Defending your love of Disney... Really what is it that make people critique your vacation choice

LovesTimone said:
I love Disney, my DH loves Disney, as well as most of my family.pixiedust:

What is it about Disney that some family, friends or co-workers think that they can critique your vacation choice. I just can't understand it..... I am so sick of having to hear why are you going again, or its just the two of you its for kids you know.... Or why would you spend so much on a vacation or its so expensive.. then the... how can you afford it? Why would you stand in line to ride a ride, or its so hot, or crowded or ... or... :scared1: whatever it is they are rambling off...

You should do this or that or whatever.....they think is appropriate for you and your family.

STOP the Madness....

We were with a group of friends( most of our friends love or at least enjoy going to Disney), and one of the group started this with me, and she would not stop... even after I asked her to and then told her to.... this was over a 2 hours period off and on, she kept on and on about how much it cost... she just kept on needling me ...so I had enough... when... I finally just told her that its really none of your business what we do, how we do it, how we afford it. Then I went further to say, DH and I travel a lot to other places and do a lot of other things, why it is that you feel that its okay to criticize our love of Disney? or worry about how we spend our money? ... Which she looked totally shock that I would say anything back :eek:, .... She was then went on to say that we are immature for going there and spending our money in that way... Well... then things got heated... I didn't mince words... I just plainly told her off, by saying I don't criticize the fact that the only trips you take are to the same time-share at the same beach every year, that you don't pay a dime for and you strong arm your in-laws to giving you for free. Or that every time we have a girls trip you wait till the last minute to say your going, and want to room with one of us, after we are paired up and paid for, you want to ride with one of us, you never offer gas money, never want to pay for your part of the hotel... as you put it... its all ready paid for why should you have to pay anything. It's none of your business how we spend our money, and you need to mind your own business and stay out of mine....She walked away at that point, I did apologize to the other ladies for having to listen to all that, but I had just had it at this point. Most of the women there are the ones that I go with on our trips with and said it needed to be said, and you asked her to stop and she was just being nasty.. I was unaware of this other little fact, as our trip is coming up, and she was told last year by another friend that she was welcome to come but she was going to pay her way and not this last minute stuff that she pulls. The girl that plans these trips reminded her earlier at the party when she found out she was trying to get another friend to let her stay with her..

I probably went to far, but I am not sorry about it

How do you handle these kind of people?
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Sounds like your friend is a freeloader who wants to talk you into doing something else so she can glom onto that like she does with your other trips.
 
....I could never understand why people feel the need to give their opinion about other peoples' vacations....isn't vacation something that you do to get away from work, troubles, stress, etc and to make memories, be it in the country, in the woods, camping, at the beach, a cruise, or at WDW, or wherever?
 
kimmar067 said:
....I could never understand why people feel the need to give their opinion about other peoples' vacations....isn't vacation something that you do to get away from work, troubles, stress, etc and to make memories, be it in the country, in the woods, camping, at the beach, a cruise, or at WDW, or wherever?
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You're right. And I know I'm guilty of saying things like, "Eeeww.....why would you want to go camping on vacation?"
 


....I could never understand that either, but if that's what people like to do on vacation, so be it.
 
.....it's funny, but the same people who have something to say about going to WDW ALL THE TIME are the same ones that probably own a beach home or lake house.....and go THERE year after year, after year, after year, after......popcorn:: [ ;) ]
 


kimmar067 said:
.....it's funny, but the same people who have something to say about going to WDW ALL THE TIME are the same ones that probably own a beach home or lake house.....and go THERE year after year, after year, after year, after......popcorn:: [ ;) ]
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Or a tent :hyper:
 
If all else fails...even after the timeless "Why does it bother you what we do with our money for vacation?"...go with the classic:

"The little voices in my head TOLD me to go to WDW".

And turn around and walk away.
 
I guess to some people a WDW vacation is like the "McMansion" of vacations- vanilla, family-oriented, self-contained and tame. That doesn't mean it's bad, it's just a certain taste that happens to have very broad appeal.

But that's just my reflection of the destination in general, not a judgement against people who choose that (and I love WDW very deeply). Personally, if I had money to vacation I'd spend it exploring the rest of the world... but I know that could get difficult and costly for families. Do what makes sense for you and what makes you happy!
 
OP, it sounds like you said what everyone else in your group was thinking with regard to the freeloader. And I would agree that envy is part of the problem...or parsimony. She either can't spend the money on vacations or chooses (or is told) not to spend money on vacations. Therefore putting down your vacation choice makes her feel better.

In the future, so you don't get yourself aggravated, use the line I use. "I don't feel the need to have you approve my vacation choices". No matter what she says, keep repeating that. Eventually she'll realize how ridiculous she sounds and stop.
 
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Honestly I don't care what others think when I yet take another Disney vacation. I don't go around criticizing other people's choices.
 
We rarely discuss our travel plans with anybody that isn't affected by them. Stop telling people what your doing unless you want them to comment. On the occasions I've listened to others describe their upcoming vacations I smile, nod and politely say "have a great time" while inwardly I'm thinking "so what - can we talk about something else now".
 
lustergirl said:
Honestly I don't care what others think when I yet take another Disney vacation. I don't go around criticizing other people's choices.
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I agree. I don't defend my choices to anyone about anything. And I wouldn't surround myself with people that questioned me about stuff that is none of their business.
 
gwynne said:
I think it would hard for me not to laugh. And then I might say, "I'll grab a sheet of paper. Here's a pen. Make a list of what items you authorize us to spend our salary on." :)
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Love, love this idea! Some times humor is the best way to diffuse a potentially heated discussion. That being said, it sounds like this person has issues that make her angry and resentful about a lot of things. I have family members like this; I usually just ignore them....they seem to want to hear themselves talk...cause nobody else listens or responds when they get negative.
 
OP here

As some of the previous poster mentioned, there was a back story or history with this friend. She is for most of the time (in the past) pretty nice and gets along with our group well. But over the last few years she has become quite the pain in the fanny. Along with this she wants to antagonize everyone when we get together. Its like she just decides well... lets see how miserable she can make everyone around her. Its gotten to the point that if she has almost damaged beyond repair all of her friendships with everyone. I know that after our last girls only trip the one of our friends had a heart to heart with her, and tried to find out what was going on, she is also the person who was very direct with her and said no more free trips, you needed and must pay your own way.

After thinking about the way things happened, I still stand by what I said. Thanks for all your support. :disrocks:
 
I get how super insulting it can be. I go to a lot of concerts. I get it too. Then I will be called "groupie" which is ridiculous (there is no single band that I follow) and implies a level of sluttiness, frankly. OR... this one is particularly awesome.... I am "reliving my youth." That implies that I'm trying to act like a kid when I am not (when, in my youth, I never had the money or wherewithal to see this many shows.) And then, like icing on the cake, I, too, get called out on the money thing (we're talking about $20 shows here).

And then it occured to me.... let's change out the concert or Disney thing with SPORTS. Let's say a person has season tickets to see a sports team and spends all season at the stadium. OR perhaps even an expensive cable package during football season so they can sit on their couch and never miss a game. Let's even say the person themselves might spend a lot of time playing hockey or in an unpaid coach position. Do they get the grief we get? No WAY. It's sports, after all.

Keep working on your comebacks. I am.
 
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