Not sure where to post this, so apologies. And apologies for a very long post, but I need to vent and seek wisdom from the board.
I have been pretty excited about my family's first trip to the world. Daughter is 4YO, son is 2YO (actually both would say "and a half!" and be right). All were pretty excited about the trip, particularly about seeing Mickey Mouse in the flesh. They also want to see his clubhouse, but I have warned that his clubhouse is somewhere else.
My daughter has never been into the princesses, and she is downright scared of Elsa due to her "magic powers." As a 3YO she "froze" in terror when she saw Elsa at a birthday party, but we just avoided Elsa at the time.
I thought it had worn off, but just this last week, right before we leave, she brought it back up. Says she scared about the trip because she doesn't want to see Elsa (which really simplifies my trip planning to be honest). I reassured her that we could avoid Elsa, that Elsa is nice, that she saved her sister in the end, that Elsa has her powers under control at the end of the movie, and that Elsa probably wears gloves at DW anyway (was wrong about the last fact). But bottom line, I was trying to keep it under control without (1) spoiling anything, but also (2) not outright lying by saying Elsa is real. It was a fine balance, but I was working on it. I had her excited about Mickey and everyone else, and I also was relieved about not having to squeeze in a trip to DHS for the last few days of frozen summer fun. (Off topic, I have at least one or two FP+ to Meet Anna and Elsa, probably will switch out of those soon!)
Then yesterday--3 days before we are in the Kingdom--my mom spoils the mystery of it when she was watching the kids. To reassure my daughter, she said "don't worry, Elsa isn't real. It's just a person in a costume." My daughter told me about it today. I let it die because I didn't know how to handle it. She's a pretty smart girl, so I think she will deduce that (1) all of the other characters are likely people in costumes; and (2) if she continues on the path, I may lose the mystery on Santa and all of the others later this year.
My question to you all, other than the need to let this frustration out to someone, is: What, if anything, should I do?
I'm inclined not to bring it back up and only address it if she does. Picking at a scab just makes it worse, and she might start thinking about it in a more thoughtful manner if I try to jump in with an explanation.
I'm also hesitant to outright lie about anything. I was hoping to be able to side step questions for the next few years with the whole "Well, what do you think? Do you think X is real? Does he/she seem real?" So if the subject comes up (or if I raise it), I don't know if I can say: "Grandma was wrong; everyone at Disney is real. Believe because Daddy wants to see that magic in your eyes."
I know I'm likely overreacting on all this. I can take the criticism if you coat it with a kind word. I just really wanted the first trip to have that "magic" that only a 4YO believing it is true can feel. It may even be more about me than her or her brother. She will still have a blast, and so will I. But if this unravels to nix Santa as well . . .
Thanks in advance. Apologies again.
I have been pretty excited about my family's first trip to the world. Daughter is 4YO, son is 2YO (actually both would say "and a half!" and be right). All were pretty excited about the trip, particularly about seeing Mickey Mouse in the flesh. They also want to see his clubhouse, but I have warned that his clubhouse is somewhere else.
My daughter has never been into the princesses, and she is downright scared of Elsa due to her "magic powers." As a 3YO she "froze" in terror when she saw Elsa at a birthday party, but we just avoided Elsa at the time.
I thought it had worn off, but just this last week, right before we leave, she brought it back up. Says she scared about the trip because she doesn't want to see Elsa (which really simplifies my trip planning to be honest). I reassured her that we could avoid Elsa, that Elsa is nice, that she saved her sister in the end, that Elsa has her powers under control at the end of the movie, and that Elsa probably wears gloves at DW anyway (was wrong about the last fact). But bottom line, I was trying to keep it under control without (1) spoiling anything, but also (2) not outright lying by saying Elsa is real. It was a fine balance, but I was working on it. I had her excited about Mickey and everyone else, and I also was relieved about not having to squeeze in a trip to DHS for the last few days of frozen summer fun. (Off topic, I have at least one or two FP+ to Meet Anna and Elsa, probably will switch out of those soon!)
Then yesterday--3 days before we are in the Kingdom--my mom spoils the mystery of it when she was watching the kids. To reassure my daughter, she said "don't worry, Elsa isn't real. It's just a person in a costume." My daughter told me about it today. I let it die because I didn't know how to handle it. She's a pretty smart girl, so I think she will deduce that (1) all of the other characters are likely people in costumes; and (2) if she continues on the path, I may lose the mystery on Santa and all of the others later this year.
My question to you all, other than the need to let this frustration out to someone, is: What, if anything, should I do?
I'm inclined not to bring it back up and only address it if she does. Picking at a scab just makes it worse, and she might start thinking about it in a more thoughtful manner if I try to jump in with an explanation.
I'm also hesitant to outright lie about anything. I was hoping to be able to side step questions for the next few years with the whole "Well, what do you think? Do you think X is real? Does he/she seem real?" So if the subject comes up (or if I raise it), I don't know if I can say: "Grandma was wrong; everyone at Disney is real. Believe because Daddy wants to see that magic in your eyes."
I know I'm likely overreacting on all this. I can take the criticism if you coat it with a kind word. I just really wanted the first trip to have that "magic" that only a 4YO believing it is true can feel. It may even be more about me than her or her brother. She will still have a blast, and so will I. But if this unravels to nix Santa as well . . .
Thanks in advance. Apologies again.