We have been getting along really well lately and I don't want to rock the boat. In order to accomplish my goal of ending this thing peacefully I need to be considerate. It took a lot to get her turned around and to be on the same page, I can't ruin it now. What she does and what I do are totally different. She has been with other guys already. I can't bring myself to even go on a date (not that I have many women beating down my door) at this point. It just doesn't feel right. That's just one example.
Okay, that's fair. And I'm really glad to hear that you guys have come to some form of understanding. I think if you guys are going to do a 50-50 time split with the kids, you're going to need to have that worked out ahead of time - else it become a hostile prisoner exchange sort of time that everyone dreads.
Go get the new sneakers. It helps. I could not wait to run in my new sneakers. It was nice talking to the woman working at the running store. It got me excited. (Although I think she was wrong about the Newport races being cancelled as the 1/2 is part of that 4 race challenge I am considering). Got my running socks, reflective vest, and I ordered my new armband to fit my phone. I am ready to go. Do something for yourself.
It's amazing how much new stuff motivates you! I agree that the running store employees can be infectious when it comes to their enthusiasm.
I found a few more very appealing races to run. I am working on which ones I will do and sign up soon. I read some reviews on the company that does the races for the 4 race challenge and they are not the greatest. Seems they are very unorganized. If not for running along the ocean I wouldn't even consider them.
Can't wait to hear your plans!
I used to be a Mt. Dew addict in my teens and early 20's. Blech. She is going to just have to take responsibility for how she eats despite the people around here. It's hard but you can't help with that. Is she on an antidepressant? If not, that may help give her a boost. Truly there is not a lot you can do besides what you are doing. You sound like an amazing friend and are likely a motivating factor, more than you realize.
In my state, the testing is being used inappropriately against the schools and teachers. That is the biggest problem I have with it. Besides, why should a 3rd grader have to take a 13.5 hour test? It's crazy.
Thank you. I honestly can't imagine being hooked on Mountain Dew. I never could stand the taste, and I honestly don't like most sodas anyway. I know I can't do much more than listen and so that's what I'm trying to do.
Agreed on the testing - it's hard to hold teachers accountable when there are so many other factors.
For whatever reason I decided that today is the day that I restart everything. I've been complaining lately that everyone labels me a "strong person" and then uses that against me, meaning acting as if I don't need support because I am "strong". Anyway, a lesson I had to learn a long time ago (and apparently forgot) is that I need to do stuff for me as well as the rest of my family/friends/patients. I had stopped going to Zumba because I felt like my kids needed me a lot at that time. And they still do. But instead of being able to take care of them, I've found that I have joined them in the dumps and lost myself. So I am going to pick myself up and start caring for me. The rest will fall into place.
It's funny, I was thinking about this exact thing when I was running tonight and was going to say it to you.
Can I just say how proud I am of you two for coming to this realization? You need to write it down and put it somewhere you will see it when you're struggling. One of the things the Navy teaches is "Ship-Shipmate-Self" It's sort of like the "I'm third" movement that runs around. I understand the basic mindset behind that thought, but I've come to think that it's backwards. If you haven't got yourself taken care of - health, mental stability, financial, (add in family when I'm talking about Navy stuff), and/or you don't take care of your shipmates, then you aren't going to be focused on the job at hand. So I've always told the people who work for me that they have to take care of themselves and take care of the people around them, and that by doing that, the ship will be taken care of, too. I think the same goes for families, too.
It's been a pretty motivating day for me. I managed 3/4 of a pull-up unassisted this morning, ran 7 miles this afternoon, and started an adult ballet class tonight. There was a woman in class who was well over 100 lbs overweight, and she did pretty darn well. I didn't trip over my own feet, much. It had been 30+ years since my last ballet class but I figure if I can't trapeze, I can work on my lines. Anyway, good day and I should sleep well. For your amusement, the things that ran through my head during today's run:
1. It's too hot to run at 1300 today.
2. It's also too crowded with clueless tourists to run on the north side of the river.
3. I don't know how many configurations of three people can take up 20 square feet of sidewalk space, but I think I encountered most of them today.
4. The only reason I don't go bowling for tourists is the fear of being the subject of a "Military Officers Gone Bad" segment on CNN.
5. Sorry, little boy, the Washington Monument is only 78.3* Shaquille O'Neals, not 100, but you were standing at the bottom of the hill, so I'll give it to you.
6. If your small child balks at the mention of One. More. Museum. then give it a rest. Seriously parents, you do not have to visit every single museum on the Mall. Ride the carousel, have a picnic, take a paddle boat out, chase the ducks (not the geese, they're mean), we have some amazing water features to romp in, just stop with the museums already.
6.5 Man, it's hot and I forgot water.
7. I like the Daffodils better than the Cherry Blossoms.
*Yes, I went back to the office and did the math. Because I am a nerd.
So, I won't do that. But, you know you just have to break out of the rut and power through.
Let me know when you start it and what you think. Just not mentally there yet and I know I will have to push my husband into it too. Blah. My dog being gone is dragging me down, but if I am honest with myself, it isn't just that.
