Spinoff of wedding thread, did you elope?

wishesuponastar · May 25, 2015

pLease share your story.

I did not but wanted to go to Hawaii to get married there but fiance did not agree. It would be his first wedding and he said his parents would be mad If we eloped. Now, almost 20 years later DH says we should have went to Hawaii. It would not have been a secret elopement, we would have told people.

Chelley00 · May 25, 2015

We were going to elope (while we were on a planned trip to see a friend who moved out of state) but our parents caught wind of it. We had know each other since elementary school and our parents were best friends and said they had waited too long to miss out on seeing us get married

With that said, we had a very laid back wedding at a lake and after a picnic dinner our families changed into *play clothes* and went swimming, played baseball and volleyball, went hiking etc. We get compliments all the time about how much fun everyone had at our wedding and it was so fun to see our families, most of whom were old high school friends, just hang out together. I'm really glad now we didn't elope.

Bluestars · May 25, 2015

I wanted to elope, but my husband wanted a wedding because of his parents. I would have been perfectly happy slipping away and having a ceremony with just the two of us. Preferably on the beach in bare feet. Maybe at sunrise or sunset. Something peaceful.

ronandannette · May 25, 2015

I can't help noticing that the Groom's parents are getting a bad wrap for preventing brides from doing what they wanted. As the mom of an only DS, I wouldn't dream of interfering with his future wedding plans, whatever they may be. I'll go on record as saying I'd be fine with an elopement - I'd actually prefer it to something over-the-top elaborate or a destination wedding, but when the time comes you'll find me wearing beige and keeping my mouth shut.

runsandjumps · May 25, 2015

Yes we did elope. I am recommending that when my children are ready they do the same. We got to travel instead of paying for a wedding.

kimblebee · May 25, 2015

I wanted to go to city hall but they don't do weddings at ours so, we did the next best thing..immediate family only in my parents sunroom.

DeaverTex · May 25, 2015

My father-in-law to be offered me twenty dollars and the use of a ladder to elope. He said that HIS future father-in-law had offered him five dollars and the use of a ladder, but he took inflation into account.

wishesuponastar · May 25, 2015

Hahaha Tex!

Miskey · May 25, 2015

Yes, we eloped. We decided to get married in the morning, and by the afternoon we were married by a JP

meowser · May 25, 2015

Yep! Or more accurately, we had an intimate destination wedding for 2. It was planned and our families and friends knew about it. We were married in New Orleans in the parlor of the hotel we were staying at. We wanted to do it in the courtyard but it rained. We grabbed the woman who was cleaning and the man behind the desk as our witnesses. I gave our camera to the front desk guy and he took several photos. Afterwards we went to dinner at Commander's Palace - one of the best meals of our lives.

We did have a dinner for our immediate family a few month's later.

No regrets!!

bigbabyblues · May 25, 2015

No, but I wanted to. DH was fine with it, but my grandpa wasn't. He wasn't demanding at all, just sad that he wouldn't get to see it. He raised me as his own, and I am still his little girl at 38 years old. We decided on a very small wedding for family only and my two best friends--probably 20 people total.

mnrose · May 25, 2015

Yes, I think you could consider that my DH and I eloped. We'd been living together for a few years. I was in law school. DH was working and had medical insurance, which I could get only if I was married to him. So, we decided we would. We went down to the courthouse on a Tuesday night and got married. We each had a friend attend, but that was it. My MIL was THRILLED. My parents not so much. LOL.

minnie mum · May 25, 2015

Nope. But my father offered us a rather large cheque if we eloped instead of having a church wedding and full reception. He ended up spending about the equivalent amount on the wedding anyway. He made the same offer to my sister. She took the money and eloped.

sonnyjane · May 25, 2015

wishesuponastar said:
pLease share your story.

I did not but wanted to go to Hawaii to get married there but fiance did not agree. It would be his first wedding and he said his parents would be mad If we eloped. Now, almost 20 years later DH says we should have went to Hawaii. It would not have been a secret elopement, we would have told people.

I feel that "elope" implies that we ran off and nobody knew. That's not true. Everyone was aware on both sides of our family - we just didn't want a big family wedding. He and I went to Maui just the two of us, got married, then stayed for a week as our honeymoon. We had a photographer and sent photos out to family after the fact. We don't regret it for a second. I can't imagine having spent the money and stress on a big wedding!

The Mystery Machine · May 26, 2015

We got married at the courthouse by the JP. Most of my family was there and we went to Olive Garden afterwards.

DawnM · May 26, 2015

No, my parents would have been horrified if we had eloped as they firmly believe a wedding must be performed by an ordained minister to be legit (religiously legit not legally.)

However, our wedding was very modest and cost around $5,000 total and we have now been married 20 years.

I don't think weddings have to be huge events that cost a fortune, I don't think it is "have a wedding OR afford X."

We know a lovely young couple who just married. She chose to marry on a Monday night, have only 50 people, and have a very light catered dinner. It was lovely (I wasn't invited but I saw pictures.)

Gumbo4x4 · May 26, 2015

No, but we should have.

undertheradar · May 26, 2015

Yes, married at a wedding chapel in Ft Lauderdale. We've been married for 26 years this September. No regrets.

MrsDuck · May 26, 2015

DH wanted to elope but I knew my parents would be devastated and I really wanted a wedding. We settled on a Disney wedding.

FlightlessDuck · May 26, 2015

Sort of. Basically. We had a last-minute slap dash ceremony thrown together. There was basically some family invited, and that was it.

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