I am lactose-intolerant, but I don't have it noted on our ADRs. Maybe I have a milder case, as I can eat some dairy and generally baked goods aren't a problem unless cream-filled or such. I just find it much easier to manage my own choices than rely on what a restaurant might recommend. I've found that more often than not, they will err on the side of caution and treat my lactose-intolerance as a full-blown dairy allergy, thereby not allowing me to order anything with dairy. I've tried the lactaid pills or chews but didn't find they worked well for me. I simply avoid the obvious dairy-containing foods such as ice cream, pudding, cheese toppings, cream fillings, etc. and self-regulate based on how I am feeling that day.
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