Justifying a Solo Trip

WouldRatherBeInWDW · May 4, 2015

I love going to WDW with my family, but I would give anything to have just a few days there to myself. It would be nice to shop and eat and take soak in all of the atmosphere without having to worry about what anyone else wants to do.

I haven't brought up the topic with my husband yet and I'm not even sure how to start the conversation. We could afford to send just me, so that wouldn't be the issue. We would have to figure out some logistics, like getting our boys on and off of the school bus (on any school days) and getting me to and from the airport. But I'm sure we could think of something.

But how do I justify taking such a big trip alone?

MatzoBelle · May 4, 2015

Can the desire for a vacation be justification enough? Life is short. You have the money. You will cause only minor inconvenience to others. Your husband may enjoy a vacation on his own at some point, too. May I ask whom you need to justify it to? Wanting it is reason enough to try to make it happen as long as no one is made to suffer as a result. Will someone resent you? I doubt you are someone who takes more than she gives. Live (joy)fully.

Alyssia · May 6, 2015

MatzoBelle said:
Can the desire for a vacation be justification enough? Life is short. You have the money. You will cause only minor inconvenience to others. Your husband may enjoy a vacation on his own at some point, too. May I ask whom you need to justify it to? Wanting it is reason enough to try to make it happen as long as no one is made to suffer as a result. Will someone resent you? I doubt you are someone who takes more than she gives. Live (joy)fully.

Alyssia · May 6, 2015

I am going all alone may 8-10th 2015. I usually take my son but this time it will be me myself and I.

com_op_2000 · May 6, 2015

IMHO, Figure out just one thing that you would like to do now that due to having kids and DH around would prevent you from doing if they were there. That can be the start of the reasons for going solo.

FosterLovesMickey · May 6, 2015

My justification was that I, occasionally, need time alone … that could have been anywhere … but, why not Disney?? I felt a little pang of guilt leaving my girls - but, in the end - I reminded myself that they do things without me too (they are both teens)… so, i felt justified. Hope you get to go and that you have a great time!

experiment_6two6 · May 7, 2015

I agree, I don't think there is anything wrong with going alone. All the added benefits of not having to worry about other people is fantastic.

I think the biggest problem I'd have is the reactions I'd get for wanting to go by myself, but in the end it is a trip for me, so as long as I'm happy, they should be happy for me.

goofyintoronto · May 7, 2015

experiment_6two6 said:
I agree, I don't think there is anything wrong with going alone. All the added benefits of not having to worry about other people is fantastic.

I think the biggest problem I'd have is the reactions I'd get for wanting to go by myself, but in the end it is a trip for me, so as long as I'm happy, they should be happy for me.

ha ha. yes, you nailed it! My friends look at me like I have twelve heads when I tell them im interested (DYING) to go alone. :lmao:

They just dont get it.

OP, i'd just be straight with your DH. Just tell him you'd like to go away for a few days ALONE. Its something you've always wanted to do. Simple as that. Good luck!

Mortlives · May 7, 2015

I understand the need for justification. DH is all for my solo trip since he just started a new job and can't get away for the rest of this year, but he knows that travel is how I recharge. But I still feel guilty that I am spending all this money just for me.

That's not stopping me, mind you. :maleficen

gap2368 · May 7, 2015

I just came back form a solo trip and it was the best thing ever besides a trip to the ER and EMT being called on me 2x thanks to a medical problems that I have that decided to act up. But being able to do things when I wanted to and for how long was great. I got to talk to other guess and cast members a little more then I would have other wise. I had such a great time I have booked my next solo trip for MNSHP.

as fair as the kids and buss stop and getting them there is there someone that you can pay to help with that you might be able to find a college student to walk your kids to the buss stop it the mornings and evenings it would be easy for them and I do not think it would cost much and for the air port you could get a taxi to take you or maybe a friend

I hope you enjoy your trip

Maleficent Dragon · May 10, 2015

WouldRatherBeInWDW said:
I love going to WDW with my family, but I would give anything to have just a few days there to myself. It would be nice to shop and eat and take soak in all of the atmosphere without having to worry about what anyone else wants to do.

I haven't brought up the topic with my husband yet and I'm not even sure how to start the conversation. We could afford to send just me, so that wouldn't be the issue. We would have to figure out some logistics, like getting our boys on and off of the school bus (on any school days) and getting me to and from the airport. But I'm sure we could think of something.

But how do I justify taking such a big trip alone?

I do not understand why you would have to justify wanting something for yourself? I do not know your husband or family, though.

My husband knows that I work hard at work as well as home. He knows I love him and our daughter first. He also knows that I really enjoy my Disney vacations. When I tell my husband I am ready for a Disney trip, that usually means without him because he is not a big fan of the parks. He has never made me feel like I have to justify it. He also knows that I am very cognizant of how we use our money.

LaurelMW · May 10, 2015

WouldRatherBeInWDW · May 11, 2015

Thank you all for your advice! I guess "justify" is too strong of a word.

My husband would have no problem with my taking a well-deserved solo trip. WDW is the one place where I would feel safe alone and my husband wouldn't worry about my safety. I've started pricing a short trip and it would be much cheaper than a long trip for a family of 4.

My boys are really the issue, not my husband. They are 7 and I would have a hard time explaining to them why Mommy gets to go to WDW and they don't. I would definitely be there to do all of the things I can't do when I am there with my family. Maybe if we had a family trip in the works, I wouldn't feel so bad.

My hubby is going to a conference in Annaheim in September and they are actually having an event at DCA. (No, it really wouldn't work for us all to go.) I think right after that trip would be a good time for me to bring it up.

Mortlives · May 11, 2015

WouldRatherBeInWDW said:
Thank you all for your advice! I guess "justify" is too strong of a word.

My husband would have no problem with my taking a well-deserved solo trip. WDW is the one place where I would feel safe alone and my husband wouldn't worry about my safety. I've started pricing a short trip and it would be much cheaper than a long trip for a family of 4.

My boys are really the issue, not my husband. They are 7 and I would have a hard time explaining to them why Mommy gets to go to WDW and they don't. I would definitely be there to do all of the things I can't do when I am there with my family. Maybe if we had a family trip in the works, I wouldn't feel so bad.

My hubby is going to a conference in Annaheim in September and they are actually having an event at DCA. (No, it really wouldn't work for us all to go.) I think right after that trip would be a good time for me to bring it up.

Maybe you could tell the boys you are going to do "research" for your next family trip.

Sir William · May 11, 2015

WouldRatherBeInWDW said:
I love going to WDW with my family, but I would give anything to have just a few days there to myself. It would be nice to shop and eat and take soak in all of the atmosphere without having to worry about what anyone else wants to do.

I haven't brought up the topic with my husband yet and I'm not even sure how to start the conversation. We could afford to send just me, so that wouldn't be the issue. We would have to figure out some logistics, like getting our boys on and off of the school bus (on any school days) and getting me to and from the airport. But I'm sure we could think of something.

But how do I justify taking such a big trip alone?

Arrange a swap. You go to WDW for a few days to relax and recharge, and in return he gets to do something he wants for a few days. I do a 5-day camping trip every spring, and DW does a girls' week at the beach during the summer.

Mortlives · May 11, 2015

On re-reading your OP, have you considered just talking to DH, and proposing that you all go, but you get a couple of days where he takes the boys off (Guys' Days), and you can go on your own and do your own thing? You could meet up at the end of the day and compare notes. Of course, ignore this suggestion if you also want a room to yourself.

DisneySince1967 · May 27, 2015

A Mom's Mental Health Day, perfect! Perhaps mentioning to your boys several of the attractions and activities on your agenda that would bore them to tears?

Jadyreen1282 · Jun 1, 2015

I went solo in the nineties. Nope. Never doing it again. Just something about Disney that means "share" to me. when you're sitting at HDDR by yourself it just seems lonely. Sorry for downer post. Feel free to beat me.

BagOLaughs · Jun 4, 2015

WouldRatherBeInWDW said:
I love going to WDW with my family, but I would give anything to have just a few days there to myself. It would be nice to shop and eat and take soak in all of the atmosphere without having to worry about what anyone else wants to do.

I haven't brought up the topic with my husband yet and I'm not even sure how to start the conversation. We could afford to send just me, so that wouldn't be the issue. We would have to figure out some logistics, like getting our boys on and off of the school bus (on any school days) and getting me to and from the airport. But I'm sure we could think of something.

But how do I justify taking such a big trip alone?

There has to be a point in your life that you do something for youself. Everyone is different but for the most part I think taking time off/away from your family and/or SO is a positive thing.

We do it all the time, I'll go on holiday without my partner and he'll do the same. Doesn't mean we don't like spending time together, quite the opposite!

Go and have fun! :figment:

madame_jedi · Jun 15, 2015

If you are a mom, you already have all the justification you need! As a childless, single woman I have the highest respect for mothers and everything they do. You have more than earned the time off. GO!!! And have an amazing time.

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