house without her being here. Not hearing her TV on, her walking back and forth with her walker, her asking me to heat up her cup of coffee...Just weird. But I will always keep those memories and many more. I know she is looking down upon us and still watching us.:littleangel:

lilsk8nmac 06-24-2012 09:54 PM

I'm sorry it has taken me this long to see this thread.

First of all BIG HUGS!:hug: I will keep you in my thoughts. I am so sorry to hear of her passing and I know how hard it is. My grandmother passed from pancreatic cancer 6years ago come this Sept. It still feels like yesterday. My Grandmother also passed peacefully at home as yours did.

If you ever need to talk, don't hesitate to send me a PM.

mommasita 07-03-2012 02:16 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss:hug:

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