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ten822 03-30-2009 07:23 PM

who believes in putting their child on a leash?
I have always frowned upon people who have their kids on leashes in theme parks or malls. But, now that I have a DS2 -I can understand. He likes to walk, is very energetic, tends to run off, etc.. My DD4 was never a problem. She loved being held and loved the stroller. I am debating about whether or not to get a leash for DS this coming trip. Any input? And do they sell them in the Disney parks for a reasonable price?

TENIA66 03-30-2009 07:26 PM

Watch out for the flames!!!! I believe in putting my child for safety on a lease. That helps prevent separation in the crowds and increases security. Ok, so flame me, I just don't think that compromising a childs safety is second to others negative opinions.

DisneyCowgirl 03-30-2009 07:30 PM

I don't understand the flames people get for this. You know your child best and know if he will be happier with the leash than with being forced to hold a hand or be in the stroller. If you are going to do it though, get it before the trip and practice with it first.

okeydokey 03-30-2009 07:31 PM

I personally never had to but every child is different. You need to do what you feel best about. When I was little we lived in Boston and my mom didn't have a car. She would need to take my brother and I down to Broadway in Southie to get groceries or go to the bank and I was in the stroller and he was on the leash. We were only 11 months apart and she couldn't chance him running into traffic. It worked!

maddiesmom0116 03-30-2009 07:32 PM

This should be an interesting and heated thread. I used to make fun of and look down on those parents that used a leash. That was all before having kids. I can see why people may need them. I bought a wrist one for when my DD was learning to walk as I am very tall and it was hard for her to reach my hand to hold it, I was always bending over to walk. I didn't use it often or for long, but I can understand it better now. I also worry about her getting away from me even now. She is very well behaved and won't run off, but it is a scary world and I am sure people use this as a safety more than a necessity.

koima 03-30-2009 07:32 PM

We have a "hand holder" - kind if like a leash between two bracelets - and doggy backpack leash for my wanderer, 3.5 years old. I hate the idea of it, but in practicality, I hate the idea of losing him more. He refuses to ride in a stroller and is easily distractible, and FAST. He *loves* his doggy backpack and will often ask to wear it around the house. He has worn it at flea markets and crowded events with no problem.

I took him to an open house at the School for the Deaf (I'm an ASL student) and got a lot of mean looks - I kept signing, "He's hearing, but he's fast!" They didn't like the idea of a leash on a deaf kid but laughed that I had my hearing kid on a leash!

poohnpigletCA 03-30-2009 07:34 PM

Tread lightly. There are many of us that have special needs children that use leashes for safety reasons. My dd would bolt in crowds at Disneyland and was non-verbal at the time. She was also tall for her age which led to many pleasant looks and comments from strangers. :scared:

I purchased her leash at Wal-Mart. It was worth the negative looks to keep her safe.

I also frowned on leashes until I had a child who needed one. I also frowned on children being at a theme park or mall with a Nintendo, I also understand that now.

ILuvMulan 03-30-2009 07:37 PM

A leash was my best friend!!! But I had a different situation. I had a 17 month old and newborn twins. By the time they were 3 & 4 they were tired of the triple stroller and wanted to walk by themselves. The leash was the greatest invention ever. I did not like the idea before I had my own children, but in this day and age... you have to do what is best for your child to insure his safety. Forget everybody else.

nessz79 03-30-2009 07:39 PM

I never needed a leash for my oldest son, but used one for my youngest when we went to Disney. People that flame rarely have very active children, I have found.

sigmasal 03-30-2009 07:40 PM

I am debating getting something of the nature for my dd 3 & 1/2. She's a runner and we've had a code Adam called at Wal-mart and Kohl's in the past few months. She just gets excited and runs and LOVES TO HIDE. My friend that is going with us forbids me to do this but I'm really nervous about her running off!

tinkerlisa 03-30-2009 08:09 PM

Watch out for the flames on here!!!

I am one of those people who thought they were horrible!!! Until now. I have a 19 month old that DOES NOT LISTEN!!! But then again when do they ever listen?:rotfl: I am purchasing a harness for my son for our D.C. trip in two weeks and plan on using it on our Disney trip in September. I have been trying to teach him to hold hands to no avail.
Someone showed me this harness:

I am hoping that by me not holding onto a "leash" I can concentrate more on teaching him to hold my hand.

Also, this topic has been hotly debated on here. Someone once said this: "You hold your hand up for an hour straight and tell me you're not cranky because your arm is tired". That IS what it's like for a toddler holding your hand.

chrisw127 03-30-2009 08:18 PM

We used them at Disney on our twins who were 20 months old at the time. I would say that in general, most of the looks we got were looks of amusement or understanding. I know there are some people who don't approve, but those leashes gave my twins a little bit of freedom and made them happy. I figure there are always going to be people who are judgmental about your parenting decisions, but only you are the one who has to suffer the consequences.

Do what you feel is right and have a wonderful time.

TheRatPack 03-30-2009 08:23 PM

I used to be against them until we adopted a independent 3 year old. He also has RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) so if he got loose and got to a perfect stranger, he'd go home with them and just go on and on about how his parents were horrible people and to never take him back LOL It's really not a laughing matter on most days, but when we're at Disney, the backpack Monkey leash is a peace keeper, sanity saver...etc. He does not want to hold our hands, does not want to ride in a stroller and as I said, doesn't even really want to be with his family most of the while I used to think that they weren't really necessary if you had trained your child I realize that it's not about that at all.

It's funny the things you used to have strong opinions on you change over time and you find yourself eating your own words LOL

kymmyk13 03-30-2009 08:28 PM

My DD4 will be on a leash when we are at disney next month. SHe has Oppositional Defience disorder, anxiety issues and ADHD. She is a runner and since my husband is not coming this is the only way I will be able to handle her. She loves her leash it is monkey and the leash part is the monkey's tail.

Mama to Three 03-30-2009 08:34 PM

I too used to frown upon it, but after having a bolter I feel badly for any thoughts I ever had about those who "leashed" their kiddos. My bad. Once I walked the walk I didn't care what people thought. I knew I was leaving with my little one no matter what and to me that is really all that mattered! :rotfl:

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