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FunkyFunBuckets 06-24-2011 05:21 PM

Feel like I am losing everyone
 
Hi everyone my name is Lynette and I have decided to post because I truly feel like the important people in my life keep leaving me.

Starting with my uncle who died of a sudden heart attack when I was 7 years old, my family seems to be falling apart piece by piece.

My mum was diagnosed with cancer when i was 9 and it was such a difficult thing to try and be a child whilst my mum and best friend was violently ill.
I had to try and do my best to not let the fact that for many months a year every year my mum would be in hospital or sick at home, affect my school work or my attitude.
My mum was the bravest person I know and she fought anything the cancer threw at her but then my favourite aunt (mums sister) was diagnosed with lung cancer she was even more frail than my mum and this seemed to put a lot of stress on her yet they gained strength from each others willingness to battle the disease.

My aunty died within a year of being diagnosed it was very sudden I didn't even know she was as sick as that.
Her passing broke my mums heart and she died 5 weeks later.
I was 16 at the time.
Fast forward till last year when my uncle, again on my mums side is told he may have bowel cancer and has to have several operations. Thankfully a few months ago it was discovered that he did not in facet have cancer it was something else.

I finally felt that some good luck had finally fallen to my family.
Then this week another of my mums sisters just got diagnosed with lung cancer that is untreatable and the doctors can do nothing for her. We are not sure how long she will live and she is just be realistic about her situation. She was married to the uncle who died when I was young.

I just don't understand how this is possible. None of the cancers are hereditary and it just seems like some kind of terrible joke. I am now 20 and still find the loss of my fa,ily members especially my aunt and my mother very hard I don't know how I will cope with my aunt dying, I was wondering if you could spare some kind thoughts or even a prayer because my family and I are in desperate need. Thank you for listening to my ramblings

quasar4legs 06-24-2011 08:25 PM

Hi Lynette,
I am so sorry for the losses you have had in your life, you have certainly had a lot to deal with at very young ages:hug:

It can be hard to make sense of why some people experience so much loss, I really don't have any answers.
Growing up with a sick parent is difficult and I cannot imagine what it must have been like to lose your precious mum when you were a child.

I truly wish I had words that could bring you comfort as you now face another loss in your family.
Although I don't have the words, please know that I am thinking of you and your family and am sending you a big Koala cuddle:grouphug:

Take care and post here anytime you need a chat of a :hug:

Quasar

mommasita 06-24-2011 10:11 PM

Lynette :goodvibes

Quasar is right in everything. You have been dealt so much at a young age. You must be a strong, admirable young lady.:thumbsup2

I wish I could take away some pain, but that is not possible. I am truly sorry for everything/everybody you have lost. Loving and losing is never easy, especially when they are so close to us.

Please feel free to chat about anything, anytime. We are a great group of supporters and friends. :grouphug:

Hugs and prayers going out:hug:

snoopybabe 06-26-2011 08:10 PM

Lynette,

Saying prayers for you and your family. I am so sorry for all that you have gone through. You are a very strong young woman. Sending you hugs. :grouphug:

kacaju 07-01-2011 08:45 PM

((HUGS)) sometimes these things just all happen at once and it really shakes you to the core!
A few years ago I had..my Great Aunt on my Dad's side die right after the new year. Then my great Aunt on my Mom's side died the end of Jan. Then my Uncle (dads brother) dies in April. them my husbands Uncle died in May... I swear, I was thinking the poor school thought we were nuts when i had to keep calling my children out for a family funeral.
You will get through this, in the mean time come here to share...(hugs)

Southerngirl71 07-03-2011 07:02 PM

I just wanted to say I am so sorry and we are all here if you need a friend. I am 40 years old and have lost so many of my family members. The first death I can remember was my grandfather when I was three. I then lost my daddy when I was 15 and my brother-in-law when I was 17. I have since lost my oldest brother who was my rock. I have also lost my grandmother, mother-in-law and two aunts. I know when my brother died I really had a hard time dealing with it. I just could not see what the point of living was if the end we would all die anyway. It took me a long time to find any joy in life but eventually I did. You are so young to have to deal with all of this and I am so sorry. If you ever need to talk we are here or feel free to pm me at any time. My prayers are with you.

AnnaS 07-04-2011 04:28 AM

Hang in there. Glad you came here to express your feelings and I hope you have someone you can talk to at home, a close friend, family member, etc.

The past 3 1/2 years we just can't get a break either or so everyone tells us. I am afraid to let my guard down and have too many happy thoughts because something will happen to crush us again.

My dh got very sick 3 1/2 years ago (48) and boy did we have a scary and tough year. He is okay but still deals with some issues. Immediately after things starting to calm down, his brother was diagnosed with melanoma and my very good friend and neighbor with colon cancer. My neighbor is here still fighting but my brother-in-law passed last year at 47. Right before he passed, my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. Tough year and time. My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer in the middle and towards the end of my dad's journey, my mom went in for a quadruple and valve repair and replaced - oh I forgot to mention - when my sister was diagnosed - right after my dad with lung cancer too. My mom is here - thank God but my dad passed Dec. 2010 and my 47 yr. old sister March 2011. This is killing all of us. My father-in-law now is barely hanging in there.

Sometimes I come here, sometimes I talk with a friend or a co-worker - not too much - not everyone is always in the mood of hearing horrible things - so I change it up a bit right after. I did start going to mass three mornings a week and most Sundays (I would go more if work/schedule allowed me to). It helps me, it comforts me and it's my therapy. Religious or not - this is all out of our hands/control. It's okay to cry - I still do everyday but then I have to push it out of the way to get through the day.

Sorry for the long post. I hope you find your comfort time and place. :hug:

Southerngirl71 07-04-2011 08:51 AM

Anna I am so sorry for all you have been through. That is so much for one person to deal with. You are in my prayers.

AnnaS 07-04-2011 08:31 PM

Without highjacking this thread more - My father-n-law passed this morning. :sad1:

AnnaS 07-04-2011 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Southerngirl71 (Post 41711755)
Anna I am so sorry for all you have been through. That is so much for one person to deal with. You are in my prayers.

I (we) am really hanging by a thread most days.
Thank you.

Deesknee 07-25-2011 05:56 PM

Prayers for you and your family. You are way too young to have to experience such heart ache. But remember there would be no heart ache without love. Try to remember how lucky you are to have been surrounded by such love. Hold on the the loving memories. God bless you all.

meggiebeth 08-07-2011 01:53 PM

Awwww... I'm so sorry that you have had such a hard time with all these losses... and at such a young age too. I really don't understand how completely overwhelming it must be to have such bad luck as you and your family have had, but I can empathise a little... I understand what it is like to lose someone you love so dearly. It hurts like no other pain does... and you just can't get rid of it for a while.

I'm sure your life will gradually improve... never give up- and always look for the light at the end of the tunnel. Like others have said- you must be a very brave, strong and admirable woman. :hug:

FunkyFunBuckets 11-10-2011 08:54 PM

Hi everyone just thought I should update this thread and let people now that my aunt passed away at the start of this week and was buried yesterday.

It has been incredibly difficult butane was such a strong woman, she even got to spend on lest holiday in Disney for 3 weeks despite being on oxygen the entire time. She was the sort of person that despite being incredibly ill, she still bought Xmas presents for everyone while she was away despite the fact that she knew she would not make it to Xmas. She was a great friend to me and a fellow Disney fanatic someone I could ramble on about Disney to and she was always as interested as I was. I got to see her one final time before she passed away while she was still herself and for that I am grateful. It will be hard to even think about not having her in my life but I will always remember her and her love for Disney.

Deesknee 11-10-2011 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by FunkyFunBuckets (Post 43210286)
Hi everyone just thought I should update this thread and let people now that my aunt passed away at the start of this week and was buried yesterday.

It has been incredibly difficult butane was such a strong woman, she even got to spend on lest holiday in Disney for 3 weeks despite being on oxygen the entire time. She was the sort of person that despite being incredibly ill, she still bought Xmas presents for everyone while she was away despite the fact that she knew she would not make it to Xmas. She was a great friend to me and a fellow Disney fanatic someone I could ramble on about Disney to and she was always as interested as I was. I got to see her one final time before she passed away while she was still herself and for that I am grateful. It will be hard to even think about not having her in my life but I will always remember her and her love for Disney.

I'm sorry for your loss.

AnnaS 11-11-2011 04:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by FunkyFunBuckets (Post 43210286)
Hi everyone just thought I should update this thread and let people now that my aunt passed away at the start of this week and was buried yesterday.

It has been incredibly difficult butane was such a strong woman, she even got to spend on lest holiday in Disney for 3 weeks despite being on oxygen the entire time. She was the sort of person that despite being incredibly ill, she still bought Xmas presents for everyone while she was away despite the fact that she knew she would not make it to Xmas. She was a great friend to me and a fellow Disney fanatic someone I could ramble on about Disney to and she was always as interested as I was. I got to see her one final time before she passed away while she was still herself and for that I am grateful. It will be hard to even think about not having her in my life but I will always remember her and her love for Disney.

I am so sorry for your loss :hug:


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