andiraye
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- Jun 24, 2014
To respond to the original question, the opposite thing happens to me all the time. An explanation...
I grew up very comfortably but my parents started to go through some hard times when I was in late high school/college -- their small business failed, they had to sell the house we grew up in, move to a much smaller house in a different town, lost a bunch of friends (who obviously weren't really their friends at all) and had to completely readjust their way of living. They had both started out with nothing and that's pretty much where they ended up. But in between they had given my brother and me a very comfortable childhood. So I went from having all my needs AND wants met all the time to suddenly, all at once, having to put myself through school, learning where they sold half priced sandwiches at the end of the day, not being able to do anything that my friends were doing, losing my own friends because I couldn't afford to chip in on gifts...it was a shock, let me tell you!
Consequently, from all of this, as a young adult, I learned the hard way how to support myself and maintain a budget. Even though my life is much more comfortable now, I will NEVER live outside my means. I pretty much only buy things on sale. My clothing and my kids' clothing consists largely of hand-me-downs. And I am always asking myself before I buy something if I need it or want it (in fact, I 've had to learn that it's okay to give into a "want" sometimes).
BUT, I still have the aesthetic of someone who was raised very comfortably -- put simply, I look much more well-to-do than I am (my grandmother, who always had very little, was the same way -- it must be something in our genes!). So people always assume I have MORE money than I do. Same goes for my husband -- he's very chiseled and carries himself in a particular way. People JACK UP the prices when they see us. It's kind of funny, but also very annoying! There were definitely some weird moments when we went to trade in our 11 year old car....
I grew up very comfortably but my parents started to go through some hard times when I was in late high school/college -- their small business failed, they had to sell the house we grew up in, move to a much smaller house in a different town, lost a bunch of friends (who obviously weren't really their friends at all) and had to completely readjust their way of living. They had both started out with nothing and that's pretty much where they ended up. But in between they had given my brother and me a very comfortable childhood. So I went from having all my needs AND wants met all the time to suddenly, all at once, having to put myself through school, learning where they sold half priced sandwiches at the end of the day, not being able to do anything that my friends were doing, losing my own friends because I couldn't afford to chip in on gifts...it was a shock, let me tell you!
Consequently, from all of this, as a young adult, I learned the hard way how to support myself and maintain a budget. Even though my life is much more comfortable now, I will NEVER live outside my means. I pretty much only buy things on sale. My clothing and my kids' clothing consists largely of hand-me-downs. And I am always asking myself before I buy something if I need it or want it (in fact, I 've had to learn that it's okay to give into a "want" sometimes).
BUT, I still have the aesthetic of someone who was raised very comfortably -- put simply, I look much more well-to-do than I am (my grandmother, who always had very little, was the same way -- it must be something in our genes!). So people always assume I have MORE money than I do. Same goes for my husband -- he's very chiseled and carries himself in a particular way. People JACK UP the prices when they see us. It's kind of funny, but also very annoying! There were definitely some weird moments when we went to trade in our 11 year old car....