NeuroCindy
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jul 23, 2014
I've tried to take a step back and really look at this situation objectively and logically instead of emotionally. I think that the problem from "our side" (for lack of a better word) is three-fold, and I hope that mods/admins will take the time to understand what I'm saying (not that it really changes your behavior [or that your behavior needs to change]).
1) we have some posts lately that feel like they're attacking our friends or something we love (the podcasters/podcasts), that feel tiresome/pugnacious (not that they necessarily are intended to be) and it gets people riled up to defend the people we view as friends and the thing we love;
2) while the mods are applying the rules fairly (and I'm going with that they are, even though I'm not behind the scenes) it feels like they're not to some, getting people riled up
3) It feels like we're not being listened to when we speak up. I am sure that any emails/messages/reports are read, and I understand your hands are bound by TOS. I was a mod on a large board (approx. 25k daily active users), I understand how important it is to go strictly by what the TOS are, I appreciate that. But I also hope it can be understood or appreciated how frustrating it is when there's something that person A is upset about and they email an admin/mod and are told to ignore it. I understand why that is the answer, so I hope everyone can see the other side too.
So you have people that are upset, feel like they are being treated unfairly, and feel like their concerns are ignored. Is it any wonder there's tension lately?
I think the question is how do you fix it, because to fix it I think all 3 points need to be addressed and using the ignore feature really only deals with #1. I'm going to have to think about this to see if I can come up with any solutions.
I think one thing that could help is if we all think about how we're phrasing things, especially maybe over the next few weeks, and try to make an effort to be kinder or less cutting in posts. The flip side of that is that I think it would help if we all try not to read tone into posts. It's very easy to read a post and hear it as pugnacious, condescending, rude, etc. It takes just as long to write a post giving constructive criticism as it does writing a post that is cutting criticism.
I will be the first to admit that when things are going wrong in my "real life" that it leaks into my posts. Currently I'm dealing with watching my dissertation crumble and my dept. chair being... not-so-magical, and so I'm trying very hard not to let my frustration with that leak onto the boards (seriously, it took me over an hour to write this trying to make sure it wasn't snarky sounding). So that's something I am trying to do to help with the current tension.
TL;DR: People want their frustration acknowledged, let's all try to get along and think about what we write.
1) we have some posts lately that feel like they're attacking our friends or something we love (the podcasters/podcasts), that feel tiresome/pugnacious (not that they necessarily are intended to be) and it gets people riled up to defend the people we view as friends and the thing we love;
2) while the mods are applying the rules fairly (and I'm going with that they are, even though I'm not behind the scenes) it feels like they're not to some, getting people riled up
3) It feels like we're not being listened to when we speak up. I am sure that any emails/messages/reports are read, and I understand your hands are bound by TOS. I was a mod on a large board (approx. 25k daily active users), I understand how important it is to go strictly by what the TOS are, I appreciate that. But I also hope it can be understood or appreciated how frustrating it is when there's something that person A is upset about and they email an admin/mod and are told to ignore it. I understand why that is the answer, so I hope everyone can see the other side too.
So you have people that are upset, feel like they are being treated unfairly, and feel like their concerns are ignored. Is it any wonder there's tension lately?
I think the question is how do you fix it, because to fix it I think all 3 points need to be addressed and using the ignore feature really only deals with #1. I'm going to have to think about this to see if I can come up with any solutions.
I think one thing that could help is if we all think about how we're phrasing things, especially maybe over the next few weeks, and try to make an effort to be kinder or less cutting in posts. The flip side of that is that I think it would help if we all try not to read tone into posts. It's very easy to read a post and hear it as pugnacious, condescending, rude, etc. It takes just as long to write a post giving constructive criticism as it does writing a post that is cutting criticism.
I will be the first to admit that when things are going wrong in my "real life" that it leaks into my posts. Currently I'm dealing with watching my dissertation crumble and my dept. chair being... not-so-magical, and so I'm trying very hard not to let my frustration with that leak onto the boards (seriously, it took me over an hour to write this trying to make sure it wasn't snarky sounding). So that's something I am trying to do to help with the current tension.
TL;DR: People want their frustration acknowledged, let's all try to get along and think about what we write.