1 thing? Write. It. Down. All of it.
sit down,with a calculator and a pencil and a notebook- on one page write down your total income. gross,and Net. That is how much money you have to spend for the entire year,on everything. Now divide that (net) number by 12. That is how much you have to spend monthly,TOTAL.
Now you can add another line, divide THAT last number by 4,that is the average amount you can spend weekly,Total.
Now you know how much you can spend, comes the fun part.
Next page- write down your Monthly expenses,from most important,to least. (obviously mortgage and food is at the top) Write it ALL. from your roof over your head to a coffee at Starbucks.
Now is a good time to look at the previous page,and compare the 2 monthly numbers, (income vs. outgo) Now it is really simple to see, are you spending more than you bring in?
Now you have an idea of your monthly status(this includes paying loans off,etc in that amount) and you can now decide what can/needs to be cut out,in order to "balance your books".
For some,this may be a scary thing to start,b/c it involves actually knowing where you stand, but it is empowering, b/c now you know where you stand!
The next pages in your notebook are an ongoing project. First you decide if you need to adjust your spending,to make it all fit.(most people do) The you decide where you can adjust it (most people can)
Then you *NEXT PAGE* write out your general plan to stick to. This doesn't mean you have no money,it means you want your money to be used how you decide.
Then you start a new page,one that keeps a running tab of every thing that goes in/out of your budget. (usually once or twice a week is enough once you get used to it) know your running 'household balance'. After a few months of running that monthly budget page, you will see more clearly where you can/should adjust to make things work.
Budgets are so freeing..... it doesn't mean 'being cheap' it means choosing where and how to spend your own income.
(how to spend down debt is a 2nd issue here, but you have to work it into your overall written budget anyway,so my 1 point stays the same
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